OMG Leave your sibling at home!

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Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

Some of us were raised in places a lot less uptight.

So you would be ok if you planned and paid for your wedding reception based on the guests you want, send an to a couple family, and they email and ask if they could bring their cousin who’s in town? Or to a personal friend and guest and they showed up with 3 people?

An invite to a person or couple or family is an invite to them and them only. What is not clear about that?

Comparing a wedding to a 7 year olds birthday party is laughable. We get it, OP, you planned a high class event and only wanted certain people there.

Certain people?! How about it's a party for the honoree and friends. Not free childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry you weren't happy to see Baby Lucas. He's just at such a cute stage now and I thought you'd be thrilled to see how he's grabbing things. I know he has a runny nose but who doesn't this winter, right? And sure, he always poops right around the time you were doing cake, but I was very surprised you were upset that I changed him on the table. I mostly contained the mess, but you know how runny it can be. Oh well. Happy birthday to your DS. Both the baby and my son had a great time, especially when Lucas got into the party favors and teethed on them - it really made him feel better. And hey, he finally stopped screaming for a while!

+ 1 million! Well done! 🤣

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't drop off my 7-year-old at most venues as they are open to the public and it's impossible for the host parents to supervise them all and I don't often know the parents know if they will supervise.

I always invite siblings and we have an only.

Then your 7 year old doesn't attend. This has nothing to do with the OP.

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This thread has gotten unbelievably racist.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread has gotten unbelievably racist.

Where?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread has gotten unbelievably racist.

Troll

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You planned a Sunday night party. How declasse

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If you cannot accommodate siblings please spell it out, it makes life easier, because there are many cultures at play in this diverse region full of transplants and internationals, and people don't have a common social framework.

I always welcomed siblings and said so in our invitations.

Yep-my husband is from another culture and can’t wrap his head around why siblings wouldn’t be welcome-or any family member really. We actually had friends of his show up with random people, a couple friend of theirs, at our wedding and he didn’t bat an eye.

I had this at a couple of my child's parties but we have a very diverse school. I just picked venues that allowed for lots of guests/flat fee and got tons of food. It was a lot more fun than the smaller parties.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to write in all caps “no siblings”. Otherwise people will play dumb. Was it an evite? If so, no one is reading who the card is made out to. Also, drop off at 7 is still early for some people. Especially at a venue which sounds like yours was at.

You really don't. I think it's rude to write "no siblings" on the invitation. It's obvious. The invitation is CLEARLY for the birthday child's friend and no-one else.

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If you cannot accommodate siblings please spell it out, it makes life easier, because there are many cultures at play in this diverse region full of transplants and internationals, and people don't have a common social framework.

I always welcomed siblings and said so in our invitations.

Assume siblings aren’t invited unless it specifically says. I just saved you a bunch of angst. You’re welcome.

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The only people I give grace to in these situations are immigrant families who come from cultures where the entire family is invited to a party. But if you're raised in the U.S. (you don't even have to be born here, I wasn't), you should know that only the person named the invitation is invited, no one else. It's been this way since I was a kid in the 80s. I didn't grow up in this region.

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Anonymous wrote:The only people I give grace to in these situations are immigrant families who come from cultures where the entire family is invited to a party. But if you're raised in the U.S. (you don't even have to be born here, I wasn't), you should know that only the person named the invitation is invited, no one else. It's been this way since I was a kid in the 80s. I didn't grow up in this region.

You would think people would look around and realize they made a faux pas after the first time. But if they are repeat offenders, there are no excuses for being culturally ignorant. When in Rome and all that.

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Anonymous wrote:You planned a Sunday night party. How declasse

Sunday night drop off party is amazing. Gives parents the opportunity to have one fewer kid to deal with and it almost never conflicts with other activities.

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Anonymous wrote:The only people I give grace to in these situations are immigrant families who come from cultures where the entire family is invited to a party. But if you're raised in the U.S. (you don't even have to be born here, I wasn't), you should know that only the person named the invitation is invited, no one else. It's been this way since I was a kid in the 80s. I didn't grow up in this region.

You would think people would look around and realize they made a faux pas after the first time. But if they are repeat offenders, there are no excuses for being culturally ignorant. When in Rome and all that.

The majority of parties when my kids were in ES parents often stayed.

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If you cannot accommodate siblings please spell it out, it makes life easier, because there are many cultures at play in this diverse region full of transplants and internationals, and people don't have a common social framework.

I always welcomed siblings and said so in our invitations.

Yep-my husband is from another culture and can’t wrap his head around why siblings wouldn’t be welcome-or any family member really. We actually had friends of his show up with random people, a couple friend of theirs, at our wedding and he didn’t bat an eye.

Do you not understand venue constraints? Should a child not be able to invite their whole class to a venue party because they also need to include entire families by this standard. Assuming an average of 4 people per family and 24 kids in a class, you could in theory be hosting close to 100! people for a child’s birthday party. Or should the birthday child have to forego inviting friends from class in order to accommodate parents and siblings? Can your husband literally “not wrap his head” around this math?