Mom keeps giving teen drugs

[Anonymous]

The mom has a medical marijuana card and I think both parents are alcoholics. The kid is in my son’s friend group and often supplies the kids with drugs and alcohol; that his parents give him freely. Yes that’s a whole other issue I am trying to address.

But I am posting because the kid is also depressed and possibly suicidal. I know this because I just kicked him out of my house for smelling like weed. and he is sitting on the front porch crying. I gave him a few resources including the Everymind text number here in MoCo. Mobile Crisis Team number and 988. But what else can I do?

The drugs have to stop because they aren’t helping. But I feel the kid is doomed if his parents are enabling him. I just feel helpless. Way in over my head.

[Anonymous]

Call CFSA or CPS. If they are doing that it is abuse and neglect .

[Anonymous]

Can school counselor help him get resiurces? I guess not over the summer….

[Anonymous]

I did consider CPS

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t call CPS. That is a nightmare for the kid. Can you take him in? He needs a stable grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t call CPS. That is a nightmare for the kid. Can you take him in? He needs a stable grown up.

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[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for both of you, he is struggling & you are in a tough spot.
I would try to reach out to him. Tell him he’s always welcome - but drugs or alcohol are not. He is always welcome in your home without that- ask him what he likes for food, & tell him you will keep it stocked. Be kind to him, but make it clear you just want him - no drug or alcohol use in your home.

[Anonymous]

If the parents are supplying drugs and alcohol, possibly addicts themselves, and the kid is struggling with his mental health, I would absolutely call CPS.

I would also let him know he is always welcome at your house if he’s clean and sober, but this kid needs professional adults to help him. CPS isn’t perfect but it’s what there is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom has a medical marijuana card and I think both parents are alcoholics. The kid is in my son’s friend group and often supplies the kids with drugs and alcohol; that his parents give him freely. Yes that’s a whole other issue I am trying to address.

But I am posting because the kid is also depressed and possibly suicidal. I know this because I just kicked him out of my house for smelling like weed. and he is sitting on the front porch crying. I gave him a few resources including the Everymind text number here in MoCo. Mobile Crisis Team number and 988. But what else can I do?

The drugs have to stop because they aren’t helping. But I feel the kid is doomed if his parents are enabling him. I just feel helpless. Way in over my head.

Why did you kick him out for smelling like weed?

[Anonymous]

Cps will not do anything. Not much you can do sadly. Drive him home and make it clear why.

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying he isn't ever using, but kids who live with smokers smell like smoke. It's beyond their control.

So while I agree about barring drugs from your house, you shouldn't kick him out for being stinky. Let him keep some clean clothes and shower products at your house. He probably doesn't want to smell like that at school either and you could help him with that during the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t call CPS. That is a nightmare for the kid. Can you take him in? He needs a stable grown up.

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He isn't a stray dog. People cant "just take a kid in." What the hell are you suggesting? They may be potheads, she thinks, btw, we don't know, but they are legal parents. Yes, if she suspects drugs, CPS needs to be called, and that is the law- OP is actually legally negligent by not doing so. Then decisions will be made for him with his input
No, she's not taking him in. What an absurd comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t call CPS. That is a nightmare for the kid. Can you take him in? He needs a stable grown up.

Plus 1

He isn't a stray dog. People cant "just take a kid in." What the hell are you suggesting? They may be potheads, she thinks, btw, we don't know, but they are legal parents. Yes, if she suspects drugs, CPS needs to be called, and that is the law- OP is actually legally negligent by not doing so. Then decisions will be made for him with his input
No, she's not taking him in. What an absurd comment.

A youth can be taken in with parental consent or legal emancipation.

Neighbors aren't mandated reporters for abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t call CPS. That is a nightmare for the kid. Can you take him in? He needs a stable grown up.

Plus 1

He isn't a stray dog. People cant "just take a kid in." What the hell are you suggesting? They may be potheads, she thinks, btw, we don't know, but they are legal parents. Yes, if she suspects drugs, CPS needs to be called, and that is the law- OP is actually legally negligent by not doing so. Then decisions will be made for him with his input
No, she's not taking him in. What an absurd comment.

Friends who are having trouble at home frequently stay with friends. My mother took in friends of my older sister and my younger sister. They are fine adults. College graduates in the helping fields.

Let him know you’ll have to call CPS if he brings drugs or alcohol into the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did consider CPS

Don’t call them. The kid ends up in the system and it’s downhill from there