Mom keeps giving teen drugs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The mom has a medical marijuana card and I think both parents are alcoholics. The kid is in my son’s friend group and often supplies the kids with drugs and alcohol; that his parents give him freely. Yes that’s a whole other issue I am trying to address.

But I am posting because the kid is also depressed and possibly suicidal. I know this because I just kicked him out of my house for smelling like weed. and he is sitting on the front porch crying. I gave him a few resources including the Everymind text number here in MoCo. Mobile Crisis Team number and 988. But what else can I do?

The drugs have to stop because they aren’t helping. But I feel the kid is doomed if his parents are enabling him. I just feel helpless. Way in over my head.

Wow, OP, you are a HORRIBLE PERSON.

A child who you know, who is friends with your child, is struggling such that you believe he is suicidal and your response is to kick him out and give him a hotline to text?

How about NOT kicking him out and talking to him? How about not making the problem worse? You are not helpless. You are an adult. He is a child who is not being parented by his parents and is being coldly sent to cry on the porch by a potentially supportive adult.

I think you should look in the mirror and think about who you really want to be in this situation.

Step back a bit. You judge instead of asking clarifying questions. Although I realize that's how DCUM usually goes.

I didn't post everything because I don't want it to be completely recognizable. I have a zero tolerance rule about drugs and alcohol in my house. We have addiction issues in our family and my spouse is a recovering alcoholic. I also have teens to protect from those addiction risks. The entire revelation about this kid's situation started with my kicking him out, but it occurred over hours. I didn't immediately know the whole story when I saw him crying. That's when I started asking more questions. But I purposefully left out a detailed timeline and my methods of communication with him.

Having said that, I know many will want to cross examine my post, looking for flaws, and tear me apart instead of trying to help me help this kid. So this is my only clarifying post. I have been in contact with the crisis center. I didn't really want to go the CPS route and the center actually suggested something different. So that's what I'm doing.

Doesn’t really change things. Sadly I think you are like most people. They look the other way when someone needs help. I had a disabled child live with me for a year while her mother recovered from serious illness. I’ll always feel good about that. I made a difference in their lives. You can do the same.

You can think anything about me that you'd like. I was looking for the best of DCUM that night - help from someone who has been there and done that. This place can be a valuable resource or it can be a toxic dump.

Just because I chose to help in a different way doesn't mean I didn't help. But my first responsibility is to my family.

But this is only about you and whether you can do it. It’s not about your family. maybe you’re already too overwhelmed. If you can’t do it just help him find some resources

[Anonymous]

He's dealing medical marijuana? Normal teen behavior. I did the same and I'm a woman. I turned out fine. I still smoke all the time lol.

Parents giving alcohol to their children is also normal. My parents didn't do this in highschool but once I was in college that's how I got it. We had a good relationship and they were not alcoholics.

Now if a dangerous situation occurs that shows the parents are truly putting him in danger (drunk driving accident or something) then call CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom has a medical marijuana card and I think both parents are alcoholics. The kid is in my son’s friend group and often supplies the kids with drugs and alcohol; that his parents give him freely. Yes that’s a whole other issue I am trying to address.

But I am posting because the kid is also depressed and possibly suicidal. I know this because I just kicked him out of my house for smelling like weed. and he is sitting on the front porch crying. I gave him a few resources including the Everymind text number here in MoCo. Mobile Crisis Team number and 988. But what else can I do?

The drugs have to stop because they aren’t helping. But I feel the kid is doomed if his parents are enabling him. I just feel helpless. Way in over my head.

You think he is depressed and possibly suicidal because he is crying after something embarrassing? Or because he told you? Sorry, OP.