PSA. Your child's sarcasm isn't cute.

[Anonymous]

I think it's case by case. If a child is very charming and otherwise warm/respectful with adults, then congrats your child has advanced social skills and can probably wield sarcasm successfully. My child does not have this skill and so sarcasm just sounds off-putting and disrespectful. I don't tell him all this, obviously, but I do advise him not to use sarcasm with teachers/adults.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also your child isn't cute and no one wants to hear from it.

Op here. Not true . In general kids are cute and I enjoy hearing from them . However, certain behavior like sarcasm is not cute.

Sarcasm isn’t cute, it’s hilarious. It also isn’t rude. Rude is rude. I think you’re confusing the two.

I'm not confused. It's not hilarious. It's rude. Your child is rude .

Everyone disagrees with you.

Go sit down

NP - no EVERYONE disagrees..... unless you are a narcissist, then everyone is YOU.

+1 NP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid with ADHD was quite the talker pre-medication. He got in trouble in kindergarten for something. I was coming to pick him up so the principal brought me into her office while my son was there. She said he was going to get lunch detention for his infraction and he didn't say anything. She repeated it and he still just sat there. She said, " You seem indifferent to what I'm saying. Do you know what indifferent means?" Without missing a beat, he said "I don't care." Lol. We both had to turn sideways so he wouldn't see us smiling.

That's what my mother would call "fresh" and it would get you a slap across the face. There's a time and a place for sarcasm and it's not with people in positions of authority when you're in trouble.

I wish I could give the little you a hug. The world has not been kind to you.

[Anonymous]

First of all, there is a broad spectrum of sarcasm (caustic/mean to light hearted and funny). So, it's hard to tell what you even mean in this post.

But I firmly believe that you do your kid a major disservice in life not to teach them how to be sarcastic at some level. It's a very useful tool in life and people who do not use or understand it are socially awkward.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid with ADHD was quite the talker pre-medication. He got in trouble in kindergarten for something. I was coming to pick him up so the principal brought me into her office while my son was there. She said he was going to get lunch detention for his infraction and he didn't say anything. She repeated it and he still just sat there. She said, " You seem indifferent to what I'm saying. Do you know what indifferent means?" Without missing a beat, he said "I don't care." Lol. We both had to turn sideways so he wouldn't see us smiling.

That's what my mother would call "fresh" and it would get you a slap across the face. There's a time and a place for sarcasm and it's not with people in positions of authority when you're in trouble.

Yikes - this is not cute behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's case by case. If a child is very charming and otherwise warm/respectful with adults, then congrats your child has advanced social skills and can probably wield sarcasm successfully. My child does not have this skill and so sarcasm just sounds off-putting and disrespectful. I don't tell him all this, obviously, but I do advise him not to use sarcasm with teachers/adults.

I’d rather deal with your kid than the hypothetical one you described. Those kids tend to be manipulative, and often get away with bullying. They make a fool out of the adult.

[Anonymous]

I mostly agree. As a person who used to be extremely sarcastic and grew up in a sarcastic family, I've come to feel that sarcasm is usually just some combination of laziness, insecurity, and passive aggression. It's rarely funny and often really depressing. I don't necessarily view it as rude in others (including a child) but I don't view it positively. Occasionally someone with a really dry wit will deploy it to great effect, but most of the time it's a way of complaining, criticizing, or being defensive.

[Anonymous]

Wit and sarcasm are not the same thing.

Wit can be positive and uplifting to people.

Sarcasm is nearly always negative, designed to cut people down.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's case by case. If a child is very charming and otherwise warm/respectful with adults, then congrats your child has advanced social skills and can probably wield sarcasm successfully. My child does not have this skill and so sarcasm just sounds off-putting and disrespectful. I don't tell him all this, obviously, but I do advise him not to use sarcasm with teachers/adults.

I’d rather deal with your kid than the hypothetical one you described. Those kids tend to be manipulative, and often get away with bullying. They make a fool out of the adult.

Fair point, I can think of a few of those types now that you mention it. My other son is often very silly with teachers in creative writing, spelling (when they have to use the spelling word in a sentence), etc. I am working with him to just do his schoolwork sincerely, and if he wants to write stories at home in his free time, he can write all the silly stuff he wants. Much like sarcasm, constant silliness is not charming either. Better to err on the side of sincerity when dealing with non-parent adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not funny.

It's not a sign that they are wittyand intelligent or have advance language skills.

They are rude.

It is a sign you have done a poor job teaching appropriate behavior

Provide an example or move on please.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get this. Sarcasm is just sarcasm. A sarcastic statement can be funny, light, self-deprecating, pointed, angry, rude, disrespectful depending on context and delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get this. Sarcasm is just sarcasm. A sarcastic statement can be funny, light, self-deprecating, pointed, angry, rude, disrespectful depending on context and delivery.

+1 my 9 yr old uses sarcasm to good effect, and not rudely.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not funny.

It's not a sign that they are wittyand intelligent or have advance language skills.

They are rude.

It is a sign you have done a poor job teaching appropriate behavior

Provide an example or move on please.

You and I both know OP is never going to elaborate or provide examples or return to this thread at all. They just wanted to post a vague rant and run.

[Anonymous]

I was talking to my kid via text earlier today about ordering food and I asked her if she wanted me to order her a cookie. She responded no I hate happiness no cookie for me.

Do you think that isn’t cute? I thought it was adorable. I got 2 cookies - one for her lunch tomorrow because she hates happiness so much

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Anonymous wrote:It's not funny.

It's not a sign that they are wittyand intelligent or have advance language skills.

They are rude.

It is a sign you have done a poor job teaching appropriate behavior

Provide an example or move on please.

No one has to “move on” because you tell them to. Who the hell do you think you are?