How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?

[Anonymous]

The chance that they would break up and need a new place to live (for one of them) is so much higher in this instance than just roommates. Depending on the situation I might, but I would probably be more comfortable if one isn't on the lease (which would imply one bedroom, which AHH).

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course. I trust my adult kids to make that sort of decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?

I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.

[Anonymous]

Very uncommon. I have not seen that at all.

[Anonymous]

When I was in college in the early ‘90s, this was very common but many of them were engaged already and got married very quickly after graduation.

As for parents who didn’t “allow it”, unless one of the couple lived at home, they just secretly lived together. The result was that parents paid for a dorm room or apartment that went unoccupied most of the time. I had several friends whose religious parents believed they lived in an all-female dorm, but really they lived with their fiancés off campus.

[Anonymous]

Its not that big of a deal, just a one year lease. It can be a trial run for if they want to pursue this after college or not. Ideally, having a couple of additional roommates would keep it casual and cost effective.

[Anonymous]

There are so many ways to bypass parental controls that "allow" seems delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.

Wow. You sound really controlling. You probably have a bad relationship with your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very uncommon. I have not seen that at all.

Because kids in serious relationships who are in the same college end up living together in all but name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People pick random strangers as roommates to share the costs, why does it matter if it's someone they love and trust?

They are usually not having sex with their roommates. If sex is involved then it is playing house.

How do you know if your kid is having sex with their roommates? How well do you know your kid’s roommates? What is “playing house”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If both are sharing equally, what difference does it make to you?

I would never allow my DD to move in with her BF without being married. She can of course defy me and "be an adult". But, then better not have any expectations from me about any kind of monetary or physical help.

Who the hell marries someone without living with them first?

[Anonymous]

You don't have to room together to have sex.

[Anonymous]

My sister and i both lived with our boyfriends in college.

Sister’s daughter moved in with her boyfriend freshman year. Why waste money on 2 separate apartments? They broke up after 2 years but we are all still friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never told my parents who my college roommates were. We split rent & tuition.

Me either! 2 bedroom, 2 bath house, 2 couples. Saved tons of money, never had to ask my parents for extra.

[Anonymous]

Sophomore year i ended up with my “own” dorm room since my dorm-mate spent every single night at her boyfriend’s dorm room. Her parents were extremely religious and she never told them she had a boyfriend. I recall her spending only 2 nights in “our” room.

I didn't have to pay the “single supplement”.