Is anyone else feeling completely unmotivated to do anything?

[Anonymous]

Add me to the group. I’m a recent widow and life is so hard right now…..for so many. Hugs to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else feel like they're slogging through the same day over and over again? Make meals, clean dishes, work, make meals, clean dishes, laundry, take shower, go to bed exhausted, wake up, and repeat?

I don't *think* I'm more depressed than before -- I've gotten used to the new normal, I guess -- but don't feel happy either. Just blah. Apathetic. I can't bring myself to do anything more than the bare minimum.

My 2 cents - do not drag out your household chores throughout the day or it will make your day at home seem like an endless drudgery. Household work is never over so you have to give yourself and your family a set time to do the chores and then be done for the day.

Right now my selfcare is - internet, hygiene, exercise and sleeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Add me to the group. I’m a recent widow and life is so hard right now…..for so many. Hugs to everyone.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

When I work from home and there's no accountability to be busy, I slack more. A lot more. I'm glad I am back at work, I'm way more productive and happier.

I would call a friend and tell them you need to start socializing and ask how you can do that safely.

[Anonymous]

Adding to my apathy: I have some friends who have reached out in recent months but I've not gotten back to them. I want to keep in touch. Yet, because the reply requires effort (it's email and the reply requires more thought and time because the friends are not people in my daily life with whom I am in a regular conversation)...it just never happens. And then I feel guilty and can't face it. It's like I'm my own worst enemy. I know I could perhaps call instead but have left it so long...

Also: sleep troubles. Never had this before the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I completely agree, but why aren’t you socializing or having human contact?

We are trying to avoid Omicron. Most everyone we know got it without too much trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Add me to the group. I’m a recent widow and life is so hard right now…..for so many. Hugs to everyone.

Dp here. Hugs to you, PP. I'm sure this has really been hard for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I completely agree, but why aren’t you socializing or having human contact?

We are trying to avoid Omicron. Most everyone we know got it without too much trying.

Good luck with that. Some of us value mental health.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I have definitely been feeling this. It was bad last winter too. Keep in mind that lack of motivation and inability to feel pleasure (anhedonia) are signs of depression. It’s not just about being outright sad all the time. I am pretty sure mine will get better as the days get longer and the temps get warmer. I am starting to get things on the social calendar again which helps. But overall I feel like my social life is a shadow of what it was in 2019. Some friends have moved away, others have been so over the top cautious that I don’t see them between November and March. My kids are young and without many birthday parties or events at their schools it’s harder to meet and bond with other parents. I don’t know if I can handle another Covid winter next year. We might have to relocate if this area just goes into hiding once the weather is cold and it’s “Covid season”. I am sad about the ways in which our society and my life has changed because of Covid. A lot of us probably also have a lot of anger that can’t be directed at any one person and we are just carrying that around. I am not a Covid denier; we took a lot of precautions before vaccines and we wear masks in public indoor spaces. But I am not willing to give up life as I know it every winter for a virus that was so mild for my family (got it at the beginning of the omicron wave).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I completely agree, but why aren’t you socializing or having human contact?

We are trying to avoid Omicron. Most everyone we know got it without too much trying.

Good luck with that. Some of us value mental health.

Why be nasty. You are doing what you feel is best, and so is she. Why the need to put her down??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have definitely been feeling this. It was bad last winter too. Keep in mind that lack of motivation and inability to feel pleasure (anhedonia) are signs of depression. It’s not just about being outright sad all the time. I am pretty sure mine will get better as the days get longer and the temps get warmer. I am starting to get things on the social calendar again which helps. But overall I feel like my social life is a shadow of what it was in 2019. Some friends have moved away, others have been so over the top cautious that I don’t see them between November and March. My kids are young and without many birthday parties or events at their schools it’s harder to meet and bond with other parents. I don’t know if I can handle another Covid winter next year. We might have to relocate if this area just goes into hiding once the weather is cold and it’s “Covid season”. I am sad about the ways in which our society and my life has changed because of Covid. A lot of us probably also have a lot of anger that can’t be directed at any one person and we are just carrying that around. I am not a Covid denier; we took a lot of precautions before vaccines and we wear masks in public indoor spaces. But I am not willing to give up life as I know it every winter for a virus that was so mild for my family (got it at the beginning of the omicron wave).

We have the same feeling. We can't do this another year. I'm not a covid denier either, but we are emotionally done. In the beginning, people would talk about how this state was unsustainable. Well, it's isn't sustainable. We've been out of our home, in person school, in person work for the majority of the pandemic, but the constant anxiety, checks, case counts and concerns are adding up.

Winter here is hard already. The last two years have been awful. This year full of cold, snow and ice has made it worse. Start small, one task a day on the long list. Plan a vacation. Try and see the sun every day. Put your phone down at 9pm.

Only a few more weeks of winter. If spring doesn't come soon, I'm hunting groundhog myself!

[Anonymous]

I managed to walk around my neighborhood this morning, and even though it was cold and icy, it was so nice to hear the birds chirping and see daffodils start to pop out of the ground. Spring is on it’s way and it can’t get here soon enough for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I completely agree, but why aren’t you socializing or having human contact?

We are trying to avoid Omicron. Most everyone we know got it without too much trying.

Good luck with that. Some of us value mental health.

The shittiness of your reply says otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Another +1. Covid fatigue on top of normal winter blues. I can't even bring myself to get excited to plan summer vacation, as everything beyond what's absolutely necessary feels so hard.