If you WFH, how much do you interact with your spouse during the work day?

[Anonymous]

We overlap maybe 2 days a week so we’ll try to have lunch together one of those days. We both have demanding jobs so sometimes we order delivery to arrive and we eat together for 30 minutes. Or if our schedules don’t coordinate we will have a coffee together.

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Anonymous wrote:How do dual WFH all have so much time to hang out?

Kids are in school only 6 hrs, and if they span enough grades you can have an elem leaving at 9am and middle school home by 2:30pm. We can work before and after that but the house does get more chaotic when they are home, so those 5 hours need to be focused on work not gym and quickies.

Or maybe it’s only people with high school students and long tenure in their jobs — so you can kind of coast at work and kid will be after school activies and take the late bus?

You sound envious. Some of us make our own schedules because we are senior enough and yes, our kids are older.

Uh yeah I’m envious. Sorry you missed that memo. I want to be paid to nap and go on walks like an old duffer

You are reading the responses of a bunch of GS-15 who don't actually do anything and aren't held accountable. They used to have to go in, but now they are "senior enough" to fake it in the current WFH scenario.

Nope. All the slackers are lobbying hard to go back in person. When you WFH at my agency, IT monitors the amount of time connected and active. It drives our older lawyers crazy as they want to print and review docs
on paper. We also need to email the work plan on Monday and show the progress and analysis by Friday. If you are in the office, you are not required to do any of these, so underperformers hate telework. They usually come in late, play on the phone, take 2 hour lunch, then gym downstairs and shower and leave at 4 so they won't miss the MARC/VRE.

So much wasted admin time just to keep people from slacking off. What a waste of time and money. Just get people back into the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All people having quickies during the work day, I’m jealous!

We do--usually twice a week--but this is the only sex we have. I am just more comfortable having sex when the kids are out of the house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t interact at all except for a quick chat while we prep lunch and head back to our desks. Our preschool still has “covid hours” and so we don’t have time for lunch or breaks. One of us has to start at 9:15 due to the start time and one of us has to leave at 4pm to pick up.

Both of us are on the phone / in meetings 5-6 hours a day. All these people eating lunch, working out, running errands - how many hours a week do you work? What are your hours?

We do a regular day's work, but we don't have 5-6 hours of meetings. I don't typically have more than 2 or 3. We both work across time zones, so do some stuff early or late, and it doesn't matter if we want to take some breaks during the day. It's great for our marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:How do dual WFH all have so much time to hang out?

Kids are in school only 6 hrs, and if they span enough grades you can have an elem leaving at 9am and middle school home by 2:30pm. We can work before and after that but the house does get more chaotic when they are home, so those 5 hours need to be focused on work not gym and quickies.

Or maybe it’s only people with high school students and long tenure in their jobs — so you can kind of coast at work and kid will be after school activies and take the late bus?

You sound envious. Some of us make our own schedules because we are senior enough and yes, our kids are older.

Uh yeah I’m envious. Sorry you missed that memo. I want to be paid to nap and go on walks like an old duffer

You are reading the responses of a bunch of GS-15 who don't actually do anything and aren't held accountable. They used to have to go in, but now they are "senior enough" to fake it in the current WFH scenario.

Nope. All the slackers are lobbying hard to go back in person. When you WFH at my agency, IT monitors the amount of time connected and active. It drives our older lawyers crazy as they want to print and review docs
on paper. We also need to email the work plan on Monday and show the progress and analysis by Friday. If you are in the office, you are not required to do any of these, so underperformers hate telework. They usually come in late, play on the phone, take 2 hour lunch, then gym downstairs and shower and leave at 4 so they won't miss the MARC/VRE.

So much wasted admin time just to keep people from slacking off. What a waste of time and money. Just get people back into the office.

My coworker found the thread lol. They don't do anything in the office. They take naps too and play on the phone. Everyone needs to show results. There is zero cost in monitoring activity online. The technology is built in the connection and the activity reports are generated automatically. It's time to finally pull your weight.

[Anonymous]

Fair warning: this is one of those annoying comments where a SAHM mom answers the question for her husband.

