Any one's spouse think that kid do not need activities other than school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH thinks that our kids do not really need to go to playdate, parties, classes etc since they have beforecare + school + aftercare (7am to 6pm Mon to Fri). He does not think they need any other planned activities, and weekend is supposed to be family time. And, his family time meaning kids playing with themselves on weekend morning and he is sleeping till 11am , and we family may go out to eat lunch or do grocery shopping/playground afterwards.


I have never seen him playing any sports (basketball, soccer or swimming etc) with our kids, and he says because it is because he does not care about those sports. However, he is willing to read them some books, play board game with them, take them to playground in the afternoon (because he is not a morning person), or we all watch family movie together. He calls this family time.

This is how we roll at my house and we love it that way. Kids are 7 and 11.

[Anonymous]

Op, you need to prioritize giving your kids a happy home life. Whatever that is. However that looks. If your DH needs to recharge and that appears lazy to you, too bad. All will be fine with the kids spending more time entertaining themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you need to prioritize giving your kids a happy home life. Whatever that is. However that looks. If your DH needs to recharge and that appears lazy to you, too bad. All will be fine with the kids spending more time entertaining themselves.

Too bad? No. Demand more of your spouse who chose to father these kids. He needs to wake up and help out not sleep half his Saturdays away.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you both are being rigid. You’re insisting on taking the kids out in the morning and he doesn’t want to. Why don’t you just trade off? I like lazy weekends, my husband doesn’t. We each sleep in one morning while the other manages the kids. And at a certain point you have to realize he’s not going to do what you want him to do, so just take the kids out, then Leave them with him for the afternoon or the next day. They’ll be fine. It’s not clear how old they are - once they hit upper elementary they should be able to feed/take care of themselves a bit

[Anonymous]

Who TF sleeps in until 11. What loser husbands these women have

[Anonymous]

Beforecare AND aftercare? That’s a lot, your kids are probably exhausted…I see his point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beforecare AND aftercare? That’s a lot, your kids are probably exhausted…I see his point

A lot of households with 2 working parents need both before and aftercare. If you work a standard 8-4:30 day you will need both before and aftercare. Lovely that your privilege allows you have no concept of that.

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids?

I think before and aftercare plus activities would be a very long day. You could get a nanny instead. I know lots of families who have nannies who drive kids. Or you could easily do a weekend activity. You can take them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids?

I think before and aftercare plus activities would be a very long day. You could get a nanny instead. I know lots of families who have nannies who drive kids. Or you could easily do a weekend activity. You can take them.

read the thread - that’s what she does on the weekends while her husband sleeps and then refuses to interact with the family the rest of the day.

[Anonymous]

Shout out to the lazy ass dad. You can do it too believe it

[Anonymous]

If he honestly believed that weekends are family time, he’d be up doing things with the family on the weekend.

While I do think there is a lot of value in just “hanging” on the weekend, if your children enjoy going to parties, festivals, and classes on the weekends, there should absolutely be time built in to do some of those things.

As your husband likes to sleep in, I don’t see anything wrong with a divide and conquer approach like you’re doing, given that your timing in the morning is consistent so he can plan that on weekends, 1pm is go time with the kids. Then, he and the kids can just hang out for a few hours, which is also good for them to learn to just chill and be low level / not “doing” defined activities all the time.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds awful. Your kids sound normal. I feel bad for you.