I think I’m going to have to contact my husband’s affair partner
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Anonymous
| Contact her if you are crazy. But pray she is not crazier than you are. |
Anonymous
| Foolish. She does not care. |
Anonymous
| You will look crazy, which will give them validation for their affair. Take the high road, and live your best life (with or without him). |
Anonymous
She didn't have any photos of him, thankfully. But she had photos of herself on location when they met up, lots of posts that she tagged him in about "never give up on something you really want" and "be brave enough to walk away from what no longer serves you" etc (Oh, is that ME you're talking about, how cute), and even a stupid blog post about how she's a "heart person and not a head person," so if her heart wants something, well, whatchagonnado . . . And it was all public. Obviously he blocked her on all platforms but those things are still visible to everyone else. I mean, clearly it was just an attempt to justify what she was doing, so it's safe to assume she was struggling with guilt, etc. But why does that have to be on the internet forever? Obviously I know that I can't control what other people put out into the world, but I assumed (correctly) that she would care about not being a total jerk in perpetuity and do me this small act of penance. |
Anonymous
How do you know she felt small and pathetic? Maybe she was scared in the moment, then brushed it off and laughed at you. |
Anonymous
| It’ll give her an excuse to reach out to your husband and open the lines of communication again. |
Anonymous
DP. Same. She had no idea I knew since affair had been over. Thought she got away with it. She was shaking so hard. Looked like she was going to pass out. She vacillated from making lame excuses to why she cheated on her husband with mine to getting angry and lashing out at my husband because he dumped her. I was able to call her out on some things I knew that you could tell she was horrified that I knew- like her other affairs. It wasn’t a long meet up but I left feeling uplifted. Like pp- I wanted her to have to see me. I wasn’t just some abstract thought- a real woman, mother, wife, etc. I hoped I’d prevent her from doing this yet again to another woman. I slept like a baby that night after not having slept for 2 months. |
Anonymous
| Why should any of these woman give a rat’s @ss what the ow thinks of them if they confront? Give me a break. If it will help you heal and give you closure do it. This person invaded your life for months on end without your choice. You have the right to do whatever you need to do. Everyone is different. I confront. |
Anonymous
If you are not a troll, I would not tell people this story IRL. It is not a good look. |
Anonymous
What did you say? |
Anonymous
Very similar. She was apparently the only blameless one in the mess.  It was everyone else’s fault- my husband, her husband, me, her difficult time 10 years ago…what I saw was an extremely selfish and delusional person who would take zero accountability. Likely borderline personality. A simple “I’m sorry. It was wrong.” would have sufficed. Instead she buckled down as seeing herself as a victim even though she was actively looking for affairs online. It was disgusting and I saw she was a fraud. Her social media of being so empathetic blah blah.
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Anonymous
Oh man, that's brilliant. |
Anonymous
| OP- if the urge won’t go away over time: do it. It may be what you need to do to heal. Everyone is different. |
Anonymous
| It won't give you the satisfaction you think it will, but I don't think it is the worst thing in the world either. |
Anonymous
 Love it!
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