How do wealthy men dress on the weekends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing to do with clothes, merely where they are. I assume everyone in my neighborhood coffee shop is rich because it's an expensive residential neighborhood, and no one there at 8 am is coming from out of the area.

Touché.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even an expensive car would not be an definite indicator

Could be in credit card debt, leasing

Disagree with that. Dressed preppy or preppy/outdoorsy and driving a new Rivian SUV, he probably has some bucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The standard is jeans (dark denim, fitted by not tight from JCrew, Levis, or maybe a slightly pricier brand, but these guys don't spend as much on denim or buy as showy denim as their wives) or khakis (Bonobos, JCrew, or similar), a pair of sneakers from All Birds or ON, or maybe Adidas or Onitsuka Tiger depending on how their personal style leans (yes, this is the level of differentiation in personal style in this set, it is very subtle). And a black or other dark neutral fleece jacket. Jacket will either be plain Patagonia, Arcteryx, North Face, or potentially a branded jacket from work (AmLaw 50 firm, consulting or finance firm).

Under the jacket will be a nice t-shirt from Everlane or maybe a lightweight sweater from Everlane, Brooks Brothers, or similar price point. If they are coming from church, they might swap the t-shirt out for a collared shirt, but definitely no tie.

In the summer, they might wear a short sleeve collared shirt from JCrew, Brooks, or a brand like Grayers. May trade out the jeans for khaki shorts, not too short but cut somewhat slim. Will usually still stick with sneakers but an intrepid minority might wear a pair of Birkenstocks. Only if feet are well tended.

Haircut will be fresh (these guys get it trimmed once a month at a minimum, I know men who do it weekly), fresh shave or neat beard trim. Neat nails. No jewelry except wedding ring, no visible tattoos.

LOL, you’re describing the fungible nerds who work for me. Branded fleece and Birkenstocks? GTFOH.

I wear gym shorts and t shirts nearly all the time. A hoodie if it’s cold. I don’t like long pants or hard clothes, and generally don’t wear them unless it’s for a legit meeting or going out at night. Coffee shop in the AM? Workout clothes and sneakers or slides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They wear t-shirts with the phrase "Get Lost Gold Digger" on the front (to you).

Right? So transparent and ick. OP should just ask, how do I find a wealthy man when out in public?

Or maybe just looking to upgrade husband’s wardrobe.

[Anonymous]

Barbour jacket
Flannel or quarter zip with no logo
Khaki pants, relaxed fit
Ons, New Balances, or Birkenstock suede clogs

[Anonymous]

There are some sneaker brands even more obscure than Ons. They are a tell that the guy is at least educated and upper middle class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there’s a certain preppy confidence- sometimes accompanied by boat shoes and a polo- that gives wealthy Republican vibes.

But I agree that you can’t really know. I’ve known some very shlubby but very wealthy people who just wear whatever they want.

1990 called and they want their preppy stereotype back.

It’s less about clothes and more about how their grooming. Are they fit? What about hair and nails? Also look at their shoes. Wealthy people tend to spend more on shoes. At a coffee shop I’d expect the mythical man you’re looking to describe to be wearing either well-fitting jeans or lululemon (or similar brand) pants like ABC. A well fit solid t shit or v neck and now that it’s cold maybe a solid colored pull over (no branding). Also maybe a baseball hat but it has to be from their alma mater if they went Ivy or solid (definitely no sports teams).

+1
DH goes to the coffee shop in fitted jeans (don't know the brand) and a smart wool t-shirt normally. He has these strange shoes with, like tennis shoes with no foam (again don't know the brand). The give away for him is he is super fit, slim and muscular. He's always well groomed - trims his hair and nails at least weekly, always clean shaven. You can probably also tell because our super fit athletic kids will be with him sporting their lululemon or gold hinge clothes with a private school fleece, pullover, or something similar. My youngest still wears target sometimes, but always has nice shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I can tell you how one does -- frayed khaki shorts and tshirts so old they have holes in them. When it gets cold, he puts a sweatshirt so old the collar and cuffs are frayed on. There is a drawer full of such tshirts and several of the sweatshirts. The shoes are old Skechers.

Every time I mention my DH's sartorial choices someone assumes he's on the spectrum because of the emphasis on the softness that comes with old clothes. He isn't.

Are you married to my husband. This is exactly what he wears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I can tell you how one does -- frayed khaki shorts and tshirts so old they have holes in them. When it gets cold, he puts a sweatshirt so old the collar and cuffs are frayed on. There is a drawer full of such tshirts and several of the sweatshirts. The shoes are old Skechers.

Every time I mention my DH's sartorial choices someone assumes he's on the spectrum because of the emphasis on the softness that comes with old clothes. He isn't.

We might be married to similar men. I've been trying to upgrade DH's wardrobe for years unsuccessfully. He doesn't want me to "turn him into a khaki, polo, and loafer wearing drone". I just want him to wear clothes without holes that fit! We fall onto the VHNW category.

[Anonymous]

My wealthy DH couldn’t give a rip about clothes—his shirt collars are frayed, his pants are baggy, and he wears a crappy old belt and no watch. I’ve given up buying him nicer clothes—they just hang in the closet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Barbour jacket
Flannel or quarter zip with no logo
Khaki pants, relaxed fit
Ons, New Balances, or Birkenstock suede clogs

My gay BIL dresses like this. He's rich too. DH, also rich, definitely would never dress like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some sneaker brands even more obscure than Ons. They are a tell that the guy is at least educated and upper middle class.

Do tell 👀

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Barbour jacket
Flannel or quarter zip with no logo
Khaki pants, relaxed fit
Ons, New Balances, or Birkenstock suede clogs

My gay BIL dresses like this. He's rich too. DH, also rich, definitely would never dress like this.

Your BIL is Tucker Carlson?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some sneaker brands even more obscure than Ons. They are a tell that the guy is at least educated and upper middle class.

Salomon… Hoka…?? Rancourt if preppy???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some sneaker brands even more obscure than Ons. They are a tell that the guy is at least educated and upper middle class.

Do tell 👀

I'm pretty well off, and laugh when people wear Ons, I can tell they are reaching to find others in the "club". I drive a Honda Pilot, and own a $5 million dollar house, and a $ 3 Million 2nd home. Most people wearing the markers of wealth are posers, sure wealthy, but some of us just do not care.