“Anti-prom” event

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

DP. I would not be shamed in the least if you did that, PP. It's the right thing to do. Are you really supporting the organization of a large party with underage kids with no controls whatsoever? YOU are the problem. If you ever did this, and a kid died, was injured or was assaulted as a direct consequence of your party, how would that make you feel? What if you were sued as a result? And lost, and went to jail?

The shoe is on the other foot here.

I wouldn’t ORGANIZE the party, but I would ATTEND the party. And stop being a stick in the mud (I thought we were throwing 19th century witticisms around)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

DP. I would not be shamed in the least if you did that, PP. It's the right thing to do. Are you really supporting the organization of a large party with underage kids with no controls whatsoever? YOU are the problem. If you ever did this, and a kid died, was injured or was assaulted as a direct consequence of your party, how would that make you feel? What if you were sued as a result? And lost, and went to jail?

The shoe is on the other foot here.

You are on. Bring it.

The 19th century saying is a dead giveaway.

Dp-a giveaway to what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.

I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.

It’s not your job. You are meddling. Some of these kids are adults in most countries of the world.

I'm not meddling. I'm not reporting the party. I am simply saying no to my children.

I think that’s a decision you will likely come to regret, with respect. I think with every action like that you lose some of that child. Unless the party is a known bedlam in unsafe building (but wait, I went to like a 100 raves just like that).

Just teach your kid how to behave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

DP. I would not be shamed in the least if you did that, PP. It's the right thing to do. Are you really supporting the organization of a large party with underage kids with no controls whatsoever? YOU are the problem. If you ever did this, and a kid died, was injured or was assaulted as a direct consequence of your party, how would that make you feel? What if you were sued as a result? And lost, and went to jail?

The shoe is on the other foot here.

You are on. Bring it.

The 19th century saying is a dead giveaway.

Dp-a giveaway to what?

Boring town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.

I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.

It’s not your job. You are meddling. Some of these kids are adults in most countries of the world.

I'm not meddling. I'm not reporting the party. I am simply saying no to my children.

I think that’s a decision you will likely come to regret, with respect. I think with every action like that you lose some of that child. Unless the party is a known bedlam in unsafe building (but wait, I went to like a 100 raves just like that).

Just teach your kid how to behave

My kids know how to behave. I'm sorry you feel you would lose part of your child by saying no. I have a very different viewpoint.

[Anonymous]

Wow. What a come back. I’m not insecure like you do that doesn’t affect me. My kids would take a no without a problem because it’s not doled out without a big need.

This applies to you because you are in the land of no first (what if it’s a Russian troll farm event)! It’s a well know thing in psychology. Look it up. It undermines the kids and the relationship over time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the pro anti-prom people-what are the benefits (given that kids have smaller parties all the time?) Why the night before the school’s prom? Would you really not worry about liability? Not being snarky I’m really wondering

I genuinely have no problem with it. But how are you liable? Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the pro anti-prom people-what are the benefits (given that kids have smaller parties all the time?) Why the night before the school’s prom? Would you really not worry about liability? Not being snarky I’m really wondering

GDS does their own thing. This is being held in the neighborhood with loud music and out of control drunk teenagers to stick it to the ANC.

[Anonymous]

But what liability are you all talking about?

You’re not hosts, you’re just the busybodies, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about the pro anti-prom people-what are the benefits (given that kids have smaller parties all the time?) Why the night before the school’s prom? Would you really not worry about liability? Not being snarky I’m really wondering

GDS does their own thing. This is being held in the neighborhood with loud music and out of control drunk teenagers to stick it to the ANC.

It was high time somebody stuck it to the ANC.

If it’s not Biden, it’ll be my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But what liability are you all talking about?

You’re not hosts, you’re just the busybodies, right?

I am wondering if hosts/people who would consider hosting would worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?

If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.

Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!

DP. I can’t believe the crazy immaturity of these posts. Is this one poster?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But what liability are you all talking about?

You’re not hosts, you’re just the busybodies, right?

I am wondering if hosts/people who would consider hosting would worry about it.

But that’s for them to worry about, no? It is not news to them I’m certain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But what liability are you all talking about?

You’re not hosts, you’re just the busybodies, right?

I am wondering if hosts/people who would consider hosting would worry about it.

But that’s for them to worry about, no? It is not news to them I’m certain

I forgot this was dcum where only entirely necessary and personally relevant questions are asked.

[Anonymous]

wish someone would list the school

OP if you do so, the school might find out and try to end it if this is your desire.... I know our school would try to do so - but our school is very much a contender on parents who would do this sort of thing!