Sleepovers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens with mixed gender friends?

My 7 year old has a gender fluid boy friend that hangs out with the girls and gets invited to sleepovers. She also has her male cousins sleep over often, but they've grown up

together and don't "count" as guests at this point.

Dafuq

If that surprises you, just wait until middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. They only sleepover with cousins/family, not friends.

Lol that you think that’s any safer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

Same. I didn’t let my nephew sleep over with his older brother until he was night trained. No, changing a 4 year old’s diaper in the morning is not “no big deal.” If he could handle it on his own, cool, but I’m not wiping butts unless it’s an emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

Same. I didn’t let my nephew sleep over with his older brother until he was night trained. No, changing a 4 year old’s diaper in the morning is not “no big deal.” If he could handle it on his own, cool, but I’m not wiping butts unless it’s an emergency.

It really isn’t a big deal. It’s a lot better than them wetting the bed and having to wash everything. I’ve watched older kids who still need them and I’m thankful they have them available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

Same. I didn’t let my nephew sleep over with his older brother until he was night trained. No, changing a 4 year old’s diaper in the morning is not “no big deal.” If he could handle it on his own, cool, but I’m not wiping butts unless it’s an emergency.

It really isn’t a big deal. It’s a lot better than them wetting the bed and having to wash everything. I’ve watched older kids who still need them and I’m thankful they have them available.

These kids have been sleeping over for years. No, we put down an absorbent pad when his brother still had occasional accidents. Would much rather wash a pad than change a preschooler’s diaper like he was a baby. Accidents happen, pull-ups are sometimes needed in older kids, but an untrained preschooler with a full diaper and maybe POOP can wait another year or two.

[Anonymous]

No on my watch. There is no way to ensure DC stay safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. They only sleepover with cousins/family, not friends.

Cousin’s dad molested me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12

This was the age I stopped letting my son have any. Trouble started happening with sneaking out +

My daughter is still having them but I want to stop soon. The groups are getting bigger and it’s only a matter of time before big groups overnight leads to no good.

They probably started around 7-8 with good friends when we knew the parents.

[Anonymous]

When they go to college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. They only sleepover with cousins/family, not friends.

Lol that you think that’s any safer.

Not PP but there are different levels of safety. One level is knowing where you child is sleeping (I.e. knowing the family very well).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happens with mixed gender friends?

They have sleepovers.

They don't have sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Oldest was 11, youngest was 9. But that had more to do with COVID than anything else.

[Anonymous]

My DD is in kindergarten and her peer group are starting to do them. I hear mixed things from various parents. My .02 is that most six year olds aren't really ready for it. We did one and she was EXHAUSTED and miserable for the rest of the weekend, so we aren't going to repeat that any time soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they feel ready (as long as they're fully toilet trained, which in our family, means being able to go into the bathroom with a closed door, handle everything they need to do including washing hands, and come out by themselves).

One kid felt ready at 4, the other at 6, another at 7.

You wouldn’t let kids sleepover who still use diapers for overnight?

I wouldn't let my kids go to a sleepover if they need help in the bathroom, and I don't want to help anyone else's kid in the bathroom.

Same. I didn’t let my nephew sleep over with his older brother until he was night trained. No, changing a 4 year old’s diaper in the morning is not “no big deal.” If he could handle it on his own, cool, but I’m not wiping butts unless it’s an emergency.

It really isn’t a big deal. It’s a lot better than them wetting the bed and having to wash everything. I’ve watched older kids who still need them and I’m thankful they have them available.

So many big kids now use overnight pull-ups and it’s not something that I think should prevent them from participating in sleepovers and other social activities.