please weight in on this argument with my sister and I

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Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.

I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.

How is your PhD relevant here?

PP wanted to demonstrate how she has a low level, low paid, non- stressful, low-priority academic job where she could actually “work” and take care of a newborn.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow OP. MYOB MYOB MYOB. Apologize immediately to your sister FFS.

I wouldn’t put a 2mo in daycare unless it was an absolute last resort but I would never WFH while caring for a baby that age either.

Unless you are going to offer to pay for a nanny or extended maternity leave- zip it. And even then- zip it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my sisters daughter had a baby (previous) she was a preemie and at 2 months she's only about 9 lbs she's like a little doll.

niece works from home, has a very easy job as she's on her computer all day. she is actually taking this tiny 9lb baby to daycare so she can sit home and work. I am totally dumbfounded and expressed this, at which point we got in a. huge argument. My parents also weighed in and were equally upset.

Now if she worked outside the homeland had to work I could understand though I would still be sad that she's so tiny going to a daycare. But she's working from home!!! Curious if you agree?

"Sit home and work". You seem to think she's home playing on the computer. I work from home and am far busier than I would be in the office. You don't get it.

[Anonymous]

I had to step away from all my kids in order not to cater to them when I tried to watch them from home. It's very stressful otherwise. After the first couple kids I got better at it but for me it was worth the $$ to be able to focus on work without feeling like a sh!t for not focusing on baby or work 100%.

FWIW I work from home and that doesn't mean I am able to watch the kids, even now that they are older. They are elementary aged now and there are days I throw snacks/games on the floor and hope all the kids get them before all the dogs.

[Anonymous]

"My sister and me"

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Why is she working? Shouldn’t she be nursing and caring for her new baby?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is she working? Shouldn’t she be nursing and caring for her new baby?

I’m going to go with the wild and crazy guess that she needs the money that the salary provides.