5 year wedding anniversary budget?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is your wife hot? If she is super hot, then the princess-y, demanding attitude can actually increase the sexy factor. But if she is homely or chubby and still makes you feel like you owe her four figure gifts, that is just gross.

This and the previous post about OP's wife being a "striver" are so mean-spirited and problematic. The implication that chubby, not conventionally attractive women and women from less privileged backgrounds don't deserve nice things is gross and misogynistic

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people are calling OP's wife high maintenance and princess-y. Why is she not allowed to want nice things? You just seem jealous and judgmental.

Because these aren't nice things. She just wants things to show off. She just wants to get a lot of material things. She equates expensive gifts with love.

This. Basic b****ery at its finest.

But it’s classic, and the symbolism

so mean-spirited. Who are you to decide what is nice to her? Why mock what she likes because it’s not for you? I agree with the pp, very “jealous and judgemental” vibes.

We're not mocking what she likes we're mocking the idea of spending 7k on a bracelet just because it has a little C on it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if you’re getting her something from Cartier it should be something that will still be age appropriate in her 30s/40s— the love bracelet reminds me of the open Tiffany silver heart for the late twenties set.

+1 No offense to anyone who already has it and I love Cartier myself, but these days the love bracelet seems to be a staple among those 20 somethings with long pointy nails and bleached beachy waves.
If OP's wife is in that category though, go for it!?

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Anonymous wrote:I think if you’re getting her something from Cartier it should be something that will still be age appropriate in her 30s/40s— the love bracelet reminds me of the open Tiffany silver heart for the late twenties set.

+1 No offense to anyone who already has it and I love Cartier myself, but these days the love bracelet seems to be a staple among those 20 somethings with long pointy nails and bleached beachy waves.
If OP's wife is in that category though, go for it!?

The Kardashians ruined the Love bracelet IMO. At the end of the day, it's a pretty nondescript gold bangle and goes with everything. I've had mine for almost ten years now and still wear it everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:Get out of the "gift" lane and focus on experiences. Short trips, long trips, experiences.

Yes because among the DC UMC the only morally acceptable luxury is travel.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people are calling OP's wife high maintenance and princess-y. Why is she not allowed to want nice things? You just seem jealous and judgmental.

Because these aren't nice things. She just wants things to show off. She just wants to get a lot of material things. She equates expensive gifts with love.

This. Basic b****ery at its finest.

But it’s classic, and the symbolism

so mean-spirited. Who are you to decide what is nice to her? Why mock what she likes because it’s not for you? I agree with the pp, very “jealous and judgemental” vibes.

We're not mocking what she likes we're mocking the idea of spending 7k on a bracelet just because it has a little C on it.

You literally said “these aren’t nice things”, and added “basic b****ery” to boot. If you must comment, why not just say it’s not your style and leave it at that? Also, there are no C’s on the Cartier bracelet. You don’t even understand the symbolism but continue to mock it. They’re popular for a reason— just because you don’t get it doesn’t mean you have to be such a hater. Literally the definition of judgey and jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Damn lots of judgment! My wife doesn't demand anything, but I know that gifts are important to her. She doesn't bug me about stuff I buy for myself, like I just got a new $4k TV and she's fine with it. So yeah we can "afford" the bracelet but like anything in life there are wants, needs and necessities. Anyway I took some advice and found a nice custom piece of wood art from Europe with a subject that she likes and ordered that. Cartier will have to wait until anniversary 10

Wha? Your DW's love language is gifts (per your post). She wants a gift you can clearly afford it, and you recently spent a similar amount of money on something for yourself. Why on earth wouldn't you just get her what she wants?

Do you have some kind of "upping the ante" history? Like she would expect more expensive gifts YoY? DH bought me a $7K Chanel bag from the flagship shop in Paris where we went for our 10th anniversary. I've never expected or even wanted a gift that expensive since. But we don't usually do gifts by price (gifts are one of my love languages, BTW). I once bought DH an ice cream scoop for Christmas, because I knew it was the thing he wanted most. DH once wrapped up a can of Diet Coke for me (long story, but it was an amazing gift that year).

Anyway, if I were you I'd buy the bracelet. If there's a good reason for you not to do so, that probably indicates other problems in your relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people are calling OP's wife high maintenance and princess-y. Why is she not allowed to want nice things? You just seem jealous and judgmental.

Because these aren't nice things. She just wants things to show off. She just wants to get a lot of material things. She equates expensive gifts with love.

This. Basic b****ery at its finest.

But it’s classic, and the symbolism

so mean-spirited. Who are you to decide what is nice to her? Why mock what she likes because it’s not for you? I agree with the pp, very “jealous and judgemental” vibes.

We're not mocking what she likes we're mocking the idea of spending 7k on a bracelet just because it has a little C on it.

You literally said “these aren’t nice things”, and added “basic b****ery” to boot. If you must comment, why not just say it’s not your style and leave it at that? Also, there are no C’s on the Cartier bracelet. You don’t even understand the symbolism but continue to mock it. They’re popular for a reason— just because you don’t get it doesn’t mean you have to be such a hater. Literally the definition of judgey and jealous.

np. That’s what all marketing ploys use, generic symbolism. It’s as symbolic as those $25 friendship necklaces with half a broken heart. That’s why 1 in 3 girls in any college campus is wearing a knockoff along with a LV neverfull.

