Alternatives to Driving an Excursion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

My original post wasn't a WHOA IS ME MY HORRIBLE HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ME TO MAKE A DECISION, PLEASE RESCUE ME type rant. Sheesh.

Oh, because it sounded like one.

Really?[i]

DH has gotten a bug that we need an Excursion. It's HUGE. Like, BUS HUGE. It gets 11 miles to the gallon, but DH wants a diesel which is slightly better. I just don't like it. We have three children, one of which is school age and plays sports. What other vehicles could I suggest to him that might work for our growing family that aren't the size of a small house? Or if you have an Excursion please tell me what you love about it, maybe you can change my mind! TIA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My original post wasn't a WHOA IS ME MY HORRIBLE HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ME TO MAKE A DECISION, PLEASE RESCUE ME type rant. Sheesh.

Oh, because it sounded like one.

Really?

DH has gotten a bug that we need an Excursion. It's HUGE. Like, BUS HUGE. It gets 11 miles to the gallon, but DH wants a diesel which is slightly better. I just don't like it. We have three children, one of which is school age and plays sports. What other vehicles could I suggest to him that might work for our growing family that aren't the size of a small house? Or if you have an Excursion please tell me what you love about it, maybe you can change my mind! TIA!

OK so your first one isn't that horrible. It was the follow ups that made him look bad.

[i] understand your concern. I do, but I can't scold and shame my husband into not buying something. Why would I want to start an argument with him when I can just as easily suggest alternatives to the big ole' truck?

And he wouldn't be driving it at all, I would be which is why I don't want it. He has his dream car, a cadillac cts-v so I am certain he won't be driving the truck. It's a vehicle for me, not him. I think he's just trying to make our family comfortable and get us the space we need. His intentions are good.

You are totally right and I just did that. I told him that 11 miles to the gallon was ridiculous and that I'd prefer something more efficient. He's now looking at Suburbans 15 miles per gallon! Ugh, I am going to send some links to the other vehicles.

Because his manly man-ness wants to be the one to take care of his family, it makes him feel like poppa bear. And to be honest I just don't care if he picks out the vehicle, I just don't want to be driving the largest thing on the road. If it makes him feel good to research and select a vehicle I really do not mind, I have other stuff to worry about. I honestly would rather be the one deciding which home to buy, not what vehicle to buy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My original post wasn't a WHOA IS ME MY HORRIBLE HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ME TO MAKE A DECISION, PLEASE RESCUE ME type rant. Sheesh.

Oh, because it sounded like one.

Really?

DH has gotten a bug that we need an Excursion. It's HUGE. Like, BUS HUGE. It gets 11 miles to the gallon, but DH wants a diesel which is slightly better. I just don't like it. We have three children, one of which is school age and plays sports. What other vehicles could I suggest to him that might work for our growing family that aren't the size of a small house? Or if you have an Excursion please tell me what you love about it, maybe you can change my mind! TIA!

OK so your first one isn't that horrible. It was the follow ups that made him look bad.

[i] understand your concern. I do, but I can't scold and shame my husband into not buying something. Why would I want to start an argument with him when I can just as easily suggest alternatives to the big ole' truck?

And he wouldn't be driving it at all, I would be which is why I don't want it. He has his dream car, a cadillac cts-v so I am certain he won't be driving the truck. It's a vehicle for me, not him. I think he's just trying to make our family comfortable and get us the space we need. His intentions are good.

You are totally right and I just did that. I told him that 11 miles to the gallon was ridiculous and that I'd prefer something more efficient. He's now looking at Suburbans 15 miles per gallon! Ugh, I am going to send some links to the other vehicles.

Because his manly man-ness wants to be the one to take care of his family, it makes him feel like poppa bear. And to be honest I just don't care if he picks out the vehicle, I just don't want to be driving the largest thing on the road. If it makes him feel good to research and select a vehicle I really do not mind, I have other stuff to worry about. I honestly would rather be the one deciding which home to buy, not what vehicle to buy

I know poster it is unusual for you to see someone here who has a healthy relationship with their spouse, but I have a newsflash for you, sound like OP communicates great with her husband. Successful relationships are built on comprimise, not hen pecking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About the Prius: I can fit four kids in mine (one old enough to sit in the front seat) and I get 40+ mgp.

