Mom bod

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mom so I have a mom bod because I’m a mom.

If you don’t love me because I have a normal body bye bye.

If I don’t love me because I have a mom bod, therapy.

I don't love you at all, but it has nothing to do with your body. I don't love or not love my family members based on their weight or height or body shape. Of course you have a mom bod because you are a mom. That is the case for all mothers. If you are a mother, your body is a mother's body.

I still don't love you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

+1. I weigh about the same as I did pre-kids (give or take 5 pounds). But I am carrying more weight in my midsection and lost muscle tone there, so my body looks different. Not to mention the deflated chest and varicose veins.

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Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

My DH reminds me of this whenever I get down on my flabby belly. Plus, he says he likes how soft and cushy it is. LOL

I have two kids. They are beautiful, smart, and funny. I wouldn't trade having my skinny self with not having my kids.

Just try to exercise and eat right, and try to get enough sleep. Don't take being healthy for granted.

Ok, I am honestly confused. I had two kids two, and no flabby belly, in fact, it was after I had kids that I had the best abs ever. It is now at 51 that I got some flabby belly. I do not think pregnancy and a flabby belly are a must.

My dear.. everyone is different. I was super skinny until I was 32. BUT, I always had a pooch. That's genetics.

I also had two very large babies, and I'm very very petite and small framed. I gained under 30 lbs with both kids, but I guess my womb is just made for babies. I had to have an emergency csection.

This all lead to the "mommy apron" belly. The amount of skin that stretched out during my pregnancies could create another human being.

I think rather than focus on your mom bod, you might focus on how different women carry the weight differently and also age differently so you have a better understanding of women's bodies. You seem a tad bit clueless.

I'm also 51, btw.

My response was to a pp who claimed that, onceyou have kid, a flabby belly is there to stay. I take issue with that, generalizing to that extent.

You are not only "honestly confused", but also obtuse.

The vast majority of women have mom bods after they give birth, and especially once they hit middle age. Your anecdote is just that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

The bolded is key, whether your "mom bod" is due to aging or pregnancy-related changes or whatever. Have the goal of reasonable health, not looking exactly as you did in college.

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Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

My DH reminds me of this whenever I get down on my flabby belly. Plus, he says he likes how soft and cushy it is. LOL

I have two kids. They are beautiful, smart, and funny. I wouldn't trade having my skinny self with not having my kids.

Just try to exercise and eat right, and try to get enough sleep. Don't take being healthy for granted.

Ok, I am honestly confused. I had two kids two, and no flabby belly, in fact, it was after I had kids that I had the best abs ever. It is now at 51 that I got some flabby belly. I do not think pregnancy and a flabby belly are a must.

My dear.. everyone is different. I was super skinny until I was 32. BUT, I always had a pooch. That's genetics.

I also had two very large babies, and I'm very very petite and small framed. I gained under 30 lbs with both kids, but I guess my womb is just made for babies. I had to have an emergency csection.

This all lead to the "mommy apron" belly. The amount of skin that stretched out during my pregnancies could create another human being.

I think rather than focus on your mom bod, you might focus on how different women carry the weight differently and also age differently so you have a better understanding of women's bodies. You seem a tad bit clueless.

I'm also 51, btw.

My response was to a pp who claimed that, onceyou have kid, a flabby belly is there to stay. I take issue with that, generalizing to that extent.

You are not only "honestly confused", but also obtuse.

The vast majority of women have mom bods after they give birth, and especially once they hit middle age. Your anecdote is just that.

Right, no one said every single person who gave birth has a mom bod. The vast majority of women do not have their "best abs ever" after giving birth, and have some degree of mom bod.

I just try to exercise regularly, eat healthfully, and enjoy my family and career. I don't like 22 bc I'm not 22, and I wouldn't want to be!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

It doesn't always. My body only underwent tiny changes -- slightly larger ribcage, slightly smaller breasts, slightly more clenched-up pelvic floor that I have to consciously un-clench. But I absolutely know how lucky I am and how rare that is, and that's a part of why I'm never having any more kids. Also I had mine at 25 so that's a factor undoubtedly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

It doesn't always. My body only underwent tiny changes -- slightly larger ribcage, slightly smaller breasts, slightly more clenched-up pelvic floor that I have to consciously un-clench. But I absolutely know how lucky I am and how rare that is, and that's a part of why I'm never having any more kids. Also I had mine at 25 so that's a factor undoubtedly

And yet you still don't look like you did at 22. You don't. You may look "young for your age", but your body, your skin, your posture and muscle tone will all still age. Which is fine, natural and acceptable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

Um sure. My body changed. My feet are bigger. My hips are wider. Boobs are saggier. But I can’t do anything about that. So losing 15 pounds made a huge difference to me. I didn’t feel like I had a mom bod. So. Call me obtuse all you want!

[Anonymous]

I was really skinny up until I had my first kid at the age of 39. Now I'm embracing my mom bod. I've got breasts and hips which I never had before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

Some of you are so obtuse. It's not about WEIGHT. Having babies changes bodies. Getting older changes bodies. Even if you weigh 115, it's not the same 115 as when you were 22. There is nothing wrong with having a mom bod. If you are active and eat a well balanced meal, that should be enough. Strong and active beats dieting and obsessing over the scale any day.

My weight and measurement are the same as they were before I had a baby.

Op, don’t go gently into that good night! I feel so bad for some of who have just given up. I joined an exercise program for moms a few years ago and the accompanying Facebook group. There are 40 and 50 year old moms of multiple kids in that group who have great bodies.

[Anonymous]

Having children late is bad for the body. Try to have them before advanced maternal age of 32.

Mommy makeover js common for young and old. Old mom like 32 and older can't spring back so that's what is recommended

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having children late is bad for the body. Try to have them before advanced maternal age of 32.

Mommy makeover js common for young and old. Old mom like 32 and older can't spring back so that's what is recommended

Lolol 32 is hardly an old mom.

[Anonymous]

My body is way better now at 49 than it was in my 20s and 30s. BUT I had gestational diabetes when I had my kids at 32 and 35 and it completely changed my attitude towards food and exercise. I was always slim but didn’t eat particualry well and only did a bit of exercise. I’m now the fittest I have ever been. Agree that you shouldn’t give up just because you have kids. You can absolutely improve your body

[Anonymous]

My sister is 61 and had six kids young. She works out and is stronger but the same weight as she was at 21, at 5’6” 120-125. She has more of a boyish figure now, no bust line to speak of, and vein issues on her legs. A very slight belly (6 vaginal births). So some of the Mom bod issues mentioned here.

I can tell you though, that her body is very difficult to achieve for the average person. Her appetite is small, for instance never more than one small piece of a small chicken, or 6-7 french fries, no candy or chocolates, no late night snacking, no alcohol, etc.

And she hates to sit down, much prefers to stand and walk all the time.

So I would propose that if you do everything like she does, and you still are heavier than you used to be and don’t like the way you look in clothes, then something is really wrong with your thyroid or some such.

On the flip side, how many women really are happy following a routine like hers?