Got a Favorite Grandchild?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an only child with 2 kids. If I had to pick, I’d say my mom’s favorite is her grandson (my oldest). He was an easy baby, and she had more energy with him. DD is a complete sweetheart now at 8, but she was a fussy baby and didn’t want anyone near her except for me so it took longer for her to bond with grandma. I don’t think either of my kids would think grandma had a favorite though.

Favoring the eldest is completely unfair to the rest of the grandchildren. Such BS excuses.

I'm not sure it applies here, but I don't think you can blame parents for changes in energy as people age.

My oldest and youngest niece are 23 years apart in age. The oldest has lots of memories of a grandmother the youngest 4 children will never meet. On the other hand, when she was little her grandfather was working long hours, caring for his own aging parents, and parenting two kids still at home. He adored her, and spent time with her, but it was a few hours a week. Now, he's retired and watches his daughter's toddler 40 hours a week.

That's not favoritism. It's life.

+1 my mom was 67 when my first was born and 73 when my 3rd arrived. She aged so much in those 5 years. She loves all 3 kids but her interactions with them as babies were significantly different.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents claim they don’t, but they definitely do. They don’t show it in any way the kids know and they’re loving and devoted to all the grands, so I don’t think it’s a big deal.

For my mom, it’s the carbon-copy of one of her kids. I think it just takes her back!

For my dad, it’s actually somewhat random BUT it’s the child he held the most as an infant and she took to him immediately. Perhaps that’s why?

(One of these kids is mine, one isn’t, FWIW).

For MIL it is the one that is most like her favorite child. :BARF: