BD gift disappointment and vent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My BD today. DH went away with a few of his besties this weekend as one had a big BD. He needs a break so great that he could get away.

He got in very, very late so is still asleep. He left two gifts for me on table - the bigger gift wrap included 2 t-shirts from his weekend destination - perhaps a 13 y.o. could fit in they are so small. The smaller is a truly knock off Alhambra bracelet and too small for my wrist.

The cards are wonderful and thrilled that he thinks I am the same size from our early years. Just wish he would have stopped there. He probably spent all in 2-3K for his weekend away and these gifts probably come in at around $50 total.

Just wish he would have left it with the cards.

Vent done.

Wow! You got a bracelet and it is still not enough?
It’s my birthday today and I got a card and a snack i like - LOL!
yes, we are going to a nice dinner.
i would not want a $2K gift, i would rather spendvthst the house or a family vacation.

How is what you want relevant? You must suck at gift giving. How have you gotten to your age and not learned not everyone likes or does the same things as you?

How did you get to your big and not know everyone is a great gift giver abd that is not a character flaw?
Not getting exactly what you want is not the end of the world.
You and OP need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He thought about you, said there is that. Don’t expect people to read your mind. Tell him what you would like for a present before your next birthday, Christmas, etc

No, there is not that. He's a grown up. He doesn't need to have everything spoonfed to him like a fuxxing child. I'm all for hints or ideas for gifts, within reason. But sometimes, you can expect them to listen, to know what your own wife likes. Somehow Im able to do that. . .

Why you doormat women give your loser husbands a pass for everything is beyond me.

What an idiot. He is a loser because he bought gifts she did not like??
Grow up.

Yes, men who can't think about their wives likes and dislikes, and be thoughtful on their birthday. Or who expect to be told what to do like a child = losers. Sorry if your DH is one. Hit a nerve?

Grow up! She got a nice gift , get a life.

[Anonymous]

I'd wear the tiny shirts for sexy times and bust out of it/the bracelet Hulk style when engaged in the act. Teach him a lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd wear the tiny shirts for sexy times and bust out of it/the bracelet Hulk style when engaged in the act. Teach him a lesson.

Don't threaten me with a good time.

Lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does he think you are buying a bag for yourself and these are just extra trinkets?

DH was alarmed I opened the gifts on my own - "I was going to explain these were just teasers." Knowing him, I know that is what he meant. He just doesn't put together that it would simply be better to get cards than these clearly cheap last minute teasers (which the cards could be!).

He used to be very, very bad at gifts, then we worked out a plan and that's probably why I am flummoxed because these gifts smacked of the old days when I would spend ~$150-200 and he would get me a coffee cup.

I think it’s weird you didn’t open them together.

I agree. I would never open gifts from my husband without him being there. Part of the joy is is his pleasure in watching me. Also, it's kind of like being a four year old who can't wait to tear off the wrapping. Very weird. Have some self control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Does he think you are buying a bag for yourself and these are just extra trinkets?

DH was alarmed I opened the gifts on my own - "I was going to explain these were just teasers." Knowing him, I know that is what he meant. He just doesn't put together that it would simply be better to get cards than these clearly cheap last minute teasers (which the cards could be!).

He used to be very, very bad at gifts, then we worked out a plan and that's probably why I am flummoxed because these gifts smacked of the old days when I would spend ~$150-200 and he would get me a coffee cup.

I think it’s weird you didn’t open them together.

I agree. I would never open gifts from my husband without him being there. Part of the joy is is his pleasure in watching me. Also, it's kind of like being a four year old who can't wait to tear off the wrapping. Very weird. Have some self control.

My DH and I open gifts without the other all the time. There's a joy in receiving a call/text after a gift is opened. I think it’s weird you don't know people can have traditions that are different than yours or like to experience things differently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he think you are buying a bag for yourself and these are just extra trinkets?

DH was alarmed I opened the gifts on my own - "I was going to explain these were just teasers." Knowing him, I know that is what he meant. He just doesn't put together that it would simply be better to get cards than these clearly cheap last minute teasers (which the cards could be!).

He used to be very, very bad at gifts, then we worked out a plan and that's probably why I am flummoxed because these gifts smacked of the old days when I would spend ~$150-200 and he would get me a coffee cup.

I think it’s weird you didn’t open them together.

I agree. I would never open gifts from my husband without him being there. Part of the joy is is his pleasure in watching me. Also, it's kind of like being a four year old who can't wait to tear off the wrapping. Very weird. Have some self control.

My DH and I open gifts without the other all the time. There's a joy in receiving a call/text after a gift is opened. I think it’s weird you don't know people can have traditions that are different than yours or like to experience things differently.

Do you and your husband live apart, that you need to call or text each other upon opening a gift? If OP and her husband are living in the same house, the polite thing to do is to wait until he gives her the gifts, and open them in front of him. Would you be cool with your kid tearing into their presents with you not around to watch their reaction (and likely document it, let's be honest)? No, you'd be pissed and think it was rude. Because it is.

[Anonymous]

I nearly broke up with a boyfriend for an almost identical situation, right down to the souvenir gifts, about 25 years ago. He's my husband now. He still sucks as gift-giving. It no longer bothers me because now I realize it's not a reflection of how he feels about me, he just doesn't get it when it comes to gifts. I'm not saying the gifts don't suck, just not to read more into it than is really there. Now I tell DH exactly what to do and what to get me, and we have no more disappointment. Better for everyone that way.

[Anonymous]

Picky women drive the husband nuts- impossible to please them with gifts and after a few years of failure we give up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Picky women drive the husband nuts- impossible to please them with gifts and after a few years of failure we give up.

I'm genuinely curious here. How can you be married to someone and not have an inkling of what kind of gift they might like, what they enjoy, what makes them happy? It's really not that hard. I've definitely given some clunkers to my husband, but they were well thought out and it turns out he just doesn't use them (like some golf gadgets I thought he might like. One was a home run, the other not so much, but at least it shows that I understand he has an interest in golf.)