meetup at playground

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Anonymous wrote:The other parents decided they didn't want to hang out with your standoffish dick of a husband.

Seriously, he goes to the park with these other families and then spends the whole time on his phone, ignoring the other adults? They noticed that he seems to have confused SAHM with "volunteer daycare provider" and opted to get together elsewhere, where they won't be treated as beneath his notice.
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If your child is young enough that you're going to playdates and sticking around, as opposed to dropping off somewhere, common courtesy and basic politeness requires you to make small talk with the other parents in your group. not ignore them (and in their minds, your child as well) for something you deign more interesting.

+100 Your husband needs to get with the program! My husband used to do this too and thankfully a close friend set him straight. If he wants to be unfriendly, people aren't going to want to make plans with him, duh!

This father agrees.

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Yeah, sorry, your husband really should have socialized with the moms instead of ignoring them. Blame him.

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Anonymous wrote:There are a ton of sexist comments about a man on his phone wanting free babysitting. Chit chatting gossipy women at the park not watching their kids are just as guilty of wanting free babysitting.

It is even worse at the pool where they expect the lifeguards to watch their kids.

If a mom met me at the playground and she ignored me and sat on a bench on her phone, I would not make plans with her again.

+1 It is isn't about gender at all. I had a mom do this and I never bothered making plans with her again.

Of course it is gendered. No one wants to make small talk with someone’s husband for an hour every week. So, either the other mom comes and has no one to socialize with and stands there alone while dad is on the bench on his phone or they have to make small talk. Neither is awesome. My child gets plenty of other socializing so I wouldn’t feel compelled to do this

That someone's husband is a person. Do you not have male friends? Are you incapable of talking to a man about the same things that you talk to a woman about? Do you have some sort of anxiety or other mental health issues?

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Anonymous wrote:At that age it’s about parent friendships. Your husband was not friendly.

Everyone keeps blaming the dad here but I'm not sure it was just cuz he was standoffish. If it was reversed and he was super friendly, there goes the rumor mill that he's cheating or flirting with other women. Is it stupid that this would happen, yes, but you know it does.

No, no it doesn't. My daughter's best friend has a busy working mom and a stay at home dad who is very friendly, always at events with all the moms, and no one has ever accused him of having an affair with anyone. He's just one of the other parents. Where do you live, PP?

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Anonymous wrote:There are a ton of sexist comments about a man on his phone wanting free babysitting. Chit chatting gossipy women at the park not watching their kids are just as guilty of wanting free babysitting.

It is even worse at the pool where they expect the lifeguards to watch their kids.

If a mom met me at the playground and she ignored me and sat on a bench on her phone, I would not make plans with her again.

+1 It is isn't about gender at all. I had a mom do this and I never bothered making plans with her again.

Of course it is gendered. No one wants to make small talk with someone’s husband for an hour every week. So, either the other mom comes and has no one to socialize with and stands there alone while dad is on the bench on his phone or they have to make small talk. Neither is awesome. My child gets plenty of other socializing so I wouldn’t feel compelled to do this

That someone's husband is a person. Do you not have male friends? Are you incapable of talking to a man about the same things that you talk to a woman about? Do you have some sort of anxiety or other mental health issues?

Capable, yes. But I wouldn’t want to make small talk 1:1 with a random dad every week for more than a few minutes.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom 1 cancelled because the time no longer worked for her due to a schedule change.
Mom 2 cancelled because she would now have no friend to talk to, making it no longer worth her while on a Friday evening. She either doesn't want to talk to your DH because he's a guy or she figures he doesn't want to talk to her since he's been off on his phone up until this point.

All NBD in the end. Kids are still friends. Invite the girls over for a playdate at your house, or offer to take them to the playground during a time that works for you. Or ask if they would all (kids and moms) like to meet at a different time at the playground. Etc.

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Anonymous wrote:There are a ton of sexist comments about a man on his phone wanting free babysitting. Chit chatting gossipy women at the park not watching their kids are just as guilty of wanting free babysitting.

It is even worse at the pool where they expect the lifeguards to watch their kids.

If a mom met me at the playground and she ignored me and sat on a bench on her phone, I would not make plans with her again.

+1 It is isn't about gender at all. I had a mom do this and I never bothered making plans with her again.

Of course it is gendered. No one wants to make small talk with someone’s husband for an hour every week. So, either the other mom comes and has no one to socialize with and stands there alone while dad is on the bench on his phone or they have to make small talk. Neither is awesome. My child gets plenty of other socializing so I wouldn’t feel compelled to do this

That someone's husband is a person. Do you not have male friends? Are you incapable of talking to a man about the same things that you talk to a woman about? Do you have some sort of anxiety or other mental health issues?

Capable, yes. But I wouldn’t want to make small talk 1:1 with a random dad every week for more than a few minutes.

+100 You'd probably have a budding romance after a few of these, no? Busy parents barely have enough time to chat with their own DHs. lol

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the moms want to bond and hang out with other available moms. They feel weird that your husband isolated himself and is scrolling mindlessly on his phone rather than interacting. girls become closer friends when parents make an effort to be friends and get to know one another. If i don't know a mom/family well, you can bet I'm not letting them play date at your house.

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I think the moms found your husband sexy and he's not giving them attention. It makes aby woman upset

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I'm sure your DH gave them some chit chat, talking. Maybe they just to be with other females, or had other things to do, emergency. Who the fk knows.

I used to do playmates with other moms, I'm a mom. I'm shy but I do talk, just not A LOT, not every minute.
Some moms are so annoying and mean. If you're lucky you will meet nice pe

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*nice people

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Parents are on their phones too. Mom's especially, just like the nanny.

If you wanna chat long azz time then go to a bar. Alcoholic.

You can't be glued to your child 24/7. Let them breathe

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a sexist response to parenting while male. The dad trust the daughter to play on her own and doesn’t need to hover nor engage in chit chat.

Pretty sexist to not at least try to make friendly conversation with other parents

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Anonymous wrote:Parents are on their phones too. Mom's especially, just like the nanny.

If you wanna chat long azz time then go to a bar. Alcoholic.

You can't be glued to your child 24/7. Let them breathe

If I am meeting other people at a park, I am not on my phone. My kids are old enough that I don’t need to hover over them when we are out so yes, if it just my kids and me, I may return some emails or texts while my kids play. i would not be doing that while hanging out with others. that is just rude.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a sexist response to parenting while male. The dad trust the daughter to play on her own and doesn’t need to hover nor engage in chit chat.

Why is this sexist especially if there are others to talk to?

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