Dr wrote his personal email address on back of business card

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I've not seen another post about a male doc giving a female patient his personal email address on the back of his business card. Maybe it's been posted but it's not a regular thing.

If he wrote his email address on the back without commenting, he's hitting on you. If he wrote it and said something like "the portal doesn't always work, if you have follow-up questions you can always reach me here," then it's nothing.

Buyer beware, though. Doctors can be total dogs.

He did not comment. I found it on my own after I left.

He didn't comment? Yeah he's interested. If you are too, go for it!

[Anonymous]

If he was interested in you he would call you on his personal cell phone and make an excuse to follow up with you. Do nothing.

[Anonymous]

If he did give you his personal email in order to pursue some sort of a romantic relationship then that is definitely unprofessional. None of us here know what his intentions really are, if it's something he has handwritten on all business cards or if he is interested in the OP outside of a professional context. But I would err on the side of caution and either find a new doctor or pretend you didn't see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have had three male specialists give me their business cards with gmail addresses handwritten on them. I can assure you they were not interested in me, a middle aged woman with teenage kids. They all used those emails to communicate with patients.

OP is way way way overthinking this.

My GP has given me his cell phone number before in the event that I needed to get a hold of him but was unable. He is married with children. I am married with children. We have each discussed our families with each other. He was definitely NOT hitting on me but was going above and beyond for his patient with some extra needs. I really appreciated it and always refer him to others. He has a great bedside manner and is exceptionally caring.

IF the OP did not see him write down his gmail, it was pre-existing on the card - which means that he probably prefers the gmail to his business for accessibility purposes.

[Anonymous]

Did he write it in front of you or was it pre-written?

Was your consult in any way requiring follow up checking in or complicated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A gynecologist shouldn't hit on his patients. It sketchy.

Women see specialists beyond gynecologists, you dolt.

Just out of curiosity…
Why would a woman choose a male gynecologist?

My first baby was delivered by a female ob-gyn. Her office was so badly organized that I couldn't stand 9 more months of that with my second pregnancy and wanted to switch. I asked other doctors and nurses for recommendations, and one guy's name kept coming up as the best. I'm guessing he trained at a time when the majority of specialists were male. After having had 2 nurses, an OB, 2 pediatricians, 3 random students and my husband in the room when my son was finally delivered, I didn't really care if I had a male, female or martian ob-gyn the second time around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A gynecologist shouldn't hit on his patients. It sketchy.

Women see specialists beyond gynecologists, you dolt.

Just out of curiosity…
Why would a woman choose a male gynecologist?

My first baby was delivered by a female ob-gyn. Her office was so badly organized that I couldn't stand 9 more months of that with my second pregnancy and wanted to switch. I asked other doctors and nurses for recommendations, and one guy's name kept coming up as the best. I'm guessing he trained at a time when the majority of specialists were male. After having had 2 nurses, an OB, 2 pediatricians, 3 random students and my husband in the room when my son was finally delivered, I didn't really care if I had a male, female or martian ob-gyn the second time around.

I chose a woman GYN but her partner was male and when I was pregnant, I saw them both regularly and they both performed my first c-section together. I was 100% comfortable with the male. He was a wonderful doctor. I am done having kids and I see her for my annual exams, but if I needed to reschedule and had fewer options for time slots, I'd have no issue seeing him.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all of the feedback. I think I am too chicken to use the email address and make the move, in case he is not interested. I might just take this experience to the grave with a warm and fuzzy feeling that he was. I don’t have a need to go back to this Dr. Fear of rejection I suppose. But living on a high in my head.

[Anonymous]

Our female doctor used to do this.