Purchasing same "Family Present" for a single sibling?

[Anonymous]

OP, on the surface, this sucks. You should have gotten a courtesy copy even if they thought you wouldn't be interested. You are a sibling.

The only thing I'm wondering could be at play here- is if you are one of those vocally 'proud to be single without kids' people who makes a point of saying families are not your thing. Maybe then a person would leave someone out of a gift they would seemingly have no interest in (other peoples kids in photos- especially as you say that you took a lot of the photos). Again, in order for you not to have gotten a copy- this is the only case where I could think of someone not involving you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the posts suggesting that you ask for a link so that you can order one. I’d suggest saying, “I noticed you ordered albums for everyone other than me. I’d love an album.” And if you want to know what her thinking was, say, “I’m also wondering why?”

Ask her.

Honestly you may want to do this.

I’m the only sibling who is unmarried and childless. I get treated so poorly as a result. For example, they all vacation together without me, including on holidays, and I’m the only one not invited. And I’ve noticed I’m treated SO much better when I have a boyfriend.

I wish you’d called her out in it in the moment, “do I not get one?” So everyone in the family could see
What B she was. I understand why you just sat there surprised and trying to process though.

Although in my family if I’d spoken up it somehow would have gotten twisted around to be me reacting unreasonably.

Married and childless here. My sisters in law have discussed beach house rentals in front of me. I’d like to think my husband and I are the “cool” aunt and uncle. We love the nieces and nephews. It’s be fun to rent a beach house with them.

But we haven’t been successful in “starting” a family, so we don’t count. It irks me that my husband and I aren’t considered a family.

Just commiserating with you. Maybe we should go to a nice resort the same week then rent the house.

[Anonymous]

They don't invite you to the beach house!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, on the surface, this sucks. You should have gotten a courtesy copy even if they thought you wouldn't be interested. You are a sibling.

The only thing I'm wondering could be at play here- is if you are one of those vocally 'proud to be single without kids' people who makes a point of saying families are not your thing. Maybe then a person would leave someone out of a gift they would seemingly have no interest in (other peoples kids in photos- especially as you say that you took a lot of the photos). Again, in order for you not to have gotten a copy- this is the only case where I could think of someone not involving you.

Nope.
Even if she is a "proud to be single" sibling, she gets an album. It is the same album and she is a sibling and belongs in the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, on the surface, this sucks. You should have gotten a courtesy copy even if they thought you wouldn't be interested. You are a sibling.

The only thing I'm wondering could be at play here- is if you are one of those vocally 'proud to be single without kids' people who makes a point of saying families are not your thing. Maybe then a person would leave someone out of a gift they would seemingly have no interest in (other peoples kids in photos- especially as you say that you took a lot of the photos). Again, in order for you not to have gotten a copy- this is the only case where I could think of someone not involving you.

She took the trip to Italy WITH her family. So no. Don’t try to think of some stupid fake justification.

[Anonymous]

Ask her, OP. And then tell her how you feel. And then ask for an album.

We can spend all day guessing why she did it but you need to talk to her.

Fwiw, my theory is that she’s thinking of the album as pics of the kids on vacation. Yeah, some of the pics have the adults in them, but what she really likes about the pics is seeing her kids and the cousins. So when she was ordering albums she ordered for herself and the parents of the cousins. I’M NOT SAYING THIS IS OK. But I am saying it’s not about your value as a person or a sibling. It’s about you not being a parent to one of the kids in the book. And I bet she has NO IDEA your feelings are hurt.

I had my child late in life and am also much younger than my siblings, and my family used to do these kinds of things to me ALL THE TIME, so I get it.