Are your kids embarrassed to be at a top school?

[Anonymous]

My kids are at big 3s and I donMt flaunt it especially around public school parents. I just feel like they would assume we are rich and look down in their public schools (which neither is true). We make sacrifices to send the kids there, but are also able to

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Anonymous wrote:I will admit that I find it embarrassing. Few people in my neighborhood could afford private and it's the only real "tell" that we are higher income. I have felt other moms withdraw once they realize we are probably wealthier than they would otherwise have thought.

Are you sure that’s the reason they withdraw? Could be a lot of reasons.

I'm in one of those neighborhoods with kids in public, applying for this fall. The moms do gossip about so and so is in private and I don't know what it is but they do think of the families as different once that happens. I noticed it because we've been thinking about applying for private for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re liberal and full pay it can be a bit embarrassing to admit your kids are not in public.

Right. It's a combination of hypocrisy and Bethesda Guilt.

What the issue? I pay my taxes and fund public schools and then my kids go elsewhere. I’m not begging for public tax dollars to fund my private school choice.

[Anonymous]

It's because the whole "top" thing is not real. There are great, smart, athletic kids everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Noticing this now with some parents and kids at our W being really awkward in saying their child is going to a particular school.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to seem showy.

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Anonymous wrote:I will admit that I find it embarrassing. Few people in my neighborhood could afford private and it's the only real "tell" that we are higher income. I have felt other moms withdraw once they realize we are probably wealthier than they would otherwise have thought.

They sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

I'm a public school parent and some of my friends have kids at St Albans, Sidwell and Landon. It's never been awkward. They just told me where their child was going. I live in a Bethesda neighborhood where it's half public, half private school kids. My friends are in Bethesda and Potomac. No one bats an eye here when a school name is mentioned. Just like no one bats an eye when a college is mentioned. A friend's kid goes to Yale, another one was rejected from University of Maryland and goes to a small local college. It's all fine.

[Anonymous]

We don’t keep school magnets on the cars or wear anything that advertises the school unless the kids are going to school or we are at a school sports event. In this day and age, it’s feels insensitive and out of touch to do otherwise. Not necessarily embarrassed

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Anonymous wrote:Probably a GDS family. Since they pissed of the neighborhood over enrolling kids there. Also perhaps they are embarrassed how woke the school is and they are in a more conservative circle?

Do unto others, dude. Why such bizarre animosity? What if people talked sh*t about your kid's school? Oh, and as a Tenley resident, they did not piss off the neighborhood, btw. Just five anc members

OP said a Big 3 so wasn’t GDS.

Huh? The big 3 are the Cathedral Schools, Sidwell, and GDS.

[Anonymous]

OMG no one is really embarrassed. When we are learned to speak WASP at our mothers’ bosom practically we learnt to say Groton and Cambridge. It’s just a thing. Like where do you summer? I mean, what else?

[Anonymous]

I just assume you too go to Sidwell unless you insist on telling me otherwise. So I assume when I say our school you know what I mean

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably a GDS family. Since they pissed of the neighborhood over enrolling kids there. Also perhaps they are embarrassed how woke the school is and they are in a more conservative circle?

Do unto others, dude. Why such bizarre animosity? What if people talked sh*t about your kid's school? Oh, and as a Tenley resident, they did not piss off the neighborhood, btw. Just five anc members

OP said a Big 3 so wasn’t GDS.

Hehehe 😂

[Anonymous]

Not at a top school, but we normally don’t name DC’s school to anyone. Why should we ? Neither do our neighbors, though sometimes one learns accidentally if one drives by when their school bus is unloading in the afternoon.