OMG Leave your sibling at home!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

It is drop off party.

And leave them unsupervised? Yeah no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

It is drop off party.

And leave them unsupervised? Yeah no.

A second ago you were arguing that not everyone has “a full time nanny or SAHM” You can’t in one breath imply that you use group childcare daily and then turn your nose at…. wait for it… group childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all parents can afford babysitters or are comfortable with drop off. I don't get the hostility. Not all parents have two parents always available either - some parents work non-traditional hours or there is only one parent or someone else caring for the child/ren. However, safety wise, most hosts cannot host and monitor the kids in open venues or public places and the kids are often on their own. I would not drop off a young child, especially if I didn't know the host. I'm amazed at how many people wouldn't think twice.

I don’t get this can’t afford a babysitter argument at all. If your little kid wasnt at the party, would they be home watching the other one? No. You would be watching that kid plus any siblings. The party lets you spend time alone with the kids not going to the party. If the venue is far-ish from home, I take the other sib to a nearby park, or walk around, or something nearby (even if it’s just reading or playing a card/board game outside the venue — Rory story cubes are great for this).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

DP. This still does not compute. Whhhhy would you need a babysitter???? Either you have one less to watch for a couple hours or your kid doesn’t go bc you’re incapable for whatever reason of handling more than one of your kids at a time. What is so hard about handling more than one? Sometimes I have to drop off one kid at practice, then drive the other, then go get the first and come back and get the other. All routine activities are planned with the assumption there is only one parent available. When necessary, we join a carpool. “Hey Host, is anyone around me also going? Larla would love to go but this week I have a conflict.” Used sparingly this will work. I don’t like to rely on others but I’ve learned I also can’t rely in my spouse. Babysitters so one kid can go to a party?? Pfft.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

It is drop off party.

And leave them unsupervised? Yeah no.

Then your child is not ready to go to such a party and should stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

The your kid can't go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the concept of leaving a sibling at home for a birthday party so hard? We had a drop off party for our 7-year-old tonight. Every invitation was addressed to the invited child and we invited no siblings (party limit). This morning I get a text asking if a sibling (MUCH younger) can come, then 45 minutes before the party another text asking the same, and then one family just showed up with a sibling and the dad was like “oh sorry Larla, guess it’s not a sibling party.”

This is a drop off party so it’s not like the “I don’t have childcare” excuse flies, which I would totally understand and accommodate. This is just lazy parenting and it’s beyond rude. Unless your sibling is clearly invited, only the invited kid should go. This isn’t hard!

What is so hard to understand here OP?

Not everyone is a stay at home and/or has a full time nanny. Lots of us have jobs too you know.

It is drop off party.

And leave them unsupervised? Yeah no.

A second ago you were arguing that not everyone has “a full time nanny or SAHM” You can’t in one breath imply that you use group childcare daily and then turn your nose at…. wait for it… group childcare.

So, so right.

[Anonymous]

So, I just made this mistake. I did not specify about siblings but assumed. Bad idea. I have one lady bringing 3 kids, 2 younger siblings. This is now a problem as it is a painting party and I pay per piece that the kids choose. Also, I wanted friends of my child to come but since the siblings took up 6 RSVP spots, some of my kids friends cannot come. If it was just a play or jump party, I would not care but this is a pottery party so it matters. Also, with all the adults, I will be catering the event but now must double because everybody plans on staying so that means they will be eating. I will definitely rethink this next time.