Bullied and Harassed by a group of teens girls at my pool today

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should report it to the board of the pool (assuming it's a community pool) so they can tell the members in the newsletter. If I knew my kid was acting like that I'd do something about it.

+1

I’m sorry that happened, OP. I saw teens at the pool and one politely asked if they could have our table since we were leaving. All polite. But they wanted something from us.

Those who are teens now were stuck inside for 1.5-2 years during COVID and didn’t mature normally. They are immature and sometimes rude and bratty.

My older kid has noticed this immaturity in an inability of the younger kids to handle and resolve issues. Ninth graders were acting like sixth graders a few years ago and some probably still have growing up to do.

What is wrong with them politely asking if they could have your table when you leave? That's the type of behavior we should all want from our teens. Am I missing something?

I think she’s just saying they were only polite because they wanted/needed something. Otherwise they’d be typical a$$hole kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re classy and mature, OP. I’m sorry you were subjected to that. I would have told those C’s to F off.

I would have too. Classy and mature may make the OP look good but I don’t think it has much of an impact on the kids. They’re not walking away saying “man was she classy! Let’s act more like her!” They need to be shamed and put in their place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should report it to the board of the pool (assuming it's a community pool) so they can tell the members in the newsletter. If I knew my kid was acting like that I'd do something about it.

+1

I’m sorry that happened, OP. I saw teens at the pool and one politely asked if they could have our table since we were leaving. All polite. But they wanted something from us.

Those who are teens now were stuck inside for 1.5-2 years during COVID and didn’t mature normally. They are immature and sometimes rude and bratty.

My older kid has noticed this immaturity in an inability of the younger kids to handle and resolve issues. Ninth graders were acting like sixth graders a few years ago and some probably still have growing up to do.

This behavior has nothing to do with COVID-19 lockdowns and everything to do with how they were parented (or not parented, as the case may be).

[Anonymous]

Where you all raised by a pack of wolves? 'Cause I'm calling animal control now.

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

[Anonymous]

So many trashy people on this thread acting just like the mean kids in OP. Everyone seems to forget what a bully they were when they grow up and become totally blind to their own behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many trashy people on this thread acting just like the mean kids in OP. Everyone seems to forget what a bully they were when they grow up and become totally blind to their own behavior.

You know how in old movies, the bullied kid gets so pushed over the edge by the bully that he finally beats him up? You know why they did that? BECAUSE IT WORKS.
Sometimes you gotta fight fire with fire.

[Anonymous]

I sat here thinking about what I might do in a situation like this.

I've decided I'd pull out my phone and record them - audio and video. Then maybe I'd say something like, "I'm sure you girls aren't really as awful as you seem here. Someone must really feel terribly about themselves to want to hurt others like this. I wanted to make sure I could find you individually when I see you here with your families sometime and maybe we can talk about it when you're not in a pack."

I'm ticked off for you OP, really sorry you had to endure that - it's completely inexcusable.

[Anonymous]

I still don’t understand what the girls did. What is they “acted” out around you. What does that mean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

It’s Towanda. Who are these posters that can’t get their references right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want to go into too much detail.

They were making fun of me. Acting out right next to my lounge chair to intimidate me. I tried to just ignore them but it was very stressful and sad.

I finally said, "It is a shame you don't have anything better to do on a Sunday afternoon than bully an old woman who is probably the same age as your grandmother."

One later, when she was away from the others, apologized to me.

Sounds like you taught them a lot about character and grace. At least one was affected. The ringleader is undoubtedly very insecure, that’s where it usually comes from. It takes a village and you made a difference today with your poise.

Hi, OP. I agree with this poster. I’m sorry you had to put up with that behavior today. I’m a teacher and I have seen a steady decline in behavior. I wonder how we can bring common respect and decency back.

You reached one of them, and for that I’m grateful. Hopefully a small seed was placed in the other girls’ heads, and they’ll think twice about being so rude in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should report it to the board of the pool (assuming it's a community pool) so they can tell the members in the newsletter. If I knew my kid was acting like that I'd do something about it.

+1

I’m sorry that happened, OP. I saw teens at the pool and one politely asked if they could have our table since we were leaving. All polite. But they wanted something from us.

Those who are teens now were stuck inside for 1.5-2 years during COVID and didn’t mature normally. They are immature and sometimes rude and bratty.

My older kid has noticed this immaturity in an inability of the younger kids to handle and resolve issues. Ninth graders were acting like sixth graders a few years ago and some probably still have growing up to do.

This behavior has nothing to do with COVID-19 lockdowns and everything to do with how they were parented (or not parented, as the case may be).

+1 stop blaming everything on covid. There are many teens who don't behave like little shlts after they lived through covid.

More than likely, their parents are also "mean girl" types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

It's "Tawanda!"... love that scene.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

It's "Tawanda!"... love that scene.

https://americanpopularculture.com/archive/film/towanda.htm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

It’s Towanda. Who are these posters that can’t get their references right?

Everyone knows what they mean. It's not that deep. What's amusing is that the Clueless poster refers to a movie from 1995 and claims she's far too young to understand a reference to a movie from 1991 because it sailed right over her head.