Elite private school for typical smart kid

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

I went to a NE boarding school (Andover/Exeter). I’m not at all from a super wealthy family, although not on FA. I absolutely felt included and found my people. I also was SO much more engaged in school there than in my public school (and it was a strong school district in the NYC suburbs). That’s the value of that school for me, not social connections or college admissions (although I got into both colleges I applied to).

They certainly taught delusion. Full pay at Andover/Exeter and you don't think you're wealth. You don't think there was value in admissions, but you were confident enough to only apply to two schools.

Confident enough to only apply to two schools? I read this as “applied early decision to one school, non binding early action to another, was accepted to both.” This is what I did from my private HS fifteen or so years ago…

Yeah that’s what I did. I did my two early applications, got my acceptances in December, and was done. I think it’s pretty common. My sister applied early to one school, got in, and was done.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

Yes "I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent."

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

Yep. There’s something sad about the knee-jerk reduction of secondary education to “college admissions”. Elementary and secondary school are 13 years of a child’s life. College is 4.

Yeah, it says a lot about their view of education that they think private schools could only possibly be worth it if they give a kid a leg up on college admissions.

Didn’t OP say they know the parents want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

Yep. There’s something sad about the knee-jerk reduction of secondary education to “college admissions”. Elementary and secondary school are 13 years of a child’s life. College is 4.

Yeah, it says a lot about their view of education that they think private schools could only possibly be worth it if they give a kid a leg up on college admissions.

Didn’t OP say they know the parents want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent?

Yes. From the first post - "I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent."

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Exclusionary behavior I'd not unique to private schools. Some people just never mature past that and continue at it as adults. Some people are more kind and inclusive by maturity level and personality. It has nothing to do with public vs private

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.

I know people who have graduated from both Holton and Whitman with similar outcomes in academics, college admissions and work/life. Nearly all outcomes in the DMV are like this too.
You can't point to any objective metrics but only "feels"
Sounds like you need to educate yourself on what you're really paying for

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.

I know people who have graduated from both Holton and Whitman with similar outcomes in academics, college admissions and work/life. Nearly all outcomes in the DMV are like this too.
You can't point to any objective metrics but only "feels"
Sounds like you need to educate yourself on what you're really paying for

Nah, I’m good. I went to public middle school and private high school. I know exactly what I’m paying for and I’m happy about it.

Maybe you could … wait for it … mind your own business!

I know. It’s hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Exclusionary behavior I'd not unique to private schools. Some people just never mature past that and continue at it as adults. Some people are more kind and inclusive by maturity level and personality. It has nothing to do with public vs private

So what you are saying is that private school parents are no better than public school parents? Not more polished, say?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.

I know people who have graduated from both Holton and Whitman with similar outcomes in academics, college admissions and work/life. Nearly all outcomes in the DMV are like this too.
You can't point to any objective metrics but only "feels"
Sounds like you need to educate yourself on what you're really paying for

Nah, I’m good. I went to public middle school and private high school. I know exactly what I’m paying for and I’m happy about it.

Maybe you could … wait for it … mind your own business!

I know. It’s hard.

You are posting on a public forum and telling people to mind their own business? That isn't how it works. You post, people get to respond. Don't like it? Don't post.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private.

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education. Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ?

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.
Ok

They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.

I know people who have graduated from both Holton and Whitman with similar outcomes in academics, college admissions and work/life. Nearly all outcomes in the DMV are like this too.
You can't point to any objective metrics but only "feels"
Sounds like you need to educate yourself on what you're really paying for

Nah, I’m good. I went to public middle school and private high school. I know exactly what I’m paying for and I’m happy about it.

Maybe you could … wait for it … mind your own business!

I know. It’s hard.

Sure, you’re happy based on your “feels” rather than any valid metrics.

Time to acknowledge that your kids would do fine in public.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private. That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?

Everyone “prioritizes” education. This is more of a show me, don’t tell me thing to tease out.

Right and if you think there aren’t parents in this area who could afford something better, but choose to keep their kids in an inferior option because they’d rather spend the money on fancy vacations and luxury cars, then you’re naive.

DH and I are from humble beginnings. We have chosen to send our kids to public because we want them to attend school with kids like us. We do live well and have a lovely home, travel and have nice cars. We can afford tuition without financial strain.

So you’re prioritizing the social aspect over quality of education.

It is very narrow-minded to think that education only happens in a school building. There is great educational value in travel.

No number of vacations can make up for subpar schooling.

First, I said travel not vacations. They can be different. Second, not all public schools experiences are "subpar" and not all private school experiences are above average. Both of my kids are getting great educations (one in public, one in private) but their travel experiences have certainly added to their education. Again, not all education occurs in a schoolhouse.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent.

Exclusionary behavior I'd not unique to private schools. Some people just never mature past that and continue at it as adults. Some people are more kind and inclusive by maturity level and personality. It has nothing to do with public vs private

So what you are saying is that private school parents are no better than public school parents? Not more polished, say?

What does polished have to do with exclusion? There are warm welcoming inclusive people that are also polished.