Career as a nurse -- DH has a prejudice against it

[Anonymous]

Wow he has some big opinions…wondering how he would react if she wanted to become a school teacher.

[Anonymous]

my DD has been working 5 years in the CVICU at the top pediatric heart hospital in america. they are paid hourly. started around 50k and has gotten several raises along the way. their raises might be $1 per hour or $2 per hour, so not great. i think she makes 70ish now. maybe a little more, but i am not sure. her job is very demanding, taking care of kids with heart defects and kids who need or have had heart transplants.

BTW it takes more than 2 years to become a nurse. most hospitals around her require a BSN, so that is about 60 hours of prereqs and then 1.5 - 2 years of nursing school.

[Anonymous]

RNs are lucky to make 49K

They destroy their bodies from being on their feet, long hours, night shifts, etc. If she were a nurse she should continue to pursue additional training or work for a plastic surgeon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc. Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)

I used to earn 200-300k in finance. My bosses made 500k+ to millions.

Dh was not the plan. I actually thought I would be the breadwinner. I earned more than him when we first got married.

Dh surprised me and was more successful than I expected. He earns seven figures.

Sigh. I guess you couldn’t hold back from rooting your DH horn.

You are exactly the model DH wants for our kids, to pursue high paying lucrative jobs, earn a nest egg, and then either advance, coast, or I guess snag a Big breadwinner.

I was replying to your comment “I wish I had a pink collar job”. You only wish that b/c DH is off making “seven figures”. If you actually had to support your lifestyle off the pink collar job, you would not have “rose pink” colored glasses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow he has some big opinions…wondering how he would react if she wanted to become a school teacher.

He has responded exactly the same; only do it if the idea of living in a rental apartment forever or moving to Ohio sound appealing. We don’t want to pressure them to marry just for financial stability, and teaching in a major metro is designed to be a job for a family of two earners.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc. Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)

I used to earn 200-300k in finance. My bosses made 500k+ to millions.

Dh was not the plan. I actually thought I would be the breadwinner. I earned more than him when we first got married.

Dh surprised me and was more successful than I expected. He earns seven figures.

Sigh. I guess you couldn’t hold back from rooting your DH horn.

You are exactly the model DH wants for our kids, to pursue high paying lucrative jobs, earn a nest egg, and then either advance, coast, or I guess snag a Big breadwinner.

I was replying to your comment “I wish I had a pink collar job”. You only wish that b/c DH is off making “seven figures”. If you actually had to support your lifestyle off the pink collar job, you would not have “rose pink” colored glasses.

Thank you for replying to her. So many women on this site are like this woman, touting the benefits of pink collar jobs or staying at home all the while they have rich husbands. A young girl planning her career can't count on scoring a high-earning white collar professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.registerednursing.org/nurse-anesthetist/salary/

This is a VERY tough program to get into and an ever tougher program to stay in. I know two people who were accepted into RNA programs and dropped out because they couldn't hack it (I think one of them may have been kicked out but I don't know details).

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men who avoid dating nurses, much less marrying them. It's viewed as a job where the woman will be working most of the time, leaving no time for a relationship. Hospitals can also be a hotbed for affairs between medical staff. Nurses are also viewed as having certain undesirable personality traits, as well.

That's what I hear from the men.

This is misogynistic and disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourself for writing this load of crap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The nurses I know are well paid (one is a nurse practitioner) and have amazing flexibility, especially if you have children. It's one of the few professions where you can dial it back to PT (if you want) when you are raising children and then jump right back in later.

Our kids aren’t looking for mommy jobs — they may not get married, may not have kids, so we are focused on jobs where they will be the breadwinner. Wouldn’t nursing be a good option if they don’t go PT? I don’t think they will want to be traveling nurses, and I don’t want to count on another pandemic. But being like a pediatric hospital nurse should clear like $100k right?

WTF with the "mommy jobs"? Nursing is a career, not a "mommy job". You misogynistic a-hole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc. Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)

I'm not in the medical field but judging by the turnover in nursing staff at my pediatrician's office, it must be a difficult job that doesn't pay well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc. Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)

I used to earn 200-300k in finance. My bosses made 500k+ to millions.

