I don’t want to have to go to church with in laws for appearances

[Anonymous]

Tell them you have Covid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them you have Covid.

NO OP tell them the truth you are an adult act like one.

[Anonymous]

Devil's advocate here. It's three hours out of 365 days in the year. Is it really going to kill you sacrifice three hours, if "sacrifice" is the right word for spending time in the company of your family? It's not like you have to spend a single moment pretending you believe or agree with anything you hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So?

Either go to appease them or refuse. What is your point in posting here? It's really an issue for you, DH, and in laws. Nobody can decide for you.

Why does anyone post on DCUM then? They don’t need your permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if you find a church that is LGBTQ positive and attend there instead? It might make breaking the news easier to have a different church to go to instead, even if it's just once or twice and then you start enjoying Sundays in peace.

But then MeeMaw won’t get her photo op and her attention from her friends about “bringing her family to church.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if this is a one-time thing, just tell them you don't feel well and are going to have to skip.

If this is a frequent thing, then use your words and tell them you can't go any more.

Nope.

If it’s a one-time thing, suck it up and do it. If it’s a frequent thing, yes, use your words.

Wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t go either and they were disappointed at first but now it’s just how it is. It’s also liberated my DH to be more honest with them about his own beliefs (he is not religious) and made it easier to accept that we aren’t raising our kids in their church.

Guess you won. Enjoy Hell

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you find a church that is LGBTQ positive and attend there instead? It might make breaking the news easier to have a different church to go to instead, even if it's just once or twice and then you start enjoying Sundays in peace.

But then MeeMaw won’t get her photo op and her attention from her friends about “bringing her family to church.”

Photo op? Don't put your ignorance on display like this. Nobody takes pictures at a service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you find a church that is LGBTQ positive and attend there instead? It might make breaking the news easier to have a different church to go to instead, even if it's just once or twice and then you start enjoying Sundays in peace.

But then MeeMaw won’t get her photo op and her attention from her friends about “bringing her family to church.”

Speak for your own family and the name you call your grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you find a church that is LGBTQ positive and attend there instead? It might make breaking the news easier to have a different church to go to instead, even if it's just once or twice and then you start enjoying Sundays in peace.

But then MeeMaw won’t get her photo op and her attention from her friends about “bringing her family to church.”

Photo op? Don't put your ignorance on display like this. Nobody takes pictures at a service.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL died in her 90s during the pandemic. She was a lovely lady who lived in a small town and was super Catholic.

Whenever we visited, we went to church with her. All of us. We didn’t do it for “appearances,” because we condoned the church’s wrongdoings or views on social issues, or because we actually believe in any of it. We simply did it for her. And guess what? It didn’t kill any of us.

It sure would be nice to see her again and have to suffer through a Mass.

It’s the holiday season, OP. Stop being so nasty and be generous with yourself.

Going is condoning, imo. And in many others' opinions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t go either and they were disappointed at first but now it’s just how it is. It’s also liberated my DH to be more honest with them about his own beliefs (he is not religious) and made it easier to accept that we aren’t raising our kids in their church.

Guess you won. Enjoy Hell

How Jesus-y of you! This is why there this a declining religious, churchgoing population in America.

[Anonymous]

Op, just go. Do it for the in-laws and hubby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t go either and they were disappointed at first but now it’s just how it is. It’s also liberated my DH to be more honest with them about his own beliefs (he is not religious) and made it easier to accept that we aren’t raising our kids in their church.

Guess you won. Enjoy Hell

How Jesus-y of you! This is why there this a declining religious, churchgoing population in America.

That was undoubtedly a troll. They pretend to be “Christian” all the time here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL died in her 90s during the pandemic. She was a lovely lady who lived in a small town and was super Catholic.

Whenever we visited, we went to church with her. All of us. We didn’t do it for “appearances,” because we condoned the church’s wrongdoings or views on social issues, or because we actually believe in any of it. We simply did it for her. And guess what? It didn’t kill any of us.

It sure would be nice to see her again and have to suffer through a Mass.

It’s the holiday season, OP. Stop being so nasty and be generous with yourself.

Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it works for op. You stop being so small minded and judgmental. You go right on ahead and show your support for an institution that has done tremendous damage to others but don't you tell others to do the same.

Agreed. As a bisexual Jew, I find PP’s judgmental comment pretty offensive.

Where did OP say she was Catholic as opposed to, say, Episcopalian? Lots of people looking for reasons to be angry.