Does any new mom get to spend time with her husband?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you had twins a month ago, anything short of being sure you should divorce is commendable. Don’t worry about it until 6 months at least.

Not the OP, but thanks to this poster. I am about six months postpartum and I still harbor a lot of frustration and bad feelings my husband. I hate it. Having a kid has been exceptionally hard on our otherwise good marriage. I always find it so comforting to know this is not uncommon and very often gets better.

Yesssss. If it helps, write down what you’re feeling and put it in an envelope dated for 3 or even 6 months from now. You’ll feel so much better about it. Even the parts where you are totally right!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not missing anything.

The first few months after a baby is born couples are usually in survival mode. Nobody is having date night at 4 weeks postpartum.

Unless you are my neighbor who goes out every weekend leaving her nearly half dozen kids with the nanny, including going out last Friday night leaving her 2 week old newborn. But hey, her 1 year old and other small kids don’t need a mom when you’ve got the hired help doing all the parenting.

In fairness I think that’s the only way to have five kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not missing anything.

The first few months after a baby is born couples are usually in survival mode. Nobody is having date night at 4 weeks postpartum.

Unless you are my neighbor who goes out every weekend leaving her nearly half dozen kids with the nanny, including going out last Friday night leaving her 2 week old newborn. But hey, her 1 year old and other small kids don’t need a mom when you’ve got the hired help doing all the parenting.

In fairness I think that’s the only way to have five kids.

Lol, that’s exactly what my spouse said when we realized she was pregnant again just after having her baby who is just 1 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not missing anything.

The first few months after a baby is born couples are usually in survival mode. Nobody is having date night at 4 weeks postpartum.

Unless you are my neighbor who goes out every weekend leaving her nearly half dozen kids with the nanny, including going out last Friday night leaving her 2 week old newborn. But hey, her 1 year old and other small kids don’t need a mom when you’ve got the hired help doing all the parenting.

She wouldn’t have that many if she had to take care of them instead of the nanny.

[Anonymous]

In order to see your husband during this time you either need to have had a singleton or have family/friend help. We have both and have been able to take several date nights since our 3 month old was born, but we're obviously very fortunate to have those things in our favor! Twins is a whole different beast.