DH is a big law partner and works a lot but the work ebbs and flows and is almost always flexible. Unless he is doing a meeting or there is a deadline, he can stop to chat or play with the kids or take a shower with me. He's just the type of person who enjoys chatting so we do it frequently throughout the day.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t interact at all except for a quick chat while we prep lunch and head back to our desks. Our preschool still has “covid hours” and so we don’t have time for lunch or breaks. One of us has to start at 9:15 due to the start time and one of us has to leave at 4pm to pick up.

Both of us are on the phone / in meetings 5-6 hours a day. All these people eating lunch, working out, running errands - how many hours a week do you work? What are your hours?

These are the people screaming that it’s so horrible that so many employers want people back in office even part time because they’re “so much more productive at home.”

Sure, I do the laundry and occasionally get boned while WFH, but it's not as if I was spending 100% of the time working at the office either. There is so much time wasting going on in the office, from chatting with co-workers to pointless meetings. Not to mention the time spent commuting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fair warning: this is one of those annoying comments where a SAHM mom answers the question for her husband.

DH is a big law partner and works a lot but the work ebbs and flows and is almost always flexible. Unless he is doing a meeting or there is a deadline, he can stop to chat or play with the kids or take a shower with me. He's just the type of person who enjoys chatting so we do it frequently throughout the day.

Almost all of the responses were from WAH moms with WAH husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t interact at all except for a quick chat while we prep lunch and head back to our desks. Our preschool still has “covid hours” and so we don’t have time for lunch or breaks. One of us has to start at 9:15 due to the start time and one of us has to leave at 4pm to pick up.

Both of us are on the phone / in meetings 5-6 hours a day. All these people eating lunch, working out, running errands - how many hours a week do you work? What are your hours?

These are the people screaming that it’s so horrible that so many employers want people back in office even part time because they’re “so much more productive at home.”

Sure, I do the laundry and occasionally get boned while WFH, but it's not as if I was spending 100% of the time working at the office either. There is so much time wasting going on in the office, from chatting with co-workers to pointless meetings. Not to mention the time spent commuting.

+1. Also, I have no idea what kind of sex you people have. We're done in max 10 minutes. I'm on overperformer and can have two O in less than 5 minutes. Maybe it takes longer when one hits 50+ due to needing more time to be ready?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We'll occasionally sit and have lunch together (maybe once a week), and a couple times a week we coordinate to take a walk during the day. We also wander into each others' offices if we want to chat or vent about something - but if we see the other person is busy we obviously leave them alone!

No one likes to be bothered when they are busy or in the zone - it sounds like your DH's job is more demanding so it's understandable that he doesn't want interruptions.

This.

At this point we've found a pretty good balance. We normally over lap a little at lunch. But we spend a LOT OF TIME together since we both WFH for 2 years at this point, so I don't really think we need even more time during the work day.

If the "working until 6pm" thing bothers you, see if he can adjust his hours. Both my DH and I are generally winding down by 4:30/5pm.

[Anonymous]

strict limit on the zoom calls.. no oral if I am presenting, its ok if I'm not just make sure not to pop out from under the table and show up on camera

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Anonymous wrote:strict limit on the zoom calls.. no oral if I am presenting, its ok if I'm not just make sure not to pop out from under the table and show up on camera

PIV ok for zoom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a quickie before lunch most days.

+1

With some long lazy afternoon sessions sprinkled it.

And we have a standing “kink” appointment every Tuesday at 10:30

[Anonymous]

DH and I were both working from home during the pandemic but I returned to work about six months ago. We ate lunch together every day but by god, if he spoke to me outside of that I would get soooo annoyed. I am very, very focused on my job and can sit for several hours concentrating on a task. We finally agreed that he basically would ignore me in a nice way from 8-4:30 with a 30 minute lunch break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were both working from home during the pandemic but I returned to work about six months ago. We ate lunch together every day but by god, if he spoke to me outside of that I would get soooo annoyed. I am very, very focused on my job and can sit for several hours concentrating on a task. We finally agreed that he basically would ignore me in a nice way from 8-4:30 with a 30 minute lunch break.

What do you do that requires that much concentration?