Mom bod

[Anonymous]

You are actually confused that some peoples bodies changed after giving birth to multiple children even though yours didn’t?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

My DH reminds me of this whenever I get down on my flabby belly. Plus, he says he likes how soft and cushy it is. LOL

I have two kids. They are beautiful, smart, and funny. I wouldn't trade having my skinny self with not having my kids.

Just try to exercise and eat right, and try to get enough sleep. Don't take being healthy for granted.

Ok, I am honestly confused. I had two kids two, and no flabby belly, in fact, it was after I had kids that I had the best abs ever. It is now at 51 that I got some flabby belly. I do not think pregnancy and a flabby belly are a must.

My dear.. everyone is different. I was super skinny until I was 32. BUT, I always had a pooch. That's genetics.

I also had two very large babies, and I'm very very petite and small framed. I gained under 30 lbs with both kids, but I guess my womb is just made for babies. I had to have an emergency csection.

This all lead to the "mommy apron" belly. The amount of skin that stretched out during my pregnancies could create another human being.

I think rather than focus on your mom bod, you might focus on how different women carry the weight differently and also age differently so you have a better understanding of women's bodies. You seem a tad bit clueless.

I'm also 51, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

My DH reminds me of this whenever I get down on my flabby belly. Plus, he says he likes how soft and cushy it is. LOL

I have two kids. They are beautiful, smart, and funny. I wouldn't trade having my skinny self with not having my kids.

Just try to exercise and eat right, and try to get enough sleep. Don't take being healthy for granted.

Ok, I am honestly confused. I had two kids two, and no flabby belly, in fact, it was after I had kids that I had the best abs ever. It is now at 51 that I got some flabby belly. I do not think pregnancy and a flabby belly are a must.

My dear.. everyone is different. I was super skinny until I was 32. BUT, I always had a pooch. That's genetics.

I also had two very large babies, and I'm very very petite and small framed. I gained under 30 lbs with both kids, but I guess my womb is just made for babies. I had to have an emergency csection.

This all lead to the "mommy apron" belly. The amount of skin that stretched out during my pregnancies could create another human being.

I think rather than focus on your mom bod, you might focus on how different women carry the weight differently and also age differently so you have a better understanding of women's bodies. You seem a tad bit clueless.

I'm also 51, btw.

My response was to a pp who claimed that, onceyou have kid, a flabby belly is there to stay. I take issue with that, generalizing to that extent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mom so I have a mom bod because I’m a mom.

If you don’t love me because I have a normal body bye bye.

If I don’t love me because I have a mom bod, therapy.

What? I mean does that make you feel better? That you're a mom and you have a mom bod? What does that even mean? Moms come in all shapes and sizes, are you hugging moms who are slim and toned? What is a normal body type? Some people do not have normal body types for moms? There is so much shaming and BS you piled in your post.

[Anonymous]

Nearly all women have some changes to their body post childbirth. Even if you weren’t overweight before and lost all the weight after, generally there are still subtle changes and you don’t have actually the same body at 40 and post kids as you did 20 and pre kids. You just don’t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nearly all women have some changes to their body post childbirth. Even if you weren’t overweight before and lost all the weight after, generally there are still subtle changes and you don’t have actually the same body at 40 and post kids as you did 20 and pre kids. You just don’t

*exactly, not actually

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

Yes. Think of your daughters. I don't want mine spending their time and energy worrying about their weight or about surgery or this product or that product. Yuck. Teach them to focus on a healthy, fulfilling life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

Yes. Think of your daughters. I don't want mine spending their time and energy worrying about their weight or about surgery or this product or that product. Yuck. Teach them to focus on a healthy, fulfilling life

As long as the changes don’t include being overweight. No one should embrace being overweight because it isn’t heathy. So yes, embrace health and hopefully those practice coincide with maintaining a heathy weight.

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 and while I'm only 5 lbs heavier than I was when I got pregnant with my first child 9 years ago, things have SHIFTED. I've always been in pretty good shape as an adult, both before and after kids. I run, lift weights and have pretty good muscle tone. I was a size 4 before kids but I'm now a 6-8. So it's not a drastic change but I'm getting flab where I never used to have flab before (like my arms). My diet is pretty decent but in order to drop the 5+ lbs I could stand to lose, I'd have to drastically overhaul my diet and eat very little. I'm not sure I'm wiling to do that, so I guess this mom bod is here to stay.

My bigger concern is actually staving off additional pounds as I get older. I hit 41 and things started to go downhill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and while I'm only 5 lbs heavier than I was when I got pregnant with my first child 9 years ago, things have SHIFTED. I've always been in pretty good shape as an adult, both before and after kids. I run, lift weights and have pretty good muscle tone. I was a size 4 before kids but I'm now a 6-8. So it's not a drastic change but I'm getting flab where I never used to have flab before (like my arms). My diet is pretty decent but in order to drop the 5+ lbs I could stand to lose, I'd have to drastically overhaul my diet and eat very little. I'm not sure I'm wiling to do that, so I guess this mom bod is here to stay.

My bigger concern is actually staving off additional pounds as I get older. I hit 41 and things started to go downhill.

This is almost me exactly. I'm 5 lbs heavier but I look 15 lbs heavier. I swear my ribcage got wider which makes me look heavier up top. I have the mom pouch and love handles. My thighs touch when I stand with my feet together. I don't know where all the flab came from because it has to be more than 5 lbs. Lost muscle? I am still somewhat fit and workout a couple times a week. Not as much as I should but better than nothing. I do 16:8 IF which keeps me from snacking too much, and that's enough diet management for me.

For the most part I have embraced the mom bod. I'm holding steady at this new weight despite the shapeshifting, so I'm calling it a win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am embracing my mom bod but staying fit. I don't focus on losing weight or trying to get rid of my mom pooch, because I don't want to structure my life around it and I want to set a better example for my DD.

Whenever I find myself thinking negative thoughts about how the shape and weight distribution of my body has changed, I remind myself, "This body made a human. And now it carries me around everywhere I need to go and runs and jumps and crawls on the floor with my kid and builds things and makes art." It's a good body. I dare you to try and judge it.

I so wish more people had this perspective.

[Anonymous]

Does hubby have Dad bod? If he does the two of you can slum it together provided he's not a high earner with options. If he were you probably wouldn't have bothered posting this. If he's still in shape and over 6ft you better get it together.

[Anonymous]

Try to lose the weight. Why would you want to start your 40s with a mom bod???

When I was 43 I lost about 15 pounds when I fell in love ... and looked amazing! it lasted until last year (I'm now almost 52) I'm back on the paying attention to my body wagon (oh, covid. You got me) and hope to get back to that 115-120 weight where I feel better.

[Anonymous]

I did not accept it. But I lost the weight right after and I feel like the longer you wait, the worse it gets. Still try though. Talk to a registered dietitian to help with meal planning. Find an exercise you enjoy.

[Anonymous]

I bounced back right away after the first two babies. Then I had twins over 5 lbs each and now I’m covered in stretch marks and have some excess skin, and my abs aren’t flat even after losing the weight. No, a tummy tuck isn’t an option for medical reasons. I really hate hearing people tell each other “do the tummy tuck!” Because it isn’t an option for everyone and it sends the message that this kind of body is inferior or wrong. Happy for you if you’re happier after doing it, but it shouldn’t be portrayed as the only acceptable path if you have a “mom bod.”