Which man would you marry

[Anonymous]

The guy with the bigger D

[Anonymous]

I would just bang #2, no marriage involved.

[Anonymous]

The disappointing part to me is that this is treated like some business decision. It’s not a job interview with qualifications. It’s no wonder so many on this board have divorces, bad marriages, need counseling, or use anti-depressants. Find a wonderful spouse of the opposite sex, love each other, and make a wonderful life. I’m 26 years into it and wouldn’t trade a day. I would rather live in a 1200 square feet home with her, than a 12,000 square feet home without her. But I never looked at it as a business decision. I didn’t pick a spouse from a nice resume.

[Anonymous]

Woman here can type whatever they want, truth is, they want money. Period

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#2 then cash in at the divorce

My point exactly…. Rich, and miserable, everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here can type whatever they want, truth is, they want money. Period

I’m assuming you mean “women?”

If that were true, OP never would have considered #1. And she isn’t interested in someone else’s money, she is interested in keeping her own so she can support her child.

But she should stay away from #2!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here can type whatever they want, truth is, they want money. Period

What if you already have money. I do. Dating a poor guy. In fact, I wanted to buy him a vacation and spend more time with him. He is working too much. I was with guy #1 til OP wrote he is ok in bed. Got to be good in bed, but it can be worked on.

[Anonymous]

If you've truly got two men lined up waiting to marry you, then you could find others as well, no? Don't settle.

FWIW, I'd be fine marrying someone who didn't make a lot of money but I'd want him to be great in bed, lol.

I definitely wouldn't marry someone who only treats me "OK."

Honestly, a life partnership is one of those things where you just KNOW. If you're having to make a pro/con list, then the answer is probably nope, not your person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The disappointing part to me is that this is treated like some business decision. It’s not a job interview with qualifications. It’s no wonder so many on this board have divorces, bad marriages, need counseling, or use anti-depressants. Find a wonderful spouse of the opposite sex, love each other, and make a wonderful life. I’m 26 years into it and wouldn’t trade a day. I would rather live in a 1200 square feet home with her, than a 12,000 square feet home without her. But I never looked at it as a business decision. I didn’t pick a spouse from a nice resume.

It’s a lifetime lifestyle decision, which in the United States cannot be separated from a financial decision. Want good healthcare? Need money. Kids to go to a good school? Money. Kids to graduate without crippling student debt? Money. Retire at 65 or work until you die? That’s money too. The wonderful life of two people who love each other but have to work three jobs each to make ends meet does not sound wonderful to many people AND a woman who complains will be asked why she married such a poor provider.

[Anonymous]

I've been married and the last thing I would do next is settle and both of those options are settling for me. So it's a no to them both and you need to retrain your thinking if you believe you "must" choose one 'cause no...I don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The disappointing part to me is that this is treated like some business decision. It’s not a job interview with qualifications. It’s no wonder so many on this board have divorces, bad marriages, need counseling, or use anti-depressants. Find a wonderful spouse of the opposite sex, love each other, and make a wonderful life. I’m 26 years into it and wouldn’t trade a day. I would rather live in a 1200 square feet home with her, than a 12,000 square feet home without her. But I never looked at it as a business decision. I didn’t pick a spouse from a nice resume.

It’s a lifetime lifestyle decision, which in the United States cannot be separated from a financial decision. Want good healthcare? Need money. Kids to go to a good school? Money. Kids to graduate without crippling student debt? Money. Retire at 65 or work until you die? That’s money too. The wonderful life of two people who love each other but have to work three jobs each to make ends meet does not sound wonderful to many people AND a woman who complains will be asked why she married such a poor provider.

I will just live on my 2 acres, with my 3500 sf home, 4 car garage, and happy wife and life. Y’all can keep chasing miserable folks with money. I never have a bad day.

[Anonymous]

Neither

[Anonymous]

I found this thread because I searched "poor man". Wondering about someone who makes $50k with $30k net worth mid-40s. He is like #1 but I fear being the primary breadwinner and taking on another mouth to feed in retirement since I'm a mother too. Curious who OP ended up with, if anyone. Seems weird to decide between 2 options instead of looking for more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The poor man is a hardworking mechanic. His money does not go far
In this area, and he does not have financial
Know how so has little wealth.

Mechanics make bank

and can fix stuff around the house.

Wandering eye = cheat on you.

So, if you pick #2, make sure you either don't have a prenup, or one that gives you more $$ if he cheats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The one is is better in bed?

you would be ok with him treating you just ok and having a wandering eye? All people look, but only some make it obvious, which IMO, is extremely disrespectful. If OP already knows that he has a wandering eye, then he's being obvious about it. And he treats her just "ok". Long term, he would most likely treat her like crap if in the beginning he already treats her just ok.

Agree with others, if you are not looking to have kids, #1, definitely. #2 may be good financially, but do you think he'd make a good dad and partner? Doesn't sound like it to me.