Single at 29 - Are all the rich guys taken?

[Anonymous]

OP, I work in healthcare and medical lobbying on the Hill. I deal with front facing industry reps (usually VP's or C-suite) and other lobbyists frequently. Lots of actually rich people (I define as $7M+ net worth and steady high cash flow) and well to dos. If you want to find an actually rich man you have to go where the fish is. Like PP said, rich men are usually very busy. There are single ones but they will be quickly snagged up if you don't make yourself noticeable.

First step to anything in life is showing up. So you gotta dress your best and start getting involved in charity events, fundraisers, and other social places. Have a legitimate reason to be there, otherwise you will look weird. Introduce yourself, be nice to people, including the other women. Let it be known that you are single. Never come off strong or desperate.

This is basically it. Rich men usually are not afraid to go for what they want. As long as they know you are attractive, friendly, and single, they will approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quality men are going to sniff out a gold digger a mile away.

Focus on your own career development, be financially self-sufficient, take good care of your appearance and treat dating like a job search. Cut them loose early on if it isn't a match, look for someone who shares your values, is ambitious (with action to back it up) professionally, and wants a family. Bonus points if he had a SAHM and wants that for his kids.

They don't need to be rich now to provide well for a family in the long run. A late 20s/early 30s man with education and ambition in the right field will see a lot of salary growth in the next 10 years. But they also don't want a leech, you have to bring something to the table with lasting power.

This is confusing. So she should not look to be a “leech” but should also target men who want a SAHM?

[Anonymous]

you’re too old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I work in healthcare and medical lobbying on the Hill. I deal with front facing industry reps (usually VP's or C-suite) and other lobbyists frequently. Lots of actually rich people (I define as $7M+ net worth and steady high cash flow) and well to dos. If you want to find an actually rich man you have to go where the fish is. Like PP said, rich men are usually very busy. There are single ones but they will be quickly snagged up if you don't make yourself noticeable.

First step to anything in life is showing up. So you gotta dress your best and start getting involved in charity events, fundraisers, and other social places. Have a legitimate reason to be there, otherwise you will look weird. Introduce yourself, be nice to people, including the other women. Let it be known that you are single. Never come off strong or desperate.

This is basically it. Rich men usually are not afraid to go for what they want. As long as they know you are attractive, friendly, and single, they will approach.

This sounds like a scam not a dating strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quality men are going to sniff out a gold digger a mile away.

Focus on your own career development, be financially self-sufficient, take good care of your appearance and treat dating like a job search. Cut them loose early on if it isn't a match, look for someone who shares your values, is ambitious (with action to back it up) professionally, and wants a family. Bonus points if he had a SAHM and wants that for his kids.

They don't need to be rich now to provide well for a family in the long run. A late 20s/early 30s man with education and ambition in the right field will see a lot of salary growth in the next 10 years. But they also don't want a leech, you have to bring something to the table with lasting power.

This is confusing. So she should not look to be a “leech” but should also target men who want a SAHM?

I don't know why that would be confusing. Most wealthy, quality men do not want a SAHM who is only there for the money and to leech off of them. They want someone competent, smart, fun and attractive to manage the home and raise their children.

In my social circle many of the SAHMs worked in impressive jobs before stepping back. They are smart women who know how to keep things running smoothly. Off the top of my head I can think of a few project managers, some in fashion or art, several in law, a couple in marketing, some former hill staffers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quality men are going to sniff out a gold digger a mile away.

Focus on your own career development, be financially self-sufficient, take good care of your appearance and treat dating like a job search. Cut them loose early on if it isn't a match, look for someone who shares your values, is ambitious (with action to back it up) professionally, and wants a family. Bonus points if he had a SAHM and wants that for his kids.

They don't need to be rich now to provide well for a family in the long run. A late 20s/early 30s man with education and ambition in the right field will see a lot of salary growth in the next 10 years. But they also don't want a leech, you have to bring something to the table with lasting power.

This is confusing. So she should not look to be a “leech” but should also target men who want a SAHM?

I don't know why that would be confusing. Most wealthy, quality men do not want a SAHM who is only there for the money and to leech off of them. They want someone competent, smart, fun and attractive to manage the home and raise their children.

In my social circle many of the SAHMs worked in impressive jobs before stepping back. They are smart women who know how to keep things running smoothly. Off the top of my head I can think of a few project managers, some in fashion or art, several in law, a couple in marketing, some former hill staffers.

This^. They want bright and educated women who are willing to raise kids, manage households and juggle social connections so husbands can climb professional ladder. Ambitious women look for same qualities in their husbands. These men and women are basically not king or queen wanna be, they are better at behind the scene king and queen makers.

[Anonymous]

There is a huge difference between financially stable/not in debt and rich. I understand the desire for the former - you want to marry an adult, not a man child who can’t take care of himself. But the desire to marry someone “rich” is just greedy and disgusting. You want to be rich? Work hard, get a good job, come up with a brilliant idea - don’t expect some man to do it for you.

[Anonymous]

Gold digging is still digging, find a better job if you waisted years in college.

[Anonymous]

College and grad school is where the majority of our friends and colleagues met their first marriage partners. A few met while at their first jobs. Very few came from wealth and the couples accumulated wealth through teamwork.

[Anonymous]

The guys OP is hunting for will present her with a prenup before a ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The guys OP is hunting for will present her with a prenup before a ring.

How do you know? What if OP is a 29-year old bombshell from a nice family working on her Phd? In any case, OP, even if you land a rich husband, make your own money, too. There are no free lunches in life. You'll learn this one way or another.

[Anonymous]

You are all so easy to troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The guys OP is hunting for will present her with a prenup before a ring.

How do you know? What if OP is a 29-year old bombshell from a nice family working on her Phd? In any case, OP, even if you land a rich husband, make your own money, too. There are no free lunches in life. You'll learn this one way or another.

I know an OP that was dating a divorced hedge fund partner and he insisted on her signing a prenup before he would agree to marry her. She finally signed it because it wasn’t going to happen otherwise. She has an amazing lifestyle now and a new baby. He had been through an expensive divorce and was already supporting three kids. These rich guys aren’t stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The guys OP is hunting for will present her with a prenup before a ring.

How do you know? What if OP is a 29-year old bombshell from a nice family working on her Phd? In any case, OP, even if you land a rich husband, make your own money, too. There are no free lunches in life. You'll learn this one way or another.

I know an OP that was dating a divorced hedge fund partner and he insisted on her signing a prenup before he would agree to marry her. She finally signed it because it wasn’t going to happen otherwise. She has an amazing lifestyle now and a new baby. He had been through an expensive divorce and was already supporting three kids. These rich guys aren’t stupid.

Prenups don’t do that much. Any millions he makes after marrying her is fair game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dress well, workout 2x a day and be the perfect wife material (bake, dress well). Some lawyer at a K street firm will pick you up. It worked for me...

This is ridiculous. You must be over 50. No one cares if a woman bakes. My ex-h attorney had a salary requirement for a wife. He could have cared less about domestic skills that can be hired out. Most men want equals. Not SAHM bakers.