SIL is mad at me

[Anonymous]

What is the normal reaction to someone inserting themselves into a disagreement between a husband and wife and telling the wife "wow you are controlling"?

I'm a very easygoing, passive person and "nobody asked you" is probably the nicest thing I would consider saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This genuinely happened. What part seems weird/ unbelievable to you?

The part where a grown adult would think it's a good idea to intervene in a marital spat to call his wife's sister "controlling"

It is unbelievable to me that someone would seek to borrow that amount of trouble

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My SIL-my wife's sister is mad at me.

We were at a family event in the church hall and she was giving her husband shit about something.

I said: wow you are controlling.
She said: I didn't ask for your f***** opinion. I wasn't talking to you.
I said: I can give my opinion if I want.
She said: not to me, I don't want it.
I said: I can state my opinion.

She ignored me for the rest of the day.
Was I wrong?

Both of you are wrong but I wouldn't care too much if someone who uses her language in church is upset with me. In fact, consider it a blessing.

It was a church HALL. Not church.

Um, and?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the normal reaction to someone inserting themselves into a disagreement between a husband and wife and telling the wife "wow you are controlling"?

I'm a very easygoing, passive person and "nobody asked you" is probably the nicest thing I would consider saying.

Op reminds me of my DD, she just does not know when to stop, just shut up. There is a point where a little switch should go on and you should just back off. Listen to that switch Op. You are wrong here.

[Anonymous]

I'm allowed to voice an opinion. She can't control me as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm allowed to voice an opinion. She can't control me as well.

And you can deal with the consequences like an adult. You asked if you were wrong and we are telling you, yes, you are wrong. If you were my BIL I would've told you to STFU and mind your business.

[Anonymous]

I've known since I was a small child one thing

1. Never get involved when a woman or man is talking to their spouse or their kids.

Op you are wrong and should apologize. You sound very immature. Likely very young if this is real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've known since I was a small child one thing

1. Never get involved when a woman or man is talking to their spouse or their kids.

Op you are wrong and should apologize. You sound very immature. Likely very young if this is real.

I'm 63.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you OP. You make it everyone's business if you're berating your spouse in public. I probably wouldn't say anything to strangers because you don't know what they are capable of but a SIL of years? Yeah, I might depending on the situation. And yes, I'd deal with the consequences of being ignored. So what. Ignore me. I won't say that you're not "wrong" in the sense that you could have chosen to remain silent and "keep peace" but I'm not mad that you spoke your mind. Don't want your family piping in to your argument? Don't argue outloud and dress down your husband in front of your in-laws. She's trash.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's your fault.

Never go in between others people's marriage.

I thought religious people understood that better. And I'm Agnostic.

[Anonymous]

Go apologize you azhole OP.

You are nobady. Go mind your own business. Maybe you are a wife beater. Let's start a gossip at the church! You misogynistic ahole

[Anonymous]

I think OP has the devil inside of himself

[Anonymous]

OP, we were aggressive with you comment and this argument is between your brother and her. He didn't marry you. Fgot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL-my wife's sister is mad at me.

We were at a family event in the church hall and she was giving her husband shit about something.

I said: wow you are controlling.
She said: I didn't ask for your f***** opinion. I wasn't talking to you.
I said: I can give my opinion if I want.
She said: not to me, I don't want it.
I said: I can state my opinion.

She ignored me for the rest of the day.
Was I wrong?

Yes, you were wrong. As I say to my kids, if it’s not to you, or about you, then keep your opinion to yourself. Adding your energy to what sounds like an already tense exchange doesn’t diffuse anything. If you’re really worried about your BIL then ask him how he is privately

[Anonymous]

OP, shut your mouth! Your brother DID NOT MARRY YOU, YOU AHOOOLE!!

You were aggressive with your naive aggressive comment. Go apologize to her in public since you feel macho man to say that nasty comment in public like a stup I'd c u NT.