4 year old pushed teacher at recess

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4 year old pushed an aide at recess after getting upset with a classmate and not calming down. He was sent to the principals office and she had a talk with him about poor decisions. We took away his screen time for today and sent him to bed early and told him if he pushes a teacher again he will lose his iPad permanently. I’m very disappointed as he’s never been physical with us although he does occasionally shove/hit his older brother with sufficient teasing.

Thoughts on sufficient/appropriate punishment? Anyone btdt and have advice? He’s a very strong active kid and we are planning to put him in karate and soccer as soon as we can age wise.

How does a 4yo have his "own ipad"? How much screen time does he get on average per day?

Depending on this answer, this may be a source of some of the issues here.

[Anonymous]

Was she physically trying to get him to do something and he tried using his words first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe normal shouldn’t be the word used but it is still developmentally appropriate for a four year old child. Should they be doing it? Obviously not.
But it is doubtful they would kick a child out of school over a push. A slap , kick , bite, or punch maybe. My 3.5 year old (at the time) got bit in the eye by a classmate and all they did was move my son from the 3 year room into the 4 year old room so I doubt they would do much for a push.

Your child was "bit" or "hit" in the eye? If my child have ever been bit in the eye, I would have raised holy hell. There is no way that biting the eye of anyone, whatever age, is acceptable, or normal, behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was she physically trying to get him to do something and he tried using his words first?

He pushed her and it doesn't matter why. He is old enough to know not to push, hit. Or bite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 year old pushed an aide at recess after getting upset with a classmate and not calming down. He was sent to the principals office and she had a talk with him about poor decisions. We took away his screen time for today and sent him to bed early and told him if he pushes a teacher again he will lose his iPad permanently. I’m very disappointed as he’s never been physical with us although he does occasionally shove/hit his older brother with sufficient teasing.

Thoughts on sufficient/appropriate punishment? Anyone btdt and have advice? He’s a very strong active kid and we are planning to put him in karate and soccer as soon as we can age wise.

How does a 4yo have his "own ipad"? How much screen time does he get on average per day?

Depending on this answer, this may be a source of some of the issues here.

Yep this is the real question. Why does the 4 year old have an ipad?

[Anonymous]

Say bye bye to the defiant kid. Better start looking for a new place