My Dear friend wants to send her "troubled teen" away to military or boarding school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love my friend dearly, & she is really struggling with her DS & drug issues (marijuana only). He's defiant, & she can't seem to handle him. Her knee jerk reaction is send him away to military or boarding school. Do they even take kids with these issues? What else can I recommend to her?

Did her son sneak out last week and disappear for a few days? I know who this is. The mom is part of the problem.

OP here. Nope, wrong kid.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the boundaries the parents want to set.

If they have soft boundaries, it will continue, if they have strong boundaries and still to them and don't enable, things can definitely work out. It took us many years to finally set strong boundaries and today, things are going well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my friend dearly, & she is really struggling with her DS & drug issues (marijuana only). He's defiant, & she can't seem to handle him. Her knee jerk reaction is send him away to military or boarding school. Do they even take kids with these issues? What else can I recommend to her?

Did her son sneak out last week and disappear for a few days? I know who this is. The mom is part of the problem.

I bet you are just the gossip queen of your neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my friend dearly, & she is really struggling with her DS & drug issues (marijuana only). He's defiant, & she can't seem to handle him. Her knee jerk reaction is send him away to military or boarding school. Do they even take kids with these issues? What else can I recommend to her?

Did her son sneak out last week and disappear for a few days? I know who this is. The mom is part of the problem.

I bet you are just the gossip queen of your neighborhood.

Far from the truth, but ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my friend dearly, & she is really struggling with her DS & drug issues (marijuana only). He's defiant, & she can't seem to handle him. Her knee jerk reaction is send him away to military or boarding school. Do they even take kids with these issues? What else can I recommend to her?

Unless she asks you myob.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boys of single mothers do better in military school in their teens

What? I'm a single mother of a teen boy. After meeting some dads of my son's friends, my son is way better off with a single mother. The dads are total jerks and I'm not sure how their wives can stand them. My son is going off to college next year. He is a decent person because of my efforts, not some random military school.

Single mothers always think this, but are completely incapable of understanding the lifelong pain and psychological problems they caused their son by divorcing "the total jerk".

Really the divorce was about what you wanted, not what was "best" for your son.

Sincerely,

Son of a Single Mother Who Divorced a Total Jerk

Interesting post. Do you think your son would have been better off had you stayed married to the “total jerk?” Wonder if somehow he sees how not to be because of your bravery? I am very curious about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the boundaries the parents want to set.

If they have soft boundaries, it will continue, if they have strong boundaries and still to them and don't enable, things can definitely work out. It took us many years to finally set strong boundaries and today, things are going well.

There's no parents. It's one parent. Very different situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a graduate of Randolph Macon Academy. I was a little sh*t in HS, so my parents sent me there. Worked wonders. Highly recommend. I am now a successful adult, which would not have been likely had I stayed on the path I was on.

I am sending my son to RMA. It's an incredible school, and I love hearing alumni success stories like yours. OP, it's an excellent recommendation to your friend but there is a zero tolerance policy for drugs including vaping. So if he can stop using marijuana, it's definitely an option.

[Anonymous]

Oh, PP again. I also have a friend who sent her child.to Massanutten. Single mom as well. It was a rocky transition but he's thriving. This kind of change can work if the child is open to the challenge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some friends of mine did this, and their ds finally straightened himself out and was able to go back to their home state and go to college after they finished boarding school. For some kids, it's a good thing.

It sounds dreadful + punitive.

It's not. It truly depends on the child.

[Anonymous]

it just delayed my f around and find out period so I screwed up my early college years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love my friend dearly, & she is really struggling with her DS & drug issues (marijuana only). He's defiant, & she can't seem to handle him. Her knee jerk reaction is send him away to military or boarding school. Do they even take kids with these issues? What else can I recommend to her?

Unless she asks you myob.

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