Which man would you marry

[Anonymous]

Not 1, 2 if I really loved him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not 1, 2 if I really loved him.

Shoot, no, I got that backward. I’d never marry a man who “treats me okay.”

[Anonymous]

#1. We would work on the intimacy.

If he’s loyal then that’s what you need for the end years. Someone who cares about you and will be there when the going gets tough, healthwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d go with choice 1 as long as he is not actively bad with money (gambling, overspending etc) he just yhas a lower paying job.

UMC isn’t good enough for me to be treated “ok”

This part right here!!! I'll be damned.

[Anonymous]

The one is is better in bed?

[Anonymous]

This is not even an option. #1 all the way. Who are you people picking #2? BTW married 20 years here to my best friend

[Anonymous]

Would not marry either. But I'm divorced and am done with marriage. Would definitely date #2 though.

[Anonymous]

Dang OP, if there are no other choices, #1. But life in the DMV is very expensive and I have a young child to provide for so saving for school, summer camps and trips and our life I am handling alone. But I wouldn’t want to be resentful of financially providing for a man as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no way anyone *needs* to marry either of these men unless an inheritance demands it or something.

This. And escaping the clause of such an inheritance would be a movie plot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#1. Anyone can make more money or learn to manage it. An ass is always going to be an ass.

I also think #1 is too good for you, you sound shallow and needy.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh neither.

I would much prefer to adopt ten cats 🐈 & live the rest of my years in bliss.

I would do that after having sex w/#2 and dumping him

[Anonymous]

Neither

[Anonymous]

After a while, the guy who treats you like gold will stop. And then what do you have? A poor guy who is just ok in bed and not much else in his favor.

[Anonymous]

Neither are rich, keep looking unless you are ugly

[Anonymous]

OP here. It’s been interesting to read the replies. I’m ruling out #1, he is just too poor. He is 50 and hits net worth is $20k with little earnings power. He lives check to check. Even though I can take care of myself, i don’t want the added pressure of helping to care for him too financially. It’s too much for me. I have a kid to look after. I would consider him if I had family wealth or something where I easily could carry him.