meetup at playground

[Anonymous]

I'm dealing with bigger issues here but what do you all think happened here?

DD was meeting at the neighborhood playground with 2 friends from school. She is new at the school so we are taking any socialization we can get.

DH was bringing her to these casual meetups for about an hour. He would hang out on a bench on his phone while the other stay at home moms would socialize @ 4:10 on Fridays.

Suddenly after about 4-5 of these regular reliable meetups, one of the moms started canceling.
In response the other mom, cancelled as well. The girls in school keep playing and are friends and keep wanting to meet at the playground. Any discussion to meetup gets canceled after school on Friday in text from the same friend.

DD is obviously not meeting up with them anymore as a regular thing. I'm just wondering what happened? I'm sure something changed. I'm not getting super involved. DD says they are still friends and friendly at school.

[Anonymous]

One mom couldn’t do it anymore because of her schedule, and the other mom felt awkward going when the other mom wasn’t there.

[Anonymous]

They wanted to meet at 4:08 and nobody agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dealing with bigger issues here but what do you all think happened here?

DD was meeting at the neighborhood playground with 2 friends from school. She is new at the school so we are taking any socialization we can get.

DH was bringing her to these casual meetups for about an hour. He would hang out on a bench on his phone while the other stay at home moms would socialize @ 4:10 on Fridays.

Suddenly after about 4-5 of these regular reliable meetups, one of the moms started canceling.
In response the other mom, cancelled as well. The girls in school keep playing and are friends and keep wanting to meet at the playground. Any discussion to meetup gets canceled after school on Friday in text from the same friend.

DD is obviously not meeting up with them anymore as a regular thing. I'm just wondering what happened? I'm sure something changed. I'm not getting super involved. DD says they are still friends and friendly at school.

it is this

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I totally follow but maybe they think it's weird your husband comes and sits on his phone and ignores them. Even if they are SAHMs, as if they are not worthy of his attention or interest for 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a sexist response to parenting while male. The dad trust the daughter to play on her own and doesn’t need to hover nor engage in chit chat.

[Anonymous]

I have a kindergarten daughter. I go to the playground with adults I like. I honestly never met a dad at a playground. I have met a few nannies and I don’t like to do that either. My daughter had a good friend from preschool and the nanny was friendly enough so I met up a handful of times. I liked the mom and the mom would send the nanny. It was weird with the nanny at my house so I told the nanny she didn’t have to stay.

I would not want to meet up with a parent, male or female, who is just on their phone.

I would totally be ok with a drop off play date at my house or invite my kid over to your house. I do not want to meet some dad at a playground on a Friday afternoon, especially when it is cold. I don’t want to meet a mom I like or an awkward mom on her phone either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a sexist response to parenting while male. The dad trust the daughter to play on her own and doesn’t need to hover nor engage in chit chat.

Why is this sexist especially if there are others to talk to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a sexist response to parenting while male. The dad trust the daughter to play on her own and doesn’t need to hover nor engage in chit chat.

Why is this sexist especially if there are others to talk to?

Never mind, can’t read lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kindergarten daughter. I go to the playground with adults I like. I honestly never met a dad at a playground. I have met a few nannies and I don’t like to do that either. My daughter had a good friend from preschool and the nanny was friendly enough so I met up a handful of times. I liked the mom and the mom would send the nanny. It was weird with the nanny at my house so I told the nanny she didn’t have to stay.

I would not want to meet up with a parent, male or female, who is just on their phone.

I would totally be ok with a drop off play date at my house or invite my kid over to your house. I do not want to meet some dad at a playground on a Friday afternoon, especially when it is cold. I don’t want to meet a mom I like or an awkward mom on her phone either.

This! If I’m going too, it’s partially a social thing for me. So if the adult social dynamics suck, I’m less likely to want to do it. So yes, your DH not making small talk for a bit is probably why this ended.

Invite the girls over for a drop off play date one afternoon and go from there.

[Anonymous]

The other parents decided they didn't want to hang out with your standoffish dick of a husband.

Seriously, he goes to the park with these other families and then spends the whole time on his phone, ignoring the other adults? They noticed that he seems to have confused SAHM with "volunteer daycare provider" and opted to get together elsewhere, where they won't be treated as beneath his notice.

If your child is young enough that you're going to playdates and sticking around, as opposed to dropping off somewhere, common courtesy and basic politeness requires you to make small talk with the other parents in your group. not ignore them (and in their minds, your child as well) for something you deign more interesting.

[Anonymous]

They dont want to babysit your kid while DH is glued to the phone.

[Anonymous]

Invite the girls over to your house for a drop off play date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They dont want to babysit your kid while DH is glued to the phone.

+1 and also maybe don't want to be around this example that may be being set