OMG Leave your sibling at home!

[Anonymous]

Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

[Anonymous]

It’s very rude!

Did your invitation specifically say no siblings?

[Anonymous]

Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it’s obviously just parents angling for free childcare. Now you know who the users are in your circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s very rude!

Did your invitation specifically say no siblings?

Not OP but it doesn’t need to. She said it was addressed specifically to each kid, which everyone knows means it’s only for that kid. Without “siblings welcome” or the sibling’s name being on the invite you should be assuming a drop off birthday at a party place is clearly only for the kid in the same grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

Why would you ever assume a drop off party allows for siblings? You really expect the parents of the birthday child to watch more kids than they invited?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't drop off my 7-year-old at most venues as they are open to the public and it's impossible for the host parents to supervise them all and I don't often know the parents know if they will supervise.

I always invite siblings and we have an only.

[Anonymous]

You need to write in all caps “no siblings”. Otherwise people will play dumb. Was it an evite? If so, no one is reading who the card is made out to. Also, drop off at 7 is still early for some people. Especially at a venue which sounds like yours was at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s very rude!

Did your invitation specifically say no siblings?

Not OP but it doesn’t need to. She said it was addressed specifically to each kid, which everyone knows means it’s only for that kid. Without “siblings welcome” or the sibling’s name being on the invite you should be assuming a drop off birthday at a party place is clearly only for the kid in the same grade.

+1. Unless the sibling is specifically named or the invitations says “siblings welcome,” the default is NO SIBLINGS. I’m amazed this needs to be said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't drop off my 7-year-old at most venues as they are open to the public and it's impossible for the host parents to supervise them all and I don't often know the parents know if they will supervise.

I always invite siblings and we have an only.

OP here. It’s a private gym at a club. It’s not like a play place. And I’m glad you “always invite siblings” but the venue my child wanted to have the party at had a room limit. That’s not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to write in all caps “no siblings”. Otherwise people will play dumb. Was it an evite? If so, no one is reading who the card is made out to. Also, drop off at 7 is still early for some people. Especially at a venue which sounds like yours was at.

They had a whole gym just to themselves at a private venue. Literally every other parent dropped off. Our entire class does drop off parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to write in all caps “no siblings”. Otherwise people will play dumb. Was it an evite? If so, no one is reading who the card is made out to. Also, drop off at 7 is still early for some people. Especially at a venue which sounds like yours was at.

They had a whole gym just to themselves at a private venue. Literally every other parent dropped off. Our entire class does drop off parties.

Only overprotective parents who want to gossip stay. You’re right OP. You say club, was it a country club? If so your class isn’t as well bred as you and shouldn’t be invited in the future.