I broke up with her. She threatened to go back to her ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re fake but honestly both women sound absolutely nuts.

Ah yes, let’s label the women crazy but not the manipulative jerk.

The ex sounds like a normal person who who is reacting to someone who harassed her and was cruel to her.

OP and that other woman are nuts.

Oh, you misunderstood. OP is beyond nuts, he's a moronic ahole with some sort of chemical imbalance.

The ex doesn't sound normal. Threatening your ex to go back to your ex before him is crazy. She needs to just block his number and move on. But that is easier said than done so I at least have sympathy for her.

The 22 year old it goes without saying is psychotic.

OP, the non-22 year old woman deserves better than you. The 22 year old belongs in jail. You belong in therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re fake but honestly both women sound absolutely nuts.

Ah yes, let’s label the women crazy but not the manipulative jerk.

The ex sounds like a normal person who who is reacting to someone who harassed her and was cruel to her.

OP and that other woman are nuts.

She did block me. She blocked me everywhere.
Oh, you misunderstood. OP is beyond nuts, he's a moronic ahole with some sort of chemical imbalance.

The ex doesn't sound normal. Threatening your ex to go back to your ex before him is crazy. She needs to just block his number and move on. But that is easier said than done so I at least have sympathy for her.

The 22 year old it goes without saying is psychotic.

OP, the non-22 year old woman deserves better than you. The 22 year old belongs in jail. You belong in therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re fake but honestly both women sound absolutely nuts.

Ah yes, let’s label the women crazy but not the manipulative jerk.

The ex sounds like a normal person who who is reacting to someone who harassed her and was cruel to her.

OP and that other woman are nuts.

Oh, you misunderstood. OP is beyond nuts, he's a moronic ahole with some sort of chemical imbalance.

The ex doesn't sound normal. Threatening your ex to go back to your ex before him is crazy. She needs to just block his number and move on. But that is easier said than done so I at least have sympathy for her.

The 22 year old it goes without saying is psychotic.

OP, the non-22 year old woman deserves better than you. The 22 year old belongs in jail. You belong in therapy.

She did block me. She blocked me everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re fake but honestly both women sound absolutely nuts.

Ah yes, let’s label the women crazy but not the manipulative jerk.

The ex sounds like a normal person who who is reacting to someone who harassed her and was cruel to her.

OP and that other woman are nuts.

Oh, you misunderstood. OP is beyond nuts, he's a moronic ahole with some sort of chemical imbalance.

The ex doesn't sound normal. Threatening your ex to go back to your ex before him is crazy. She needs to just block his number and move on. But that is easier said than done so I at least have sympathy for her.

The 22 year old it goes without saying is psychotic.

OP, the non-22 year old woman deserves better than you. The 22 year old belongs in jail. You belong in therapy.

PP,

It’s not crazy. This is a one-off to how she responded to an enormous betrayal and per OP’s update she did block him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. He broke up with his ex and is single, so doesn’t that mean he can do whatever he wants?

How is hanging out with an old flame wrong?

NP. I disagree with the PP who said it was disrespectful. I think it was a bad choice, because she was a wingnut stalker (new boyfriend or not, why get back involved with the crazy?), but that's totally up to him.

I *do* criticize him for then coming here to whinge about what this means the ex is doing now. He broke up with her. She took advantage of the excuse to get the hell away. He has no business trying to contact her, or internet stalk her, or whatever. Bye. Gone. Ship has sailed. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused. He broke up with his ex and is single, so doesn’t that mean he can do whatever he wants?

How is hanging out with an old flame wrong?

NP. I disagree with the PP who said it was disrespectful. I think it was a bad choice, because she was a wingnut stalker (new boyfriend or not, why get back involved with the crazy?), but that's totally up to him.

I *do* criticize him for then coming here to whinge about what this means the ex is doing now. He broke up with her. She took advantage of the excuse to get the hell away. He has no business trying to contact her, or internet stalk her, or whatever. Bye. Gone. Ship has sailed. Leave her alone.

PP, it’s disrespectful to still communicate with his ex and try to weasel his way back in (asking to see her) and entertain that other woman. Either be 100% in or 100% out. That alone is disrespectful. Then you add how OP was still in communication with the person who was cruel to his ex. OP is a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my ex in June but I was feeling really overwhelmed with life (got laid off and got very depressed) she just pulled the trigger without really thinking. We were together almost 4 years. Within days I regretted my decision. She took the breakup well - she simply said “Okay. I respect your decision”,so I thought she was in agreement with the breakup. A few days after breaking up I texted her asking if she wanted to have dinner. She said that would be nice but she was leaving for a work trip. I contacted her again 2 weeks later and we exchanged small talk but that was it. I thought she was no longer interested.

