Bullied and Harassed by a group of teens girls at my pool today

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You should have told the lifeguard they were harassing you and gotten them kicked out. Next step is to tell the club owner or membership board so that their parents can be informed.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish you would name the pool. I’d sure want to know if my kid was doing this. But I understand why you’d rather not, OP. I’m really sorry this happened.

Same! I’d tell my daughter I was straight up ashamed of her and that she broke my heart. I know her and that would get to her. You have to shame and guilt young people out of this, it’s the only way some of them will get their heads out of their asses.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be great if all the adults within earshot of this nonsense all stood up together to start laughing, pointing, and recording at the same time.

Exactly. Yesterday I saw a bunch of boys joy riding with a grocery store cart, generally goofing off with it. I walked up to them and told them to put the cart back where it belonged. They looked surprised that anyone cared, but immediately obeyed. Three minutes later, a woman thanked me. She said she should have said something to them, but was too afraid.

I told her that I care, and sometimes caring needs to be an action, not just a feeling.

Most of these kids are neglected at home. They’ll do whatever it takes until someone pays attention to them.

Goofing off with a grocery store cart sounds pretty harmless to me.

They took it off store property, so was actual theft. I guess you’ve never seen one of those things flip when not used correctly. I prefer to speak up if I see something wrong, and I can help stop it. But you do you.

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

What?? HAHAHAHA. Not a Clueless reference. You're a dolt. FRIED GREEN TOMATOES
Loser

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Damage the cars in some way. I figured people would go nuts if it was suggested even joking someone ram their cars. The Clueless reference isn't exactly on point either b/c in the movie it was known that Cher was a virgin and a bad driver. OP knows nothing about these teens. It was a low blow that might not even make sense here since we're going to split hairs and all.

Well, I wasn't wrong. OMG that's a crime!

It was a joke - tongue in cheek good Lord get over yourself

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Middle schoolers are the worst. I have one ultra-courteous child who is now an adult who was never rude at that age, and one 13 year old who has her moments of unbelievable rudeness! I need to constantly remind her that other people's feelings matter, and that she can't just open her mouth and say the first "fun" remark that comes out. They might be fun to say, but they're not fun to hear.

I'm so sorry, OP. If one girl apologized, I'm sure the others felt bad too, but were too ashamed to face you.

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

What?? HAHAHAHA. Not a Clueless reference. You're a dolt. FRIED GREEN TOMATOES
Loser

No one's car was keyed in Fried Green Tomatoes. Is senility kicking in?

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I'm a conflict avoider. I probably would have just gotten up and moved without saying a word, and then I would hope ignoring them would help.

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

It’s Towanda. Who are these posters that can’t get their references right?

Lawanda is from the yaya sisterhood )the elephant) “just climb up on the beast and ride”.

?? The Yaya Sisterhood wasn’t being referenced here.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell them to enjoy their youth while it lasts, as in a blink of an eye they will ancient like me. With a warning that carrying around shame and regret for past behavior ages one faster. When they eventually get around to maturing they will come to understand how hurtful their words and actions are to others.

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Smile and quietly say "karma", followed by "karma's coming" if they continue.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry that happened to you. I teach middle school. Kids have gotten so much worse. Their parents will actually defend this behavior. It is a sad teflection if what our society has become.

What excuse would they use to defend this type of behavior? It's straight up rude.

They won’t believe it happened, or they’ll think it was a misunderstanding. Sadly, I’ve seen this. Even the parents who know how rotten their kids can be will defend them.

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In my 60s I needed some extra $ & got a part-time job at a famous big-box store. Groups of teen boys. Would wander around throwing merchandise we just straightened up & occasionally making fun of the several older guys who were working there. Shameless jerks. Parents are doing a crappy job of raising their kids these days.

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Anonymous wrote:Just point out that they’re virgins who can’t drive.

No you key their cars in the parking lot and tell them you're older and have more insurance.

Okay, but that wouldn’t be a Clueless reference, and it’s a crime.

Right over your head.

You must be a lot older than me because no, I don’t know that.

Your movie knowledge is poor then.

No, yours is. Kathy Bates didn’t key anyone’s car. She repeatedly rammed it. If you're going to use an example, get it right.

Lawanda.

tawanda!

[Anonymous]

Sending you love, OP. It’s not an easy task, but I believe sometimes our purpose on earth is to teach others how to be better people. You obviously made at least one young lady think twice about her behavior (and she is probably rethinking her friend group). There will be a ripple effect. Good came out of this because of you. You positively impacted society. You may have impacted this young lady’s life more profoundly than you realize.

I’m just sorry it has caused you pain. Sending you hugs. Thank you for posting here.