Nanny cams = Hiding in the barhroom

[Anonymous]

“I have done X, Y, and Z and the kids are napping. I am now going to take a 20 minute break to eat lunch. If you don’t allow me to have a few breaks, I will have less energy and less patience when the kids are with me. If I can’t take a few breaks a day, just like you do at work, then we should discuss my end date.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you can say “Sure, I’ll do XYZ task before the kids get up. I’m just resting for a second so I can be nice and fresh for when they wake up 😊! Hope you’re day is going well.” I bet they’ll let you be.

If they push back, talk to them. “I love watching Larlo and Larla. They are such special kids and so clever. I take my tasks seriously, and find that taking a breather while they nap ensures that I can be my best for them the moment that they wake up.” Then pause. See what they say. I bet they don’t push back. You sound wonderful and if you had to move on, I bet another family would snatch you up.

The constant surveillance is ridiculous, by the way. I’m sorry OP.

MB here. I advise you to continue looking for a job. Also with 12-24 hr days you are getting a lot of overtime? If not you are not getting market rate- make sure you ask for this at your next job.

I think this Pps advice is spot on for how to gently help them be better employers. So if the rest of the job is good give it a try. And gently advocating for things is a good skill. I find the best nannies gently guide. when I have gone astray I have really appreciated our nanny gently resetting expectations. Good luck. And if you are looking I’ll bet you find a lot of offers. Nannies have permenantly become the best option for people who can afford one due to the insanity of quarantines and covid decimating the workforce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every day I bring a nanny bag to work with activities for the kids. I’ve now starting adding a Turkish towel and travel pillow. Nanny family has cameras in every room. There is no space I feel like I can just breathe and eat my lunch. I work so hard, 12-14 hrs a day and when the kids nap, I finish my nanny duties and really need 20 mins just to decompress. But I can’t, because my boss watches the cameras like it’s Netflix and the minute I sit down, I get a text asking me to do something. I can’t even eat a meal or sit for more than 10 mins, before the texts start.

So now I bring my bag to the bathroom, lay out the towel, and sit on the floor to have some peace. I use the mini pillow to support my back against the wall. I’m paid extremely well so I feel like my bosses really want to get their moneys worth. So, now I hide. Maybe they think I have IBS, I don’t know. But cleaning the bathroom isn’t my job and I do it every day, just to have a space to sit.

Parents with cameras, please don’t micromanage through the camera. If I could have a space camera free just to eat my lunch, it would be so nice. I never feel like I can relax. I need naptime to recharge. Please, if you have cameras, tell the nanny about a place where she can just sit and decompress, to get ready for your little one to wake up.

Thanks for listening

This is creepy as heck! Some parents really psychological help.

[Anonymous]

I get 1 hour and a half to rest. I lay down on the floor too and recharge when the kids wake up from their nap. I think theres no cameras, maybe i will leave a camera too. Find another job, hugs!

[Anonymous]

OP, working for someone like this can be a big liability for you. I don't know their reasoning, but you know they will not stand behind you if something bad and unplanned happens. Hopefully, you can find someplace else to work in the future. Good luck