Backstory, we broke up the first year we were together because she was offered an amazing promotion but it was Europe. So, we decided to breakup. I started seeing a 22 year old (this part is important). She was nice but I knew she was a place holder as I was still in love with my girlfriend. About 5 months into our breakup/1 month of me seeing the other woman Covid happened and she came home. We decided immediately that we wanted to get back together, so I told the other woman I was working things out with my ex and cut things off. This really pissed her off. She found my gf online and sent her messages saying i obviously didn’t love her, posted a video of the two of us naked in bed together, started following my family and friends on social media, etc., and this went on for about a year (I’m sure she acted out because of her age and lack of maturity). Understandably, my girlfriend absolutely hated her. Fast forward to this past May, I posted pictures of us from our trip together and the 22 year old, who I removed from all of my social media, liked the picture. This made my gf upset so I blocked her.

Back to now, so about 2 weeks ago/4 weeks into the break/2 weeks since I contacted my ex last, I invited the 22 year old (now 24) over to my family’s barbecue and she brought a couple of her friends along with her. Somehow my ex saw she was there and I got the angriest messages I’ve ever gotten from her. She said it was nice to see us together again and how cute it was to see that she and my sister are following each other on social media now (she followed her on Instagram after the barbecue). Then said this was a joke and that she wasted years of her life and she can’t wait to hang out with *insert ex’s name* when I get back in town. Now, she used to be engaged to him but called it off and he kept trying to get her back the entire we were together, so I was always worried about him and didn’t care for him at all, so I’m sure that’s why she said him.

Now my question is:

1. Was I wrong here? I am single. Also, this girl has a boyfriend now so nothing is going on.
2. Do you really think she meant it when she said she would go see her ex again or was she just blowing hot air?

also, I only keep referring to her by her age to keep track of who is who…

Break down the OP.

So you:

Used the 22 year old for sex even though you were still in love with your ex.
Got back together with the ex before you broke up with 22 year old.
22 year old stalks you, you say you defriended her but your girlfriend notices her still liking your posts.
Broke up with your girlfriend for no apparent reason.
Started inviting her out for dinners mere days later.
Continued texting her.
Then you show up at a family event with the 22 (24) year old that had been stalking you, that is suddenly friends with your family members on social.

So yeah, it looks to your ex-girlfriend you have been in contact with this girl the whole time. You're incapable of letting go of either girl. You always want to have your options open.

#1 Yes you're wrong, totally wrong, on every level.
#2 It doesn't matter. Breaking up is breaking up. Leave both of these women alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Troll, and a dim one at that.

+1. Toll post written by a troll moron.

[Anonymous]

You are broken up. Both sides can do as you please.

By bringing the 22yo, you sealed the end of the relationship with your girlfriend. Your ex has every right to go back to her ex, meet someone new and she will not feel badly to you about it because you brought this 22yo to a family affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are broken up. Both sides can do as you please.

By bringing the 22yo, you sealed the end of the relationship with your girlfriend. Your ex has every right to go back to her ex, meet someone new and she will not feel badly to you about it because you brought this 22yo to a family affair.

Yup, if she was at home doing nothing she isn’t now. You’ve practically shoved her into another man’s arms. Congratulations OP.

[Anonymous]

Guys this is the same troll who writes the same version of this story a few times a week. I can’t pull up the other threads but someone else is welcome too.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Not sure why you would invite a stalker back into your life, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys this is the same troll who writes the same version of this story a few times a week. I can’t pull up the other threads but someone else is welcome too.

No offense but do you have nothing better to do than accuse every post of being that troll? You've also accused a thread I once posted of being the troll and Jeff told you I wasn't. I think it's really bizarre you remember posts from 2019-2021.

You don't need to police the board. Jeff protects us from outright trolling and people can choose to respond what they want to reply to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys this is the same troll who writes the same version of this story a few times a week. I can’t pull up the other threads but someone else is welcome too.

No offense but do you have nothing better to do than accuse every post of being that troll? You've also accused a thread I once posted of being the troll and Jeff told you I wasn't. I think it's really bizarre you remember posts from 2019-2021.

You don't need to police the board. Jeff protects us from outright trolling and people can choose to respond what they want to reply to.

No offense taken, I rarely call troll because it’s boring and doesn’t add anything to the thread. This particular poster however has posted with frequency over the past several weeks with the same level of detail, the same 4 yr relationship timeline, the same description of jerking some woman around, the same “who me?” obtuseness. I have no idea if this is a real story or not, and I doubt it. But yes, I do check this site most days, as do a lot of the readers here. And again, while I don’t normally call troll, this one clearly is, and it’s irritating, because I would much rather read and participate in real stories on this board.

Regarding me calling troll on you, unclear what or when you mean or the thread in question, as this is all anonymous, but if someone did so there was probably a reason.

No offense but logic isn’t your strong suit.