Single at 29 - Are all the rich guys taken?

[Anonymous]

My husband earned 100k and I earned nothing. 6 years of marriage later, he earns 200k and I earn 40k.

I only started working last year. We decided to have kids first. Nothing in life is perfect but we also don't judge success by money.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn no one even tries to hide their greed anymore lol

New flash: no woman wants to marry someone living pay check to paycheck. Women that want a family universally
want a spouse that can provide enough financial stability to give them the choice of career flexibility and option to stay home for a time if needed or wanted

Why can't women do that by themselves?

Huh? How do you get financial stability to have the option to stay home with your baby and have a baby while you’re still young enough to avoid infertility? That’s a lot to accomplish in a few years after finishing school… I know no one who had enough to unilaterally quit before 30.

And you expect men to do the same? If you want a rich man who is also young you are delusional. Younger (<35) rich men usually get it from inheritance and they live in a different social social circle. Also they are not guaranteed to be lookers, which is important to women nowadays.

Bottom line, if you want a rich man to take care of you, be ready to compromise on his age. He could be post divorce with kids in the background. He could be ugly if he is young.

The idea is, the father keeps working… are you not familiar with traditional family dynamics?

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Anonymous wrote:Damn no one even tries to hide their greed anymore lol

New flash: no woman wants to marry someone living pay check to paycheck. Women that want a family universally
want a spouse that can provide enough financial stability to give them the choice of career flexibility and option to stay home for a time if needed or wanted

Why can't women do that by themselves?

Huh? How do you get financial stability to have the option to stay home with your baby and have a baby while you’re still young enough to avoid infertility? That’s a lot to accomplish in a few years after finishing school… I know no one who had enough to unilaterally quit before 30.

And you expect men to do the same? If you want a rich man who is also young you are delusional. Younger (<35) rich men usually get it from inheritance and they live in a different social social circle. Also they are not guaranteed to be lookers, which is important to women nowadays.

Bottom line, if you want a rich man to take care of you, be ready to compromise on his age. He could be post divorce with kids in the background. He could be ugly if he is young.

The idea is, the father keeps working… are you not familiar with traditional family dynamics?

Traditional is out the window hon. Just look at all the threads and common themes on this board. Time and time again women who give up their careers for SAHM regret it. The lesson they impart is: maintain your independence, do not stop working, have a financial plan to escape at first red flag etc...

This is why modern marriage is broken. True equality implies negotiation for every decision in family life from big decisions to mundane ones. That's not a way to live life. Smart couples agree on power dynamics and cede control of certain portions to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:^ my spouse was making $40-50k when we met and married. I was making $60k. We were 28/27.

Flash forward 5 years he was making $350k, me $100k. 5 more years he was making $500k and I maxed out at $170k. I still work.

He has only a bachelor’s degree.

Work on yourself. When you look at someone only as a dollar sign, you will never be happy or have a true love. You will be divorced after you spit out a couple of kids and complaining about your husband like the sahms on this forum.

What does he do with only a bachelor's degree? Sales?

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Anonymous wrote:I am op. I'm not trying to break up a home or marry a 50 year old billionaire. I'm trying to meet/marry a guy about my age on track to being rich when we start having kids. He doesn't have to be a billionaire. Looking for $500k+ in mid 30s, early 40s.

Surgeon. You can easily find a hospital job now with minimal education requirements

I am divorced and dating a surgeon. He does not want to settle down and he only dates attractive women….not Lena Dunham types.

Surgeons are notoriously sociopathic/narcissistic.

I am well aware (family full of doctors). I only mentioned it because someone suggested a surgeon for OP. I don’t recommend that profession for a spouse for anyone who wants to get married and have kids. I am not remarrying or having more kids or cohabitating, so it is fine for me.

Ok well she is looking for a husband making 500k+. Getting an associates in nursing or taking some hospital admin job is a lot easier and attainable to a basic 29 yr old than getting into Yale Law or Harvard business school.

Most surgeons will NOT date a nurse at the hospital.

That’s what you think- because they all quit ASAP and become SAHMs