So you, Excursion driver @ 11:15, get gas mileage that is one fourth as good as mine, in order to drive one more child. I still come out ahead, no matter how you slice it.

And my point to OP was not to buy a Prius, but that she could drive a minivan and transport 5 - 6 kids (same as you!) with mpg as much as twice as high.

Excursion driver, there is no way to justify what you drive in terms of efficiency. Sorry.

I look forward to the day you have to drive teen ages who have hockey equipment, football equipment, soccer gear, baseball gear etc etc

Good luck doing that in the Prius and don't forget when you get in an accident you have to call HAZAT to clean up the battery and save your pennies for when you need to replace it.

I thought you were going to say you will have to call a HAZMAT team to scrape the bodies and brains off the pavement. I would not want to get in a wreck with my kids in a prius, that is probably the LAST car I would want my kids to be in when in a wreck.

I relate to the the poster with the tall family. My DH also wants a huge SUV like an excursion (we already have a minivan), he is 6'5 and has a huge build with shoulders as wide as a doorway. He is very uncomfortable in even a normal sized SUV. We also have 2 young boys, that will be very tall, I'm almost 6 feet as well I think a huge SUV in inevitable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My original post wasn't a WHOA IS ME MY HORRIBLE HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ME TO MAKE A DECISION, PLEASE RESCUE ME type rant. Sheesh.

Oh, because it sounded like one.

Really?

DH has gotten a bug that we need an Excursion. It's HUGE. Like, BUS HUGE. It gets 11 miles to the gallon, but DH wants a diesel which is slightly better. I just don't like it. We have three children, one of which is school age and plays sports. What other vehicles could I suggest to him that might work for our growing family that aren't the size of a small house? Or if you have an Excursion please tell me what you love about it, maybe you can change my mind! TIA!

OK so your first one isn't that horrible. It was the follow ups that made him look bad.

[i] understand your concern. I do, but I can't scold and shame my husband into not buying something. Why would I want to start an argument with him when I can just as easily suggest alternatives to the big ole' truck?

And he wouldn't be driving it at all, I would be which is why I don't want it. He has his dream car, a cadillac cts-v so I am certain he won't be driving the truck. It's a vehicle for me, not him. I think he's just trying to make our family comfortable and get us the space we need. His intentions are good.

You are totally right and I just did that. I told him that 11 miles to the gallon was ridiculous and that I'd prefer something more efficient. He's now looking at Suburbans 15 miles per gallon! Ugh, I am going to send some links to the other vehicles.

Because his manly man-ness wants to be the one to take care of his family, it makes him feel like poppa bear. And to be honest I just don't care if he picks out the vehicle, I just don't want to be driving the largest thing on the road. If it makes him feel good to research and select a vehicle I really do not mind, I have other stuff to worry about. I honestly would rather be the one deciding which home to buy, not what vehicle to buy

You're calling me names and picking on my post based on one overly descriptive sentence? Sounds like you have your own issues to deal with starting with lightening up and not being so nasty. I apologize for using the term "manly man-ness", I admit, I made it up. Very "whiney toddler" of me. And the "poppa bear" was out of line, it's wrong for me to describe my husband as a "poppa bear", he does love to take care of his family, I really need to talk to him about that.

I'll be back after I go yell at him and put my foot down like the bitch you want me to be. Maybe after I stomp my feet and make demands he and I can ignore one another for a few hours and then slam some doors. I am sooooooo sorry I was seeking advice from an educated group of parents. My luck I get feedback from the online relationship psychic who answers posts with name calling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My original post wasn't a WHOA IS ME MY HORRIBLE HUSBAND WONT ALLOW ME TO MAKE A DECISION, PLEASE RESCUE ME type rant. Sheesh.

Oh, because it sounded like one.

Really?

DH has gotten a bug that we need an Excursion. It's HUGE. Like, BUS HUGE. It gets 11 miles to the gallon, but DH wants a diesel which is slightly better. I just don't like it. We have three children, one of which is school age and plays sports. What other vehicles could I suggest to him that might work for our growing family that aren't the size of a small house? Or if you have an Excursion please tell me what you love about it, maybe you can change my mind! TIA!

OK so your first one isn't that horrible. It was the follow ups that made him look bad.

[i] understand your concern. I do, but I can't scold and shame my husband into not buying something. Why would I want to start an argument with him when I can just as easily suggest alternatives to the big ole' truck?

