Baby at 51?

[Anonymous]

My sister had DE twins at 50. They’re now 15, freshman in HS. Their house is the hangout house for friends so I don’t think the kids see them as embarrassingly old-and its a happy house! Beyond being mistaken early on as the grandparents-the funny disconnect was my sister’s friends when kids were young were just getting lots of free time as their kids were growing up - and my sister needed babysitting. Now she’s freed up but many of her friends are watching grandchildren - and no free time.
Do it OP!!

[Anonymous]

I've seen this a lot. The women who yelled about not wanting babies when they were 35, are now 50+ and realize they missed out. They're heartbroken.

I hope younger women who can still get pregnant think very carefully about their choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

Do it. No it isn't too old. It isn't selfish. You'll be just fine.

Also, this is the wrong place imo for this question. For some reason people here are passionately against having kids past 39. It's an odd thing here and just remember this is an anonymous board. DO it. My good friend had a child at 50 and she's the best mom and very happy.

Donna Mills' first child at 54 (now 28 years old and thriving), Jane Seymore twins at 50 and both thriving in college, Adrienne Barbeau twins at 50, Janet Jackson's first at 50, Naomi Campbell' first at 51 and her 2nd at 53, Supermodel Cheryl Tiegs had twins at 52, Brigitte Nelson had a child at 54, the list goes on and on... Most IVF Dr's cut off is 55. DO IT if that is what you want and no need to ask others what they think except your Dr.

That’s because the majority of posters here are old (55+). So many 60+ people too. They’re of a different generation with limited knowledge and resources so a baby past 39 seems completely wrong to them. They’re not fit to advise aspiring new parents.

[Anonymous]

troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

Do it. No it isn't too old. It isn't selfish. You'll be just fine.

Also, this is the wrong place imo for this question. For some reason people here are passionately against having kids past 39. It's an odd thing here and just remember this is an anonymous board. DO it. My good friend had a child at 50 and she's the best mom and very happy.

Donna Mills' first child at 54 (now 28 years old and thriving), Jane Seymore twins at 50 and both thriving in college, Adrienne Barbeau twins at 50, Janet Jackson's first at 50, Naomi Campbell' first at 51 and her 2nd at 53, Supermodel Cheryl Tiegs had twins at 52, Brigitte Nelson had a child at 54, the list goes on and on... Most IVF Dr's cut off is 55. DO IT if that is what you want and no need to ask others what they think except your Dr.

That’s because the majority of posters here are old (55+). So many 60+ people too. They’re of a different generation with limited knowledge and resources so a baby past 39 seems completely wrong to them. They’re not fit to advise aspiring new parents.

They’re realistic knowing that they don’t want to spend their retirement years raising teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Do you have frozen eggs or embryos, or would you use donor eggs?

[Anonymous]

Horrible, selfish, stupid idea. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

This is insane.

My coworker, who is 35 and pregnant, was telling me how she was struggling with getting her 80 year old mother into assisted living. My heart broke for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is insane.

My coworker, who is 35 and pregnant, was telling me how she was struggling with getting her 80 year old mother into assisted living. My heart broke for her.

35 isn’t young to be having a kid either.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53. I think 51 is too old to have a baby.

[Anonymous]

Truly selfish. I've lived it and both parents died in early 70s. Through high school I was basically their care taker and trying to figure out their funerals in college. When they passed all of their estate was ripped away from me by greedy family members because I was so young.

[Anonymous]

Selfish OP

[Anonymous]

It would be really hard to parent a young child in the 50s. It’s physically demanding and a young person’a game.

[Anonymous]

We couldn't conceive. We went to a fertility specialist in our late 40s. Specialist said he won't extract and use an egg of any woman over 45. It had to be a donor egg.

If you can get pregnant on your own, good luck.

Interestingly, there's another thread going right now about having old parents. You'll be at least 72 when your child is 20.

[Anonymous]

A lot of kids get raised by grandmothers because of divorces, jobs, and deaths of spouses. This would be no different. Op has the energy and love. 💕