Baby at 51?

[Anonymous]

Oh for goodness sakes people here are being so dramatic. My mom was 48 almost 49 when I was born. I never once viewed her as selfish.
She wasn’t incapacitated as people here seem to thinks happen when someone is in their 50s.

To the OP - DE is probably an option. Look up some doctors and go for a consult. You have nothing to lose by looking into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who did it at 50, their child is adorable (the baby is not quite 2) and it has changed their life tremendously in the best way.

Ask them about their life when little baby turns 12! I can't imaging handling all the teenage dramas at the age of 60 or 70.

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 43 and my second was born right before I turned 50. We have loved every minute of it. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do it. Later is better than never!
You will definitely regret it in old age.
It helps if you have older children who can share the burden of you aging, but even if you don’t, just go for it OP.

+1. I would so it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for goodness sakes people here are being so dramatic. My mom was 48 almost 49 when I was born. I never once viewed her as selfish.
She wasn’t incapacitated as people here seem to thinks happen when someone is in their 50s.

To the OP - DE is probably an option. Look up some doctors and go for a consult. You have nothing to lose by looking into it.

Was this a natural pregnancy for your mom?? I am 46 and this is my dream to be honest, one more in old age I have stopped protection but also won’t do any RE to get pregnant. I do have older kids and miss the baby and toddler stages.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with most here and vote have your own baby,
Don’t adopt
Or don’t do anything at all
At 51 it’s not optimal but having your own is better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most here and vote have your own baby,
Don’t adopt
Or don’t do anything at all
At 51 it’s not optimal but having your own is better

Adoptive mom here. This is your opinion, but I beg to differ. My daughter is mine! Best thing I ever did!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have older parents (dad was 50 when I was born). Don’t do this to a child. I spent my childhood worrying my dad was going to die because of his age-related health issues. Now I’m raising small kids while he is end of life. Do not do it.

Sooo you would just rather not have been born?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for goodness sakes people here are being so dramatic. My mom was 48 almost 49 when I was born. I never once viewed her as selfish.
She wasn’t incapacitated as people here seem to thinks happen when someone is in their 50s.

To the OP - DE is probably an option. Look up some doctors and go for a consult. You have nothing to lose by looking into it.

I agree, and so much extreme, negative judgement in this thread.

OP: for this to work, are you in exceptionally good health, or can you get there rapidly? Do you have a good support system around you to help out with childcare?

Ideally the answer to both would be “yes.” Just things to consider.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Will society judge me too hard if I have a baby at 51? If it’s even possible biologically.

I have a cousin who graduated architecht school at 36. We were talking about life and she said that it’s not too late to do things you want.
Her example was her becoming an architect at an older age.

But are these the same ?

I want this pretty bad. Is it that selfish? I don’t feel old at all.

Do it. No it isn't too old. It isn't selfish. You'll be just fine.

Also, this is the wrong place imo for this question. For some reason people here are passionately against having kids past 39. It's an odd thing here and just remember this is an anonymous board. DO it. My good friend had a child at 50 and she's the best mom and very happy.

Donna Mills' first child at 54 (now 28 years old and thriving), Jane Seymore twins at 50 and both thriving in college, Adrienne Barbeau twins at 50, Janet Jackson's first at 50, Naomi Campbell' first at 51 and her 2nd at 53, Supermodel Cheryl Tiegs had twins at 52, Brigitte Nelson had a child at 54, the list goes on and on... Most IVF Dr's cut off is 55. DO IT if that is what you want and no need to ask others what they think except your Dr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's selfish. There are many reasons not to do it. If your maternal urge is strong, why not adopt a child 5+?

It isn't selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most here and vote have your own baby,
Don’t adopt
Or don’t do anything at all
At 51 it’s not optimal but having your own is better

I can't even imagine not having a child if I wanted one because I was worried anonymous people on a forum might think it's selfish. That is something you'll regret down the road.

Also, if you do this you'll be around parents and they'll be happy for you and hyper focused on their own kids not how old other parents are.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who just had her first baby in her 50s. She is married. She is very happy. I had my youngest at 39. Physically, I feel fine but I do get sad when I realize I most likely won’t be around for a lot of my children’s adult lives.

[Anonymous]

Sofia Vergara is right: 51 is too damned old.

[Anonymous]

There are way too many pro-birthers on here pushing people to have babies at great grandparent ages.