And he wouldn't be driving it at all, I would be which is why I don't want it. He has his dream car, a cadillac cts-v so I am certain he won't be driving the truck. It's a vehicle for me, not him. I think he's just trying to make our family comfortable and get us the space we need. His intentions are good.

You are totally right and I just did that. I told him that 11 miles to the gallon was ridiculous and that I'd prefer something more efficient. He's now looking at Suburbans 15 miles per gallon! Ugh, I am going to send some links to the other vehicles.

Because his manly man-ness wants to be the one to take care of his family, it makes him feel like poppa bear. And to be honest I just don't care if he picks out the vehicle, I just don't want to be driving the largest thing on the road. If it makes him feel good to research and select a vehicle I really do not mind, I have other stuff to worry about. I honestly would rather be the one deciding which home to buy, not what vehicle to buy

You're calling me names and picking on my post based on one overly descriptive sentence? Sounds like you have your own issues to deal with starting with lightening up and not being so nasty. I apologize for using the term "manly man-ness", I admit, I made it up. Very "whiney toddler" of me. And the "poppa bear" was out of line, it's wrong for me to describe my husband as a "poppa bear", he does love to take care of his family, I really need to talk to him about that.

I'll be back after I go yell at him and put my foot down like the bitch you want me to be. Maybe after I stomp my feet and make demands he and I can ignore one another for a few hours and then slam some doors. I am sooooooo sorry I was seeking advice from an educated group of parents. My luck I get feedback from the online relationship psychic who answers posts with name calling.

No one is suggesting a temper tantrum. Nope. No one. You don't want a gas guzzler, you want a minivan, you said so. Why not just say it? Really it's not that difficult.

[Anonymous]

I did say itttttttttttt. I came hear and asked for alternative vehicles to suggest. I didn't ask for help communicating, I asked for real live actual other types of cars to suggest to my husband from people who may own and recommend them.

[Anonymous]

I found it really helpful to just go out one morning to test drive some options. It's easy to fall in love with one car or another online, but actually driving them helped us figure out what we really want (ended up with the Pilot).

And in the future you may want to just post your actual question and skip the back story. I did find it distracting (still confused why you wouldn't have more say over picking out your own car).

Good luck deciding - get out there and test drive!

[Anonymous]

Does it matter why he has his heart set on an Excursion?

Clearly, it's because he has a small penis. Perhaps it is also comical. Or conical.

[Anonymous]

tell him parking in dc/bethesda will be near to impossible
Pilot is better

[Anonymous]

I'd go with the parking argument too... it will be a HUGE (ha) pain in the ass to park.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd let this post go if I were you. Most of us sympathized with you, even with the enviro-poster gave you a break, and you got some good advice. But it seems to me that there is one poster here who is just trying to harass you for her (his?) own kicks. I'm guessing it's the same poster who has been putting up nasty comments on a bunch of other threads - I recognize the phrase "whiney toddler" from one of the responses to a query I posted about a sensitive family issue. I don't know who this person is or why posting obnoxious comments gives them a thrill, but I think you probably are only playing into her/his weird game here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked for real live actual other types of cars to suggest to my husband from people who may own and recommend them.

Check out the Tahoe or Yukon, with it's cylinder deactivation during hwy driving the large V8 engine shuts off 4 of the cylinders making it a 4, giving you better MPG (almost as good as some smaller cars).

For the enviro-nazis... I drive a LR3 (one of the worst MPGs out there) and fill up at BP stations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
For the enviro-nazis... I drive a LR3 (one of the worst MPGs out there) and fill up at BP stations.

Enviro-nazis - really? I'm a new poster on this thread so I wasn't part of the previous discussion, but I do think it's interesting that so many people don't seem to give a damn about what kind of planet they leave their kids. I get the need for a bigger car, but why not take gas mileage into account? And for the really tall people out there, how did really tall people get around twenty years ago? For that matter, how did people with 4 gets get around? There are comfortable options out there that aren't huge gas-guzzlers. SUVs weren't a "necessity" until fairly recently.

[Anonymous]

For the enviro-nazis... I drive a LR3 (one of the worst MPGs out there) and fill up at BP stations.

You have to wonder just how insecure and trifling someone is when they arrange their life around the organizing principle of "pissing off Jane Fonda."