How common is it for college seniors to live with their SO?

[Anonymous]

Just because you can stop people from signing an on campus or off campus apartment lease, doesn't mean much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.

Would you rather have them drop out of college?

If your child is threatening to drop out of college if you don't allow them to live with their boyfriend, you have some larger issue to address with them.

Child isn't the one threatening anything. He is only asking to have a roommate he trusts and likes. You are the one making threats that its not acceptable as long as you are the one paying for it. What does that mean? If they don't oblige, you are cutting them off? You are the one with issues, not the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.

Would you rather have them drop out of college?

If your child is threatening to drop out of college if you don't allow them to live with their boyfriend, you have some larger issue to address with them.

Child isn't the one threatening anything. He is only asking to have a roommate he trusts and likes. You are the one making threats that its not acceptable as long as you are the one paying for it. What does that mean? If they don't oblige, you are cutting them off? You are the one with issues, not the child.

Is this OP? Why did you post? Seems like you already know what you are going to. You wanted someone to reaffirm your decision? People don’t agree with you? So what? You do you.

[Anonymous]

Life is much simpler for children of controlling parents if they date people of same gender. May be that's one of the reasons so many young people end up experimenting it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.

Would you rather have them drop out of college?

If your child is threatening to drop out of college if you don't allow them to live with their boyfriend, you have some larger issue to address with them.

Child isn't the one threatening anything. He is only asking to have a roommate he trusts and likes. You are the one making threats that its not acceptable as long as you are the one paying for it. What does that mean? If they don't oblige, you are cutting them off? You are the one with issues, not the child.

Is this OP? Why did you post? Seems like you already know what you are going to. You wanted someone to reaffirm your decision? People don’t agree with you? So what? You do you.

Not OP, just commenting.

[Anonymous]

What percentage of college seniors break up? It’s one thing to practically live together and another to be stuck in an apartment with an ex after a breakup

[Anonymous]

If things don't work out then people sublet. Its not the end of the world and its not like they are signing a 30 year mortgage together.

[Anonymous]

Let them navigate the world. Actually, it's not "let".

[Anonymous]

It can work out well and it can fail terribly, just like any other decision they'll make.

My friend had to move in with her BF because her roommate turned out to be an obnoxious druggie.

[Anonymous]

I moved a continent away for grad school and moved in with my fiance. Senior year of undergrad seems little young, but some people are ready. I'm not going to make a blanket generalization, it wouldn't be fair.

[Anonymous]

My SO moved in with his girlfriend when they were sophomores. His parents cut him off completely.

His relationship with his dad never recovered and with his mom is really only back to 'normal' now that his dad died 30 years later.

So, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If things don't work out then people sublet. Its not the end of the world and its not like they are signing a 30 year mortgage together.

Finding a place to live while trying to study and find a job and get over a breakup sounds miserable. I’d much rather that they have a place they can go back to in only their name

[Anonymous]

Its a person and situation dependent decision, not one size fits all one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not allow this if I was paying for school and living expenses. If they want to play house, they need to be paying for it.

I am not sure you would know! I pay rent for DD but have no idea where she spends her nights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved a continent away for grad school and moved in with my fiance. Senior year of undergrad seems little young, but some people are ready. I'm not going to make a blanket generalization, it wouldn't be fair.

Senior year and grad year are just one year apart.