Stop chasing basic status symbols, for the money you can buy an amazing gold bangle from an artisan.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Damn lots of judgment! My wife doesn't demand anything, but I know that gifts are important to her. She doesn't bug me about stuff I buy for myself, like I just got a new $4k TV and she's fine with it. So yeah we can "afford" the bracelet but like anything in life there are wants, needs and necessities. Anyway I took some advice and found a nice custom piece of wood art from Europe with a subject that she likes and ordered that. Cartier will have to wait until anniversary 10

Wha? Your DW's love language is gifts (per your post). She wants a gift you can clearly afford it, and you recently spent a similar amount of money on something for yourself. Why on earth wouldn't you just get her what she wants?

Do you have some kind of "upping the ante" history? Like she would expect more expensive gifts YoY? DH bought me a $7K Chanel bag from the flagship shop in Paris where we went for our 10th anniversary. I've never expected or even wanted a gift that expensive since. But we don't usually do gifts by price (gifts are one of my love languages, BTW). I once bought DH an ice cream scoop for Christmas, because I knew it was the thing he wanted most. DH once wrapped up a can of Diet Coke for me (long story, but it was an amazing gift that year).

Anyway, if I were you I'd buy the bracelet. If there's a good reason for you not to do so, that probably indicates other problems in your relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people are calling OP's wife high maintenance and princess-y. Why is she not allowed to want nice things? You just seem jealous and judgmental.

Because these aren't nice things. She just wants things to show off. She just wants to get a lot of material things. She equates expensive gifts with love.

This. Basic b****ery at its finest.

But it’s classic, and the symbolism

so mean-spirited. Who are you to decide what is nice to her? Why mock what she likes because it’s not for you? I agree with the pp, very “jealous and judgemental” vibes.

We're not mocking what she likes we're mocking the idea of spending 7k on a bracelet just because it has a little C on it.

You literally said “these aren’t nice things”, and added “basic b****ery” to boot. If you must comment, why not just say it’s not your style and leave it at that? Also, there are no C’s on the Cartier bracelet. You don’t even understand the symbolism but continue to mock it. They’re popular for a reason— just because you don’t get it doesn’t mean you have to be such a hater. Literally the definition of judgey and jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why people are calling OP's wife high maintenance and princess-y. Why is she not allowed to want nice things? You just seem jealous and judgmental.

Because these aren't nice things. She just wants things to show off. She just wants to get a lot of material things. She equates expensive gifts with love.

This. Basic b****ery at its finest.

But it’s classic, and the symbolism

so mean-spirited. Who are you to decide what is nice to her? Why mock what she likes because it’s not for you? I agree with the pp, very “jealous and judgemental” vibes.

We're not mocking what she likes we're mocking the idea of spending 7k on a bracelet just because it has a little C on it.

You literally said “these aren’t nice things”, and added “basic b****ery” to boot. If you must comment, why not just say it’s not your style and leave it at that? Also, there are no C’s on the Cartier bracelet. You don’t even understand the symbolism but continue to mock it. They’re popular for a reason— just because you don’t get it doesn’t mean you have to be such a hater. Literally the definition of judgey and jealous.

No, I’m the one who said this was basic b**ch gear, and I’m a different person. There are lots of us who think this stuff is horrible. And yes I totally judge the lemmings who follow each other over the cliff, Cartier bangles clanking all the way down.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is your wife hot? If she is super hot, then the princess-y, demanding attitude can actually increase the sexy factor. But if she is homely or chubby and still makes you feel like you owe her four figure gifts, that is just gross.

OP, can you describe what your wife looks like to put this discussion in context? You are crowd sourcing a fairly personal matter and humble bragging about your income, so it is a fair question for you to answer.

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Ask yourself if she’s worth it? If you constantly go to the 19th hole with “your boys” or hang out with your “bros”, you might think a little harder about it. If you broke both your arms, couldn’t wipe your a$$ and your wife would, she’s worth $5k. 🤣

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If what you wife really wants is a Cartier Love bracelet and you can easily afford it, then buying her some random $$$$ 'European woodwork' is a really stupid idea.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. Damn lots of judgment! My wife doesn't demand anything, but I know that gifts are important to her. She doesn't bug me about stuff I buy for myself, like I just got a new $4k TV and she's fine with it. So yeah we can "afford" the bracelet but like anything in life there are wants, needs and necessities. Anyway I took some advice and found a nice custom piece of wood art from Europe with a subject that she likes and ordered that. Cartier will have to wait until anniversary 10

First of all, you knew it would be judgement. You wanted it and you got it. This is nothing you needed our help on…

Actually, based on all the people on here that claim to make >300k HHI I seriously thought I was going to get legit advice. Oh well

Seriously dude? $300k is two government jobs. It’s middle class. Save that money. You’re going to need it.

OP here again... we do make significantly more than that. Anyway thanks for all the advice.

You sound obnoxious OP. Why are you getting offended when people are giving you their honest opinion. The DC area is not like NJ, Florida or LA. It is less flashy so the answers are hardly surprising. If she is a NJ girl, definitely get her the bracelet

This made me laugh really hard