parochial families and high school

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Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

I have had my kids in Catholic schools for 10 years and I haven’t ever done any online research on the professions, property records, or financial history of my kids’ classmates. Why do you care? So what if someone has family help, a Catholic school grant, or a high paying job? Why are you doing any research on the finances of anyone in your kids’ school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

You raise eyebrows, judge families and stalk people online? And you’re proud of this?

Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My house isn’t on PropertyIQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My house isn’t on PropertyIQ

That’s smart because there might be some absolute stalker at your school who needs to know everyone’s financial situation to judge whether their tuition financing meets her standards. Make sure you shred your personal documents before they hit the trash because she is doing her research.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the parents floss like they are paying for all of this on their own. Really their own mommy and daddy are paying for it. We have a family like this at our school. The mom went to college but doesn’t work and the dad did not work and is a solidly blue collar worker. Their house is in the mom’s parent’s name and the mom’s parents also pay tuition for the children. This family is applying to all of the same high schools the rest of us are and I presume the wife’s parents are going to foot the bill. The kid thinks she is rich and is always bragging about things her parents give her, vacations, etc. but it is all funded by the grandparents.

Aren’t you charming?

I am, actually. Very. People have no idea what information is available to the public. I can even determine if you have a loan or line of credit against your house. So when people put on pretenses when they are talking to me and their story doesn’t add up, I’m able to compare what they’re saying to the publicly available information and then make a determination of that person’s character and more importantly, his/her veracity. Maybe we know each other?

My parents pay for part of my kids’ Catholic school tuition. They both went to a dozen years of Catholic schools themselves and think that’s really important for their own grandchildren, which has been wonderful. I don’t tell everyone at our school that my parents pay tuition, like all the rest of our personal information I don’t share all of our business with everyone. I share as little as possible with people who are judgmental about a child who is excited about her family’s vacations, I wouldn’t want any kid to be made to feel ashamed about their family finances and I hope everyone can enjoy a family vacation without judgment. What exactly are they teaching at your Catholic school?

Okay, Polyanna. You can also look at people's LinkedIn profiles to guesstimate what they make. Even poor people can afford Catholic school so it is not as impressive if a family can pay for four kids or "buy 3 get 1 free" whatever that is, lol. But in the upper tier schools we definitely raise eyebrows when Joe the blue collar worker who didn't go to college and his unemployed wife show up in my kids class. Also, in this upper tier, especially in the DMV, people are rarely pushing out 4 kids - it is seen as low class. If I see lawyers, doctors and finance or real estate folks, I don't ask questions. Outside of this, I'm doing my research.

We are given a short amount of time on this earth and it goes by so quickly. It is weird to waste time on this stuff. Who cares how people pay the tuition? Good for them for having family that wants to help. That is a nice thing.

[Anonymous]

I wonder this too. I live in a very Catholic neighborhood where most families have at least 3 kids. All send their kids to Gonzaga, Prep, Stone Ridge or Visi. There are lots of young families in recently purchased $2 million homes. None of the moms work. All dads seem to be in real estate or construction. I guess those are more lucrative than I thought.

[Anonymous]

Funny that some posters think 4 children is unusual at a Catholic school. More than 5 gets noticed, but 6, 7, or 8 isn't that unusual. And, I am coming from a normal parish school perspective.

Catholic families will persist for many generations because they produce children above the 2.1 child replacement level. Not a brag. Just an observation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder this too. I live in a very Catholic neighborhood where most families have at least 3 kids. All send their kids to Gonzaga, Prep, Stone Ridge or Visi. There are lots of young families in recently purchased $2 million homes. None of the moms work. All dads seem to be in real estate or construction. I guess those are more lucrative than I thought.

It's mommy and daddy money. Visi has many of the unemployed moms. Stone Ridge has a lot more accomplished moms, i.e., lawyers, judges, doctors, finance, etc. if that makes a difference to you. But you can also make quite a bit in real estate or "construction" (also known being hired into Daddy's business). You will find much less of this type of thing at the Big 3 schools than at the Catholic schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder this too. I live in a very Catholic neighborhood where most families have at least 3 kids. All send their kids to Gonzaga, Prep, Stone Ridge or Visi. There are lots of young families in recently purchased $2 million homes. None of the moms work. All dads seem to be in real estate or construction. I guess those are more lucrative than I thought.

It's mommy and daddy money. Visi has many of the unemployed moms. Stone Ridge has a lot more accomplished moms, i.e., lawyers, judges, doctors, finance, etc. if that makes a difference to you. But you can also make quite a bit in real estate or "construction" (also known being hired into Daddy's business). You will find much less of this type of thing at the Big 3 schools than at the Catholic schools.

A colleague who works part-time lives in a +$2mil house and sends his three kids to GDS on generational wealth built in real estate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been saving our tax returns for years in anticipation of the high school expense. We had three kids in five years.

What does this mean? You don't file?

I assume it means refund. Calm down. You know what it means.

I actually have no way of knowing what people mean when they use the wrong word. PP said she didn't file taxes, not that she saved her refunds (not surprised someone who doesn't know return vs refund gets one each year, though).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been saving our tax returns for years in anticipation of the high school expense. We had three kids in five years.

What does this mean? You don't file?

I assume it means refund. Calm down. You know what it means.

I actually have no way of knowing what people mean when they use the wrong word. PP said she didn't file taxes, not that she saved her refunds (not surprised someone who doesn't know return vs refund gets one each year, though).

Use the context clues. Did you go to public school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been saving our tax returns for years in anticipation of the high school expense. We had three kids in five years.

What does this mean? You don't file?

I assume it means refund. Calm down. You know what it means.

I actually have no way of knowing what people mean when they use the wrong word. PP said she didn't file taxes, not that she saved her refunds (not surprised someone who doesn't know return vs refund gets one each year, though).

Use the context clues. Did you go to public school?

The onus is on PP to be accurate with her words.

PS - public school grads are the ones with lower literacy rates who make this mistake

[Anonymous]

She never said she didn’t file taxes. She said she saved her return to pay future tuition. It is pretty easy to tell the person was saving the refund. Are you always this dense/but still always acting superior in real life? It is a discussion about how people pay tuition…

[Anonymous]

Op put you kid in public

Sex offenses by Priests not a thing.