Sleepovers

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

Same. I didn’t let my nephew sleep over with his older brother until he was night trained. No, changing a 4 year old’s diaper in the morning is not “no big deal.” If he could handle it on his own, cool, but I’m not wiping butts unless it’s an emergency.

It really isn’t a big deal. It’s a lot better than them wetting the bed and having to wash everything. I’ve watched older kids who still need them and I’m thankful they have them available.

Older kids wear pull ups and can handle them and change them by themselves. A diaper is totally different and requires an adult to help get it on. Wtf?

Use whatever works best for your child. I’ve seen kids who use both. Not a big deal either way.

Right, but when talking about sleepovers, the question is self sufficiency. If a kid can manage their own diaper, then NBD. But a child old enough to sleep over someone else’s house is too old to have a non-parent helping them with undergarments.

Mine only sleep over with other family or with some close family friends I’ve known for a very long time. I’d trust them to help if it was needed. I used to babysit when I was a teen and if a kid needed help with something I didn’t mind helping.

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Anonymous wrote:What happens with mixed gender friends?

My 7 year old has a gender fluid boy friend that hangs out with the girls and gets invited to sleepovers. She also has her male cousins sleep over often, but they've grown up together and don't "count" as guests at this point.

4th grade son's best buddy is a girl, met her in preschool they started having sleepovers then and still have them regularly right now.

What kinds of activities do they do together? Has he started asking questions about gender differences yet?

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Predators can be adults, siblings of friends, or classmates. We do not have any way to know who else might be in the house during a sleepover, so we just do not do any sleepovers. Maybe other folks have some method of vetting everyone who might be at the sleepover house ?