Why don’t U.S. hospitals let women sleep quietly for the night in the hospital after giving birth?

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Anonymous wrote:I had two c-sections at VHC. They took both babies to the nursery until they were ready to nurse. Maybe try a different hospital.

What years? In 2012 I got a nursery. In 2018 and 2021 I was SOL. I told them I wasn't nursing, even though I was, to try to get precious recovery time. Didn't work.

Oh that’s terrible. My last baby was born in 2014, and they would still take the baby to the nursery, but brought him back if he cried, so I could only sleep 2 or 3 hours at a time anyway.

Um ok. The nurses wouldn’t take my baby AT ALL so I didn’t sleep more than 30-45 mins at a time between baby crying/nursing and staff coming in to check on us.

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For me it wasn’t just the nurses, but the sheer volume of people and none of them coordinate.

-the nurses who do vitals
-the residents
-the actual docs
-the janitor/people emptying trash
-the person who would take my blood (not the same as the nurses)
-the pharmacy people
-the pediatrician
-the people in charge of the paperwork/birth certificate
-the lactation consultant
-I’m probably forgetting a few

It was so horrible. I still cannot fathom why things are set up this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I had my 3rd baby last year, a nurse told me to be careful handling the baby when I was tired because "babies get dropped all the time here." WHAT?! I am a lawyer and I had half a mind to get her to ask her to say that again slowly into the camera.

It's absolutely shocking what we tolerate when we can blame a woman for bad outcomes.

Jeeeeesus.

[Anonymous]

After having my first at a "baby friendly" hospital, which sounded great to me as a first time mom (who wouldn't want that?!), I intentionally had my second at one without that designation. The difference in amount of rest wasn't huge but I think I was able to send the baby to the nursery overnight for like 2 hours.

[Anonymous]

I had a C-section with twins. Honestly, it wasn’t that bad IMO. I didn’t really expect to get any sleep. Left early after both my deliveries.

My mom stayed overnight with me which was awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was because of an unpleasant hospital delivery for my first that I chose maternity center delivery for my 2nd and home water-birth for my 3rd. No strangers, no weird roommates. Low lights, low music, solid sleep between feedings.

Very dangerous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me it wasn’t just the nurses, but the sheer volume of people and none of them coordinate.

-the nurses who do vitals
-the residents
-the actual docs
-the janitor/people emptying trash
-the person who would take my blood (not the same as the nurses)
-the pharmacy people
-the pediatrician
-the people in charge of the paperwork/birth certificate
-the lactation consultant
-I’m probably forgetting a few

It was so horrible. I still cannot fathom why things are set up this way.

-the chaplain
-the photographer
-the cafeteria menu lady

[Anonymous]

No one sleeps in the hospital. Everyone gets checks. Use the bassinet. Have someone stay with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one sleeps in the hospital. Everyone gets checks. Use the bassinet. Have someone stay with you.

No. The baby is a patient and should be cared for by hospital staff. Not by another patient that just had an intensive medical procedure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one sleeps in the hospital. Everyone gets checks. Use the bassinet. Have someone stay with you.

No. The baby is a patient and should be cared for by hospital staff. Not by another patient that just had an intensive medical procedure.

Yes. I agree. But it’s not going to happen. I’ve never heard of any patient not having broken sleep. I’m not saying it’s ok. It is the norm though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one sleeps in the hospital. Everyone gets checks. Use the bassinet. Have someone stay with you.

No. The baby is a patient and should be cared for by hospital staff. Not by another patient that just had an intensive medical procedure.

Yes. I agree. But it’s not going to happen. I’ve never heard of any patient not having broken sleep. I’m not saying it’s ok. It is the norm though.

Because not enough people push back. Women have accepted that they must put up with poor treatment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, are there hospitals that will not let you send the baby to the hospital in between feedings? Like they actually do more than encourage you to keep the baby in your room, they actually say "no"????? I didn't know this was a thing. I admit its been a while but for each of my deliveries I requested this and it was not a problem.

No, that is not happening.

Tell me you haven’t given birth recently without telling me you haven’t given birth recently.

They cannot deny your request.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, are there hospitals that will not let you send the baby to the hospital in between feedings? Like they actually do more than encourage you to keep the baby in your room, they actually say "no"????? I didn't know this was a thing. I admit its been a while but for each of my deliveries I requested this and it was not a problem.

No, that is not happening.

Tell me you haven’t given birth recently without telling me you haven’t given birth recently.

They cannot deny your request.

Sure they can. Many local hospitals no longer have nurseries. Or do not have staff to cover the nursery. Where do you think your baby will go when you keep asking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one sleeps in the hospital. Everyone gets checks. Use the bassinet. Have someone stay with you.

No. The baby is a patient and should be cared for by hospital staff. Not by another patient that just had an intensive medical procedure.

Yes. I agree. But it’s not going to happen. I’ve never heard of any patient not having broken sleep. I’m not saying it’s ok. It is the norm though.

So, my daughter was hospitalized in 2019 with pneumonia for a few days, and I stayed with her. At night, the people who came to take vital signs had those little headlamps on them, and they managed to do what they needed to do without turning on the light in the room or waking her up. Otherwise, the lights were off the whole night. So, the nurses can, if they want to and think it's important, but apparently most of the time they don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me it wasn’t just the nurses, but the sheer volume of people and none of them coordinate.

-the nurses who do vitals
-the residents
-the actual docs
-the janitor/people emptying trash
-the person who would take my blood (not the same as the nurses)
-the pharmacy people
-the pediatrician
-the people in charge of the paperwork/birth certificate
-the lactation consultant
-I’m probably forgetting a few

It was so horrible. I still cannot fathom why things are set up this way.

-the chaplain
-the photographer
-the cafeteria menu lady

The person who comes in before you can be discharged to give you the little “baby safety” speech.