Prepping for the week ruins my Sundays.

[Anonymous]

Get a weekly cleaning person who comes on Mondays. I cook on Sundays and leave all the dishes soaking in the sink for the cleaners Monday morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a weekly cleaning person who comes on Mondays. I cook on Sundays and leave all the dishes soaking in the sink for the cleaners Monday morning.

This. Assuming you both work hence the Sunday craziness? Get a cleaner already!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just finished making three dinners and two kinds of healthy muffin snacks for my 3 yr old and 1.5 year old. And did all their laundry and bed linens. I cleaned their rooms, organized their drawers, and cleaned their bathroom. I’ve moved on to getting myself ready for the week.

And I’m exhausted! DH had the kids outside and played all morning. Now the little one is napping and the older one is squealing with laughter playing Candyland with DH.

WTF am I doing wrong?

You married a loser who doesn't help with household tasks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just finished making three dinners and two kinds of healthy muffin snacks for my 3 yr old and 1.5 year old. And did all their laundry and bed linens. I cleaned their rooms, organized their drawers, and cleaned their bathroom. I’ve moved on to getting myself ready for the week.

And I’m exhausted! DH had the kids outside and played all morning. Now the little one is napping and the older one is squealing with laughter playing Candyland with DH.

WTF am I doing wrong?

You married a loser who doesn't help with household tasks?

Go to bed, PP. You’re cranky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bed linens get changed first thing upon waking on Sunday mornings. Dirty linens go to the laundry room and get washed at some point during the week to be used the next Sunday.

Laundry is run every single day. The loads are small, they take a few minutes to fold after dinner. I have a new machine that does a good job sensing the load and doesn’t waste a ton of water.

Dishwasher is run every single night. I don’t care if you can fit a few more bowls in. Run it overnight and put away in the morning. You can probably use half the clean dishes for breakfast anyway.

Wipe down surfaces as you use the rooms. Kitchen after dinner. Bathroom during bath time or after I brush my teeth at night.

Floors are cleaned twice a week, but only mopped once. I vacuum, swiffer, then mop. I enlist DH to perform the swiffer portion and that allows me to mop right behind him. I then set him off to do a quick dusting. Whole thing can be completed in less than an hour during nap time if you have help and keep it moving.

Meal prep…you gotta let this go a bit or get a deep freeze and dedicate a day per month to it. I’m in the process of making and freezing 48 biscuits right now, so I feel you. I would even consider taking a day off work each month to tackle this without losing your weekend. Search around Pinterest and you’ll find hundreds of complete dinner recipes that can be made and frozen.

Np here. I feel like I need you to help streamline my life

+1000. They probably even find time to work out.

[Anonymous]

I don’t bake. Never have, never will. That’s what grocery stores are for.

Hire cleaners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has me ROLLING. Yea we know all kids must consume muffins to live.

+1. So absurd. Yes, you can feed your highly allergic kid without them starving without making two different sets of muffins a week while you complain.

[Anonymous]

Here’s what’s helped me in a similar situation:

1. Do laundry every other day so it doesn’t pile up
2. Hire a cleaner if you can afford it
3. Make double batches of your muffins to freeze
4. Make one weeknight your cleaning night. DH gets to handle kid bedtimes and you focus on laundry, cleaning bathrooms, vacuuming, mopping, whatever. Or he does it and you handle kids. It lessens the load on the weekend. I’ve made Thursdays my day for this. DH takes our kids to basketball and manages their bath and bed routine, I put in my headphones and do a 2-hour power clean. We sacrifice the usual wine and TV evening that night in favor of gaining more freedom from chores on the weekend. It works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lower your standards. Easy solution. I spend my weekends outside playing with kids. My house is messy. My meals aren’t prepped. We plan a few meals and wing the rest. And I am
Mentally better off doing this and not trying to keep a perfect house with two little kids. No one else is inside but us, who cares?

My 18 month old train wreck if her meal is not on the table by 5:20 at the latest. It is definitely easier to meal prep in my household. If I feed her snacks to hold her over it spoils her dinner.

[Anonymous]

I get the sense that OP is a little bit of a martyr so this probably won’t help but since we’re on the muffins, a few practical tips for freezing in case others are new to it -

When you freeze something like muffins or meatballs or whatever, you freeze them on a flat tray like a baking sheet, not touching each other. Then once they’re frozen, dump them in a ziploc. This is obvious maybe but I didn’t know for a long time!

You can freeze almost any batter with baking powder in it. Scoop the frozen batter into muffin tins like ice cream and bake from frozen. Just add a few minutes. Or freeze in silicone muffin cups and then pop out and pile into a ziplock. This is good if you like the baking smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would skip two kinds of homemade muffins, if I were you.

OP here. I can’t. Picky eaters and allergies. Wish I could.

How many muffins are your kids eating every week? Can't you batch cook and freeze some?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just finished making three dinners and two kinds of healthy muffin snacks for my 3 yr old and 1.5 year old. And did all their laundry and bed linens. I cleaned their rooms, organized their drawers, and cleaned their bathroom. I’ve moved on to getting myself ready for the week.

And I’m exhausted! DH had the kids outside and played all morning. Now the little one is napping and the older one is squealing with laughter playing Candyland with DH.

WTF am I doing wrong?

You married a loser who doesn't help with household tasks?

DP but my kids are just slightly older than OP's- I am thrilled when DH takes the kids out solo by himself for a few hours so I can get some things done!! He helps with daily tasks like unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up after dinner but cooking and advanced meal prep are not his jam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just finished making three dinners and two kinds of healthy muffin snacks for my 3 yr old and 1.5 year old. And did all their laundry and bed linens. I cleaned their rooms, organized their drawers, and cleaned their bathroom. I’ve moved on to getting myself ready for the week.

And I’m exhausted! DH had the kids outside and played all morning. Now the little one is napping and the older one is squealing with laughter playing Candyland with DH.

WTF am I doing wrong?

You married a loser who doesn't help with household tasks?

DP but my kids are just slightly older than OP's- I am thrilled when DH takes the kids out solo by himself for a few hours so I can get some things done!! He helps with daily tasks like unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up after dinner but cooking and advanced meal prep are not his jam.

If childcare doesn't count as a contribution, I am a bum because that is what I'm doing while DH is working in the other room for 45 hours a week.

[Anonymous]

Why in the world are you leaving it all for Sunday? Do a task or two each evening. Laundry whenever there is enough for a load. Make a big batch of muffins and freeze them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just finished making three dinners and two kinds of healthy muffin snacks for my 3 yr old and 1.5 year old. And did all their laundry and bed linens. I cleaned their rooms, organized their drawers, and cleaned their bathroom. I’ve moved on to getting myself ready for the week.

And I’m exhausted! DH had the kids outside and played all morning. Now the little one is napping and the older one is squealing with laughter playing Candyland with DH.

WTF am I doing wrong?

You married a loser who doesn't help with household tasks?

DP but my kids are just slightly older than OP's- I am thrilled when DH takes the kids out solo by himself for a few hours so I can get some things done!! He helps with daily tasks like unloading the dishwasher and cleaning up after dinner but cooking and advanced meal prep are not his jam.

It doesn't matter. OP herself has already said that she and DH split chores. There is just a cadre of bitter posters here that visit every thread here to write about how the problem is always a lazy husband. If the situation were reversed, posters here would be talking about how the DH is a bad partner for sticking OP with the kids all day. Just like there is a group of posters that will pretend like anyone with dietary restrictions is just being precious. I'm sure there are people who fit in one or other of these categories, but DCUM thinks it's like 90% of people.