LIVING AT HOME till the are 40 ?

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Well, unless redshirted and taking gap years, most people are done with their MA, MS, MD, JD, MBA etc. well before they turn 30.
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


It's normal in HCOL. I knew several BigLaw associates working in Manhattan and living with parents in the boroughs or the suburbs. Why not? They worked so much that they didn't spend a lot of time at home anyway and it was nice not to be lonely when they were. They could pay off loans and save for a house.
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


It's normal in HCOL. I knew several BigLaw associates working in Manhattan and living with parents in the boroughs or the suburbs. Why not? They worked so much that they didn't spend a lot of time at home anyway and it was nice not to be lonely when they were. They could pay off loans and save for a house.


That's surprising. I don't know a single NY lawyer or wall street bro living with their parents. They often eat dinners at parents on weekends or one off weeknights but that's all.
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Anonymous wrote:Why do they need to move out?


+1
My 80 yr old mom live with my 60 yr old brother.
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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for 30 something year old to still live at home?

had jury duty yesterday and meet a 35 year old and 33 year old that are still living at home. ,

Will they ever move out?


It is very normal for Asian families to live together. They pool resources to buy large homes in HCOL areas with good schools. They are able to save a lot of money and can have a very good standard of living because of shared resources. They can hire cleaning people, landscapers, save on utilities, food, amenities, childcare, eldercare, go on vacations etc. During the pandemic, so many moms quit the workforce because of childcare issues, but this as not the case with people in joint families.

I have seen people able to withstand loss of employment, disease and other adversities better because they are not alone doing it all. I have seen young moms being able to get great college education and get good jobs after they have had babies because they did not have to worry about running their home or the care of their children and had a lot of family .
support.

To make your AC get out of your house is a shortsighted approach to life. You both need each other in your various stages of life. It also teaches you tolerance and patience. It forces you to be useful and contribute to the family. And in a country like America, you have the ability to get large spacious homes together, that gives everyone privacy and their own space.
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


My friend sold her home and helped her 2 married children buy bigger and more expensive homes in desirable zip-codes in different cities. she is on both deeds with them. she has her own section in both houses. without her help they would never would have been able to afford such nice homes with good schools. The smart and intelligent people are doing these kind of hacks to do better in this changing world. Idiots continue to remain poor and struggling, not being able to give a leg up to their families.
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


My friend sold her home and helped her 2 married children buy bigger and more expensive homes in desirable zip-codes in different cities. she is on both deeds with them. she has her own section in both houses. without her help they would never would have been able to afford such nice homes with good schools. The smart and intelligent people are doing these kind of hacks to do better in this changing world. Idiots continue to remain poor and struggling, not being able to give a leg up to their families.


She splits her time between the two homes?
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


It's normal in HCOL. I knew several BigLaw associates working in Manhattan and living with parents in the boroughs or the suburbs. Why not? They worked so much that they didn't spend a lot of time at home anyway and it was nice not to be lonely when they were. They could pay off loans and save for a house.


That's surprising. I don't know a single NY lawyer or wall street bro living with their parents. They often eat dinners at parents on weekends or one off weeknights but that's all.


Same in LA. Everyone has their own place.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:The ones I know are on spectrum. They are also from the culture where supporting parents is common. The parents are immigrants and wouldn't be able to afford a house.
While it seems like it's cultural and immigration related, the prevailing thing is that they are on spectrum. They have no friends or partners.


Sounds like that is your circle.
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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who lived at home till he was in his late 50s, and he only finally moved out because his parents died and the house had to be sold. And no, he did nothing to take care of his parents. He was just living rent free and taking advantage of the free food and internet.

This is the most likely scenario.
Sure, but OP asked of this was the norm. Of course it happens, but unless you live under a rock, you know this is not the norm.


It is the norm. 1 in 3 adults aged 18 to 34 live at home with their parents in the US.


So, it's the norm for poor people, not for educated people who mostly have their own families by their 30s!


My friend sold her home and helped her 2 married children buy bigger and more expensive homes in desirable zip-codes in different cities. she is on both deeds with them. she has her own section in both houses. without her help they would never would have been able to afford such nice homes with good schools. The smart and intelligent people are doing these kind of hacks to do better in this changing world. Idiots continue to remain poor and struggling, not being able to give a leg up to their families.


She splits her time between the two homes?


Yup. Has friends and relatives in both cities, travels quite a bit, helps the family (kids and extended family) as needed. she has really simplified her life and everyone has benefited, especially her kids. she has done the best Swedish Death Cleanse I have ever seen.
Anonymous
We like spending time together. Not a burden at all and sad that she is moving out. Don't understand why it is frowned upon.



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Anonymous wrote:We like spending time together. Not a burden at all and sad that she is moving out. Don't understand why it is frowned upon.


It is only frowned upon among white Americans. Rest of the world and many immigrants live with family members of different generations and do not have to take pills for loneliness and depression. LOL!
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