Dh was not the plan. I actually thought I would be the breadwinner. I earned more than him when we first got married.

Dh surprised me and was more successful than I expected. He earns seven figures.

Sigh. I guess you couldn’t hold back from rooting your DH horn.

You are exactly the model DH wants for our kids, to pursue high paying lucrative jobs, earn a nest egg, and then either advance, coast, or I guess snag a Big breadwinner.

I was replying to your comment “I wish I had a pink collar job”. You only wish that b/c DH is off making “seven figures”. If you actually had to support your lifestyle off the pink collar job, you would not have “rose pink” colored glasses.

NP but I AM the breadwinner in my family, making three times as much as my husband and I want to remind you that there IS a middle ground between traditionally female jobs like nursing and teaching and high-pressure jobs like i-banking and consulting. In fact MOST jobs are in that in-between. You do need to think outside of the box a little, PP.

I'm confused though - are you the OP talking about how you want your kids to be breadwinners and not have mommy jobs, or have you hijacked the OP's thread?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of men who avoid dating nurses, much less marrying them. It's viewed as a job where the woman will be working most of the time, leaving no time for a relationship. Hospitals can also be a hotbed for affairs between medical staff. Nurses are also viewed as having certain undesirable personality traits, as well.

That's what I hear from the men.

This is misogynistic and disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourself for writing this load of crap.

Agree. PP is a POS for even writing that. What a dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would recommend your kids avoid pink collar jobs: nursing, teaching, interior designer, librarian, etc. Even though they often require extensive training, skill, and hard work, they tend to pay less under the guise of being "family friendly" while high paid tech bros roll online at 10am in their pajamas and make 4x as much.

I disagree. I used to work in finance. I was the only female. I made a lot but I worked with all guys who had stay at home wives. It wasn’t sustainable being a mom. I wish I had a pink collar job. I didn’t even know what that meant until recently.

That’s only because you are married to a DH who makes good money and have kids. My kids for whatever reason are not interested in that at all — maybe they will change but building a career where the man is the plan is not my advice. But I thought nursing was more on par with and engineer or consultant in pay, and if you went into like hospital administration could make near $200k. But maybe I was wrong? Does pediatric nursing pay better, my cousin does that and raves about it (but she lives at home, I thought to allow her to travel and own dogs but maybe it’s more about the money?)

I used to earn 200-300k in finance. My bosses made 500k+ to millions.

Dh was not the plan. I actually thought I would be the breadwinner. I earned more than him when we first got married.

Dh surprised me and was more successful than I expected. He earns seven figures.

Sigh. I guess you couldn’t hold back from rooting your DH horn.

You are exactly the model DH wants for our kids, to pursue high paying lucrative jobs, earn a nest egg, and then either advance, coast, or I guess snag a Big breadwinner.

I was replying to your comment “I wish I had a pink collar job”. You only wish that b/c DH is off making “seven figures”. If you actually had to support your lifestyle off the pink collar job, you would not have “rose pink” colored glasses.

+1 it is so tiring reading the posts from wives humblebragging about their DH’s seven figure incomes. I don’t know how or why, but somehow these posts come up on every single thread, no matter what the topic.

[Anonymous]

As an RN in California, I made over $100K a year with 8 years experience. After COVID I left and went into case management (100% telework) and still make $98000. Becoming a nurse was one of the best decisions I have made….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The nurses I know are well paid (one is a nurse practitioner) and have amazing flexibility, especially if you have children. It's one of the few professions where you can dial it back to PT (if you want) when you are raising children and then jump right back in later.

Our kids aren’t looking for mommy jobs — they may not get married, may not have kids, so we are focused on jobs where they will be the breadwinner. Wouldn’t nursing be a good option if they don’t go PT? I don’t think they will want to be traveling nurses, and I don’t want to count on another pandemic. But being like a pediatric hospital nurse should clear like $100k right?

WTF with the "mommy jobs"? Nursing is a career, not a "mommy job". You misogynistic a-hole.

I wasn’t categorizing nursing — I was saying they aren’t looking for flexible dialing back or part-time jobs in general; they are looking for professions, whether it be nursing finance or competitive ice dancing.