5 year wedding anniversary budget?
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Anonymous
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I got married, thinking it's going to be for decades, so 5 year anniversary didn't really seem like some big special occasion to celebrate.
Kind of like celebration of a kid 'graduating' from 2nd grade - nice day, but not a big deal. |
Anonymous
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While I think it is lovely that you remember your anniversary every year and get her something spending $5K for a 5 year anniversary seems like a lot. I have only been married 11 years and to be honest I don't even remember what my DH got me on our 5th anniversary. I think we just had baby #2 a few days before - maybe? Who knows it was a blur
For our 10th we went to Mexico. I would rather do a trip away than get jewelry any day but to each their own. |
Anonymous
Cartier Love bracelets are tacky and basic. |
Anonymous
| OP again. Damn lots of judgment! My wife doesn't demand anything, but I know that gifts are important to her. She doesn't bug me about stuff I buy for myself, like I just got a new $4k TV and she's fine with it. So yeah we can "afford" the bracelet but like anything in life there are wants, needs and necessities. Anyway I took some advice and found a nice custom piece of wood art from Europe with a subject that she likes and ordered that. Cartier will have to wait until anniversary 10 |
Anonymous
If she wants the bracelet, and you can afford it, get her the bracelet. It's not how we do anniversaries - we're not that rich, and I don't care about jewelry - but it sounds like this is a thing for you two. I guess I'd ask: why NOT get her the bracelet if you have the $ and it's what she wants? I don't know how she will feel about wood art if she likes jewelry. |
Anonymous
First of all, you knew it would be judgement. You wanted it and you got it. This is nothing you needed our help on… |
Anonymous
| OP, ignore all the judgy people. If you can afford it and it makes your wife happy, then get it. My DH has bought me a lot of jewelry for anniversaries/birthdays and I appreciate it. I wear it a lot and some day, my DDs will love to wear it, too (they already tell me which pieces they want!). I generally have no problem buying things for myself, even nice bags, but for whatever reason I would not go buy myself an expensive piece of jewelry - so I'm happy that my DH will. |
Anonymous
Actually, based on all the people on here that claim to make >300k HHI I seriously thought I was going to get legit advice. Oh well |
Anonymous
People who make 300-600K are still basically working stiffs, many of whom had student loans and thus come into that earning power with a frugal mindset. Our income is about to increase to $550K and while we can afford to buy a Cartier bracelet every year for my wife, that's just not how we roll. We also don't buy $1L purses with frequency or $4K TVs. But we do throw about $8K every month into retirement, college, and regular savings accounts. Two working stiffs who try to keep our spending low and investments high. That's why this area has the highest incomes and wealth per household in the country. |
Anonymous
We make ~$550k and I gave you advice based on your expressed concern that you would be setting an unwanted precedent of spending more than you're comfortable spending. Not much of a flex to turn around and try to call everyone who responded poor. |
Anonymous
Also add in the $4000-$5000 we all spend on daycare a month. |
Anonymous
Because she is demanding fendi purses for a single digit anniversary and now a carrier bracelet. If she wasn’t a striver, her family would have gotten her that bracelet years ago. |
Anonymous
Seriously dude? $300k is two government jobs. It’s middle class. Save that money. You’re going to need it. |
Anonymous
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It’s pretty hideous and would be dangerous for me to wear, as I work with my hands and that’s a recipe for a broken wrist…b but it sounds like your wife would like it, so you should buy it for her. As long as she doesn’t deal with machinery.
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Anonymous
OP here again... we do make significantly more than that. Anyway thanks for